If the small hole is not repaired, the big hole will suffer.
She had a haggard face and hurried steps. She was walking on the road in the community carrying a vegetable bag, not even bothering to say hello to acquaintances. Her husband, who was paralyzed in bed at home, was waiting for her to take care of her. One winter day a few years ago, she was walking through the green space of the community holding a box of liquor. Several neighbors saw her and asked her about it. She said excitedly that the Chinese New Year was almost here and the supermarket was having a sale! Neighbors said, didn’t your old man have a stroke? Why are you still drinking liquor? She said, it's fine now, if he wants to eat, let him eat. Some neighbors said, "I need to stop drinking after I get better. Hasn't the doctor taken care of me?"
She smiled. She is sixty or seventy years old. She is not allowed to eat this or drink that. How uncomfortable it is. Let it go. After she walked by, the neighbors all shook their heads: "It's high-quality liquor, and I even bought a box of it. Don't get sick of it, old man!" As expected, unfortunately he was right. One day during the Spring Festival, the old man suffered another stroke and was rushed to the hospital. His life was finally saved, but he was paralyzed and aphasic. For several years, he was paralyzed in bed and could only rely on nasal feeding to maintain his life. A moment of willfulness, in exchange for so much pain! Neighbors who know the basics often sigh when they look at her figure.
There is an idiom called Qutu Migongxin, which comes from a fable in the "Book of Han·Huo Guang Biography" written by Ban Gu of the Eastern Han Dynasty. A man visited a friend's house and found that his friend's stove had a straight chimney and a lot of firewood piled next to the stove. The man suggested to the owner that the chimney should be changed into a curved one and that firewood should not be piled next to the stove, otherwise it would easily cause a fire. But the owner ignored the suggestion. Not long after, his house caught fire. Neighbors came to put out the fire and finally put out the fire. In order to thank everyone for their help, he held a banquet to entertain those who came to put out the fire, except for the friend who had advised him. Someone told him that if you had listened to your friend's advice, this fire would not have happened. It can be seen that willful people who cannot listen to the advice of others often have cognitive problems.
Many years ago, I visited Tilanqiao Prison. Learn about the lives and work of some prisoners. What impressed me the most was the speech given by a prison inmate to the visitors. He told the audience how he gradually transformed from a senior naval officer to a corrupt criminal. His speech was unscripted, sincere, analytical, well-founded and without falsehoods. I remember what he said at the end: Looking back on the crimes he committed, the most important thing is that he indulged his own selfish desires. It has become a habit to go his own way. Now one mistake has turned into eternal regret. I really regret it!
A young mother told me such a thing. Once, the couple took their four-year-old son to have afternoon tea. There are a wide variety of drinks in the store. She said to her son, "We all choose the same. You have to think about it, you can only have one kind." The child nodded and pointed to one of the orange juices and said he wanted to eat this. Not long after everyone sat down, they suddenly heard someone calling Xiaoer at the corner. It turned out to be his kindergarten friend. The child walked over and asked the girl what she was eating. The girl pointed to the coconut milk in the cup and said, "I'll drink this, it's delicious." So the child turned back and asked his mother to buy him a cup of coconut water. When the mother didn't agree, the child started crying. At this time, the little girl's mother rushed over and said, "Baby, don't cry, don't cry. Auntie will buy it for you...
" The young mother said, of course, she cannot let her child do whatever she wants. They quickly took the child out of the store, returned home and gave the child a hard education. "We want him to understand from an early age that his words must count, he must abide by the rules, and he must not indulge his own desires." Yes, there are some things that young children may not understand, but adults should understand. As the saying goes, if a small hole is not repaired, a big hole will suffer. (Xu Huifen)
