In order to let go of the past, Bai Xiaohe decided to go to his ex-boyfriend's hometown to say goodbye to him in person, giving him an explanation of his five-year relationship and a sense of ending.
But the man didn't answer the phone or meet him. Bai Xiaohe returned without any results, as if he had disappeared from the world.
This journey was not fruitless, because Bai Xiaohe received a call from her ex-boyfriend on the train back.
With one phone call and one explanation, this relationship was completely overturned, and Bai Xiaohe also completely said goodbye to the past and welcomed a new life.
But why doesn’t that man even dare to meet him?
Why doesn’t that man even have a straight face in the drama?
It was such a character who didn't even have a straight face that left a deep impression on the audience.
I have to admire the director's ability in character creation. Not showing his face not only extinguished Bai Xiaohe's last hope, but also gave the audience endless imagination.
A "shadow" serving the protagonist
After watching this scene, I have been thinking about why the director arranged such a scene, arranging Bai Xiaohe's farewell, and arranging a scene where the ex-boyfriend only hears his voice but does not see him. There is only a back figure in the middle, making it difficult for people to see his appearance clearly.
And even so, the image of this character has become rich and three-dimensional because of that line.
If it shows up, it will destroy the imagination of this character. This is the director's brilliance.
In fact, there is no character Bai Xiaohe in the original work, nor is there any ex-boyfriend of Bai Xiaohe.
The appearance of Bai Xiaohe in the drama gave Huang Zhenhua some rich experience in relationships.
In fact, the only clear woman around Huang Zhenhua in the original work is Su Gengsheng.
But why does the TV series have to add scenes to Huang Zhenhua?
On the surface, it is to add drama to Huang Zhenhua. In fact, the relationship between Bai Xiaohe and her ex-boyfriend is to serve the relationship between the protagonist Mei Mei and Zhuang Guodong.
In fact, many supporting characters in TV series serve the protagonist. They represent some of the protagonist’s dark sides or shadows that the audience cannot see.
I think Bai Xiaohe’s ex-boyfriend is actually a shadow of Zhuang Guodong.
In the original work, Zhuang Guodong already had a fiancée when he fell in love with roses, and his fiancée was very similar to Bai Xiaohe. They were both very outstanding women with a cold and arrogant temperament. Not only were they talented, but they were also wealthy. natal family.
In the original work, Zhuang Guodong's fiancée is a perfect match for Zhuang Guodong no matter where you look at it.
In the end, although Zhuang Guodong was attracted to Rose, he did not love his fiancée but still chose to marry her.
Regarding this point, Rose said in the original work:
It’s not that he doesn’t love me, but he is too self-loving and selfish. He would rather be loved than love others, so he married someone else.
He is an extremely selfish person. In the original work of
, Zhuang Guodong chose to abandon Rose and marry a fiancée he did not love in order to become a "perfect man" in the eyes of the world.
Zhuang Guodong in the play is single without a fiancée. He likes roses, but he lost them in the end.
In the play, Bai Xiaohe's ex-boyfriend chose to abandon Bai Xiaohe who loved him in order to be a "filial son".
So in fact, Bai Xiaohe's ex-boyfriend in the play is actually a shadow of Zhuang Guodong.
The ending of Bai Xiaohe being abandoned actually implies that Zhuang Guodong will eventually lose the rose.
Because Zhuang Guodong and Bai Xiaohe's ex-boyfriend are both selfish. They both have one characteristic: they clearly love each other but cannot stay together.
And this inability to stay together is actually caused by the men themselves.
One of them wanted to be a filial son, the other wanted a future, and in the end they both lost the love of their lives.
Why doesn’t the ex-boyfriend dare to see Bai Xiaohe?
Bai Xiaohe came all the way to his hometown, but he chose to avoid seeing her. His phone was turned off and the person disappeared completely.
It wasn't until Bai Xiaohe finally got on the return train that he called to give an explanation and personally bring an end to this relationship.
Facing the familiar voice on the other end of the phone, Bai Xiaohe asked:
"Isn't it okay to say goodbye to everyone in person?"
Yes, isn't it okay to say goodbye to someone in person? Why is he so afraid to meet him?
You must know that he can accurately know when Xiaohe will go back, and call when Xiaohe leaves. This shows that he has known that Xiaohe is coming, and even secretly observes her every move, and even knows what she is. Time to leave, time to board the train.
He knows everything, but he has been avoiding Xiaohe. He clearly knows that Xiaohe just wants to meet and say goodbye, so why does he avoid seeing her?
There are three reasons here.
First: As a "shadow" of the protagonist, his absence adds to the imagination and richness of the character. At the same time, this character is actually a "shadow" of Zhuang Guodong. Since he is a "shadow", there is no need to show his face.
Second: His character is more in line with the setting of not showing up. The reason why he left Xiaohe was because he had low self-esteem. He felt that he was not worthy of Xiaohe, so he did not show up because he was afraid that he would be shaken.
Third: He was about to get married at that time. He chose not to show up to respect his fiancée. He did not love his fiancée but chose to respect her and be a worldly "perfect person". The ruthlessness behind this seemingly affectionate nature is also human. A complexity and an irony.
"Ex-boyfriend's attitude" is a metaphor for Zhuang Guodong's ending
On Xiaohe's way back, his ex-boyfriend called and gave this explanation:
"You see, this is where I grew up, and you are a big city. Girl, you don’t understand my pressure and low self-esteem.
My family introduced me to a local girl. We have been together for a few months. If nothing happens, I will marry her and forget about me. Don’t meet her again. .
The years I spent with you overdrawn my life's happiness. I don't deserve that kind of life at all. I'm sorry Xiaohe, I shouldn't have known you from the beginning. "
Actually, think about this sentence carefully. You will find that there is a deep "despair" in it. Why is
"desperate"?
He obviously wanted to be a "filial son", but he was selfish and abandoned this relationship for his own selfish desires. Why is
"desperate"?
He was clearly the one who proposed the breakup.
As Rose's boss Tina said in the play:
"The person who breaks up first is often the one who is hurt the most, because he has accumulated enough disappointment before he is determined to say goodbye."
Yes, Bai Xiaohe's breakup is The ex-boyfriend proposed breaking up because he was disappointed in himself.
The breakup between Rose and Zhuang Guodong was initiated by Rose because Rose was disappointed with Zhuang Guodong.
The words of Bai Xiaohe's ex-boyfriend revealed three pieces of information:
First: He was extremely disappointed in himself because he could not cross the worldly gap and be with the woman he loved.
You must know that Bai Xiaohe once thought about returning to his hometown for him, and thought about solving the practical problem of the gap between their realities, but this man gave up.
Second: In the face of love and reality, he chose reality.
He was an only son. He wanted to be a filial son, so he returned to his hometown. He wanted to be a good son in the eyes of his parents, so he chose to marry someone he didn't love.
Third: He said that knowing Xiaohe has overdrawn his life's happiness. He said that he should never have known Xiaohe from the beginning. That's because from the first day of their relationship, he knew that he would not marry Bai Xiaohe. What was even more sad was that he selfishly took up five years of her youth.
So the ex-boyfriend’s words actually metaphor Zhuang Guodong’s fate.
Because even if Zhuang Guodong had the opportunity to go to Paris after meeting Rose, he would still choose to go abroad.
Although he said he didn't know how, he later applied for permanent residence.
He even wanted Rose to give up everything in the country and be with him in France. He felt that Rose's work was not important. He felt that Rose's life should revolve around him.
He selfishly occupied Rose's most beautiful youth, but he never really thought about Rose. He never really understood Rose, just like Bai Xiaohe's ex-boyfriend could never integrate into Bai Xiaohe's family in the face of the huge reality gap.
is just a selfish person who feels that no matter how hard he tries, he can't do it, and the other is a selfish person who doesn't want to work hard.
So Rose finally figured out that she and Zhuang Guodong seemed to be very close, but in fact they were two completely different people.
She couldn't give up her domestic ties, while Zhuang Guodong just wanted to go abroad to prove his ability in front of his mother.
So from the beginning, Zhuang Guodong knew that he could not give Rose the life she wanted, but he still occupied the best Rose.
So in the end he lost the rose and the love of his life. In the end, no matter whether he would get married or not, his ending was the same as Bai Xiaohe's ex-boyfriend, who chose to give up the love of his life.
The relationship they once gave up will be the happiest memory in their later lives, and in the end they will live numbly and decently like most people.
When Bai Xiaohe finished saying goodbye to his ex-boyfriend, he gave himself a decent explanation.
She said to Huang Zhenhua:
"I vomited for a whole day after I came back. I have completely figured it out. Now, I just want to study hard.
After I graduate with my Ph.D., I want to find a research institute abroad and be quiet. I only want to do experiments and research, and don’t think about anything else.”
It was obvious that Bai Xiaohe had let go of that relationship at this time. Although he was sad, he was free and easy.
There is a detail here, that is, Bai Xiaohe vomited for a whole day after coming back. This is not motion sickness, but a way to vent his sadness.
The stomach is an emotional organ. Some people will have stomach pains when they are sad. After Bai Xiaohe came back from there, she vomited for a day, which shows that she was very reluctant to say goodbye to this relationship.
But even so, after she regained her strength, she was still the cold, arrogant and beautiful Bai Xiaohe.
She will not be immersed in this memory. She has new plans for her future, studying abroad, a new life, a new life.
She is so free and easy because she has worked hard, fought hard, and loved passionately. Therefore, she has no regrets and is magnanimous, so she can travel lightly to meet the new journey of life.
Similarly, after Rose left Zhuang Guodong, she also chose to study, meet a new life, and fall in love with different people. Zhuang Guodong just became a passerby when he was young.
And Zhuang Guodong will never meet anyone who loves him more than Rose in his life.
Therefore, the attitude of Bai Xiaohe's ex-boyfriend hints at Zhuang Guodong's regretful ending in his life.
