Yesterday, I experienced the feeling of incontinence of tears for the first time. That's right, "Grandma's Grandson" killed me by pressing my head. In just two hours, the tears didn't stop. No matter how ruthless the person is, his body will warm up after reading it. Wh

Yesterday, for the first time, I experienced the feeling of incontinence of tears.

That's right, " grandma's grandson " will kill me by pressing my head. In just two hours, the tears didn't stop. No matter how ruthless the person is, his body will warm up after reading it.

When I saw the trailer, I knew it was an illustrated book of East Asian families. I didn’t expect it to be so typical. My son inherited the inheritance and my daughter inherited the cancer. It was very heartbreaking.

The vicious claws of Thai-style dog-blood are still reaching for the "adaptation of real events". It was released in the mainland for 5 days, and its Douban score reached 9.0. The life of East Asians trapped in family ties is vividly shown in this movie.

【1】

"Grandma's Grandson" tells a story that we are experiencing or someone around us is experiencing: an old man in a family with many children is about to die, how should the inheritance be distributed, and where will the family relationship go?

His grandson A'an (played by Ma Qunyao) dropped out of school to work as a game anchor at home, trying to live a life of over 10,000 yuan a month, but there were only a few people in the live broadcast room. The death of his grandfather allowed him to see his cousin's proud way of making money and taking care of his relatives until his death.

is not for anything else but to work hard with both hands to obtain the rich inheritance of the elders. However, the inheritance of East Asian families is not actually that easy to obtain.

To put it another way, in most Chinese families, money determines family ties, and status determines inheritance. This theme is also another Chinese translation title of this movie: Chinese Family.

A'an's ancestors immigrated to Thailand from Chaozhou, China, so on the one hand, grandma (played by Usa Samekam) is a very typical Chinese woman. On the other hand, she is also like most Like Chinese women, from birth to death, they are all troubled by their families.

This movie is cut from A'an's perspective, and through his initial purpose of fighting for the inheritance, the grandma's life of reconciliation is shown to the audience bit by bit.

Grandma has three children in total.

The eldest brother, Aqiang, has been speculating in stocks all day long, and has gained some returns. He is living a good life, with a wife who is not favored by his grandmother, and a lovely daughter;

, the second eldest brother, Axiu, works in a supermarket, and although his life is tight, it is not bad. Make do, and live in a small and cozy house with his son A'an;

It was not easy for An to find a status in such a family, but he still started his career as a full-time grandson with a lucky mentality.

As my cousin said, once your status is improved, the inheritance you receive can turn your bicycle into a motorcycle. But in the days when he spent time with his grandma, he gradually discovered a past that he didn't know about his grandma.

When she was young, my grandmother was forcibly married to a scumbag by her parents. In the marriage, she was an unpleasant woman. Later, her parents died and left the inheritance to her brother. She received nothing, and her brother's family lived a happy life. The water rose, but she and her fate were trapped little by little in the damp and cramped two-story building.

Despite this, grandma still tries her best to love her descendants "equally" in her own way.

【2】

My uncle Aqiang became ill when he was a child, so my grandmother began to believe in Buddhism and vowed not to eat beef in her life. Although her younger son owed a lot of gambling debts, she still sold a bowl of porridge for 10 yuan on her own. I paid off my younger son’s debt, and the days passed like this.

The role of the daughter is missing in the whole process of being loved. Even her kindness to grandma will be rejected or counterattacked on the spot. All the kindness of grandma to her daughter is transferred to her grandson A'an.

At the same time, A'an has been trying to find proof of his status in his grandma.

He first discovered that although the pomegranate tree at his grandma’s door had already produced fruit, he still refused to let his uncle pick it. He felt in his heart that the pomegranates must be reserved for his uncle. Then he discovered that he had tried hard to take care of his grandma for a long time, but his grandma still left the house to him. He killed the uncle who had accomplished nothing.

For An, this is something he cannot understand, because when the uncle's family took his grandma to worship Buddha and donate the coffin, the wishes he wrote down were all blessings for himself. When his uncle came to visit his grandma, he stole it away with a blind eye. I got the 200,000 cash that my grandma saved every penny.

Is the final result of love is to ask for rather than repay?

It’s not like grandma has never asked for it.

At the family dinner table every weekend, grandma would sit on the bench outside the house and wait for her children to arrive. She also hoped that they could stay and play a game of cards with her. What she asked for was the few time and money she had. accompany.

But except for my daughter and An, it seems that no one can really do this. For the two sons, visiting the old man is a kind of formality. They can see it in one minute, so there is no need to spend an hour delaying their own. time.

Not to mention the days of the Chinese New Year, a large table of meals on the 30th night, the seemingly lively and happy scene was followed by a long period of loneliness for grandma. The very heart-wrenching part of this story is that it is almost a portrayal of a Chinese family. When reunion When it becomes a task, there is no real feeling at all.

The grandma who has reached the end of her life has received more ardent care from her sons. She knows that this is something wrong, and she also tries to make up for it with her daughter. She tells the truest thoughts in her heart, and it is A'an who asks. Many times the answer to that question is: the inheritance is left to his son, but he would rather have his daughter by his side.

This is not a kind of dependence, but a rogue who is eager to protect his children, and a kind of moral kidnapping that ignores his efforts.

In my opinion, this is an absurd but true paradox. As women, we have lost the ability to empathize with each other under the same roof, turning into a meaningless reconciliation.

They repeated the same mistakes with others and never found a way to break the situation throughout their lives.

The inheritance of 1 million left to her grandson is a rounded closed loop, and it is also a life of subservience for women in a patriarchal society.

The reason why this clip of using a train to turn back time is touching, in my opinion, is because from the perspective of the audience, A'an's wish has come true, whether it is the reward of being the first in the exam for the first time, or being a full-time grandson. Salary, he got the "remuneration" he deserved.

Only A'an expressed the truth that "love is a constant feeling of debt" from a male perspective. He could have used the 1 million to live the life he once pursued, but he didn't. He knew that his grandma was worth every porridge and rice. It’s hard-earned, so I cherish the gold content of this 1 million even more.

It can be said that he was the one who won the lottery, but this fateful lottery ticket came back to his grandma in a roundabout way. What he fulfilled was the promise he made in the temple.

【3】

In this family, men long for dignity and status, but they do not long for love. What women long for in this family is recognition and being loved.

To be honest, this film is not warm and healing, but its high score is so nakedly deserved because it is real enough.

Following this topic, I would like to say one more thing. For southerners, the word grandma is not a commonly used family relationship word. We use the word grandma more often.

The movie was named "Grandma's Grandson" when it was first released. This name has also been used in the official posters of the Thai version. There is neither a literal translation nor a wrong translation.

Under the concept of continuing the family line, women are more like an important tool for reproduction in the family, and they are also a kind of "external surname". In the marriage relationship, the role of the woman's mother seems to be even less important. Most of the time we are trying to discuss It is often a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship rather than a mother-in-law relationship.

The grandmother with an unfortunate marriage, Axiu who is suppressed by work and family, the daughter-in-law with a low sense of presence in both directions, and the young granddaughter who speaks politely, the fate of the women in this family seems to be a certain known number.

last year wrote a movie " Yoko's Confusion" about three generations of women. It also tried to reconcile women of different generations in a family. Empathy is a natural character advantage of women, but in family relationships But it turned into a deadly chokehold weapon.

Women also long for answers in family relationships and long for love to come to them.

There is a very sad scene in "Grandma's Grandson". When grandma was lying in bed and tortured by illness, she dreamed of her parents and grandparents taking her home. At that moment, she was extremely eager to die, but An did not wake her up. she.

Because her family has been unresolved throughout her life.

Although A'an has grown up, his growth is also gratifying. The road to the burial of my grandma was so short, but she walked away from this life with her footsteps. The sons squeezed out a kind of absurd sadness, and the daughter's There was a look of reluctance but calmness on his face. Only An was relieved with a smile, and then burst into tears.

Whether others visit this tomb again or not is no longer important to him. He will sit on the tomb and scatter flowers randomly, waiting for the gusts of wind transformed by his grandma to blow by, and then help her clean it up.