If you don’t do your homework, a loving mother and a filial son
Once you do your homework, everything will go crazy
When you are going to tutor
Your "Ma Liuzi" to do homework
No matter who you are
I suggest you be mentally prepared
Or hold on The Buddhist mentality of "forget it"
Otherwise...
On April 12,
actor Guan Ling posted a video on Douyin
saying that when he was tutoring his children with homework
he was so angry that he was sent to the hospital
which triggered a heated discussion among netizens
In the video, she said, "I only tutored the second-grade composition and sixth-grade reading comprehension, and just discussed with them how to do their homework. As a result, before going to bed at night, I felt angina, tightness, and couldn't breathe. "I'm so angry."
Fortunately, Guan Ling was fine after being checked by the hospital.
She also told her at the end of the video: "Dear mothers, please don't get angry when doing homework. It's okay to do what's right and what's wrong. It's okay." Don't be angry. When I walked out of the hospital with the report, I no longer felt that the score of the second unit exam was important, nor did I feel anxious about not being able to write an essay. I suddenly saw that raising a baby is a process of upgrading and fighting monsters. Today I I have also upgraded. Be more open and happy. Your body is the most important! "
" I will go to the hospital after the homework!
I will try my best not to be angry when I do the homework.
I must silently say 'My dearest child' '."
Guan Ling, born in Beijing on April 8, 1982, is a mainland actress, director, and host. She graduated from Beijing Institute of Technology with a master's degree.
In 1993, Guan Ling became popular as "Jia Yuanyuan" in China's first sitcom "I Love My Family". Later, she guest-starred in many sitcoms such as "The Idle Person Ma Sister".
Netizen comments
Many parents are in danger of "giving propositions" when tutoring their children!
According to previous media reports,
there are not a few parents who have been admitted to the hospital for helping their children with homework.
Distal fracture of the fifth metacarpal bone
In 2022, when Mr. Wu, a 36-year-old man in Hangzhou, was tutoring his son with homework, he was so angry that he hammered the table and was admitted to the hospital. The reporter learned from Hangzhou First People's Hospital that Mr. Wu's right palm was swollen and tender when he was diagnosed. X-ray examination showed that the distal end of the fifth metacarpal bone was fractured and the broken end was obviously displaced, requiring hospitalization.
Mr. Wu’s x-ray examination results
“Don’t think that the fist is very hard, in fact, the fifth metacarpal bone is very fragile.” Fan Xiaoliang, deputy director of the Orthopedics Department of Hangzhou First People’s Hospital, said that fifth metacarpal bone fractures are common hand fractures, and most of them are It is caused by direct trauma while making a fist, also known as "boxer's fracture", and is often injured due to sports activities, collisions and fights.
Cerebral infarction, post-stroke depression
49-year-old Mr. No longer recognized.
Mr. Xia rushed to the hospital and was diagnosed with cerebral infarction. While he was in the hospital, he suffered from "post-stroke depression" because he was worried that his child would not learn well.
On January 8, 2022, 46-year-old Ms. Li from Nanjing became emotional while tutoring her son with homework. She became dizzy and fell to the ground. After examination, she was diagnosed with a stroke, that is, acute cerebral infarction. Fortunately, he was sent to the hospital in time. The doctor immediately performed intravenous thrombolytic treatment, and the patient's blood vessels were unblocked. After 6 days of hospitalization, he recovered and was discharged.
Wang Lingling, deputy chief physician of the Department of Neurology at Nanjing Brain Hospital, described Ms. Li's condition at the time, "She could not move her hands and feet at all, and the patient could not speak. Sudden paralysis of any part of the limbs, slow reaction, and inability to speak. These suggest that we have an acute cerebrovascular disease. Performance."
Tutoring children with homework
Parents must not get too emotional.
Tutoring children with homework will lead to collapse?
Children's unsatisfactory learning results
Is it difficult to improve their grades?
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"Unsatisfactory grades" ≠ "Learning "Difficulties"
Zhang Lili, deputy chief physician of the Health Center of the Children's Hospital Affiliated to the Capital Institute of Pediatrics, introduced that "unsatisfactory performance" does not mean "learning difficulties."
Learning difficulties in a narrow sense refer to specific learning skill obstacles, that is, at the same intelligence level There is a gap between the child's ability and that of other peers, which leads to unsatisfactory learning, including obstacles in listening, speaking, reading, writing, reasoning, and mathematical abilities.
Learning difficulties in a broad sense refer to intellectual problems and audio-visual perception problems. Abnormalities, neurological development problems, emotional and behavioral problems, family environment factors and educational disadvantages cause syndromes of poor learning.
The doctor said that about 1/3 of the children she received did not have learning difficulties.
In addition, about 2/3 of the children who do have learning difficulties
are diagnosed with ADHD
How to scientifically deal with "learning difficulties"?
Doctors say that learning difficulties caused by different reasons need to be targeted and targeted.
If it is caused by a disease, medical treatment is required. Pathologically, 1/3 of the children will recover by themselves, while the other 1/3 to half will still have symptoms in adulthood. If it affects social functions, there is no need to take medicine later.
If the learning difficulties are caused by family environment and education factors, the treatment will focus on improving the school and family raising environment.
Parents should not take advantage of their children if their performance is not satisfactory.
Unsatisfactory results certainly make parents anxious, but they don’t need to be too sensitive.
For example, some children have weak abilities to receive and understand information. Parents can focus on strengthening them when raising their children, but they must not teach their children beyond their normal growth and development range. Content. Weaknesses need to be strengthened, but over-strengthening may be counterproductive and cause children to resist and reject.
If the child does not meet the standards and the parents do not improve his ability, but are just anxious to give him a higher goal, it may cause the child to have problems. The following three situations:
The first is an inferiority complex
There are deviations in self-evaluation and cognition
The second is resistance to communicating with parents
Leading to the deterioration of the parent-child relationship
The third is the instinct of self-protection
Becoming indifferent and numb
Psychological counselor Remind
that educating children requires certain skills. For example, during the learning process, you can set up some interesting links to give children a sense of accomplishment.
What problems have you encountered when tutoring your children with homework?
What are some good ways to help children with their homework?
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Source: Guangzhou Daily Comprehensive from: @Guanling, Metropolis Express, Sanxiang Metropolis Daily, The Paper, Jiangsu News, CCTV News Client, Voice of China
