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Jingdu Jun’s General Dictionary has 2067 entries online.
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A few days ago, a girl posted an article complaining about her boyfriend because she didn’t treat him to a meal worth 1,000 yuan. My boyfriend got angry.
The girl said that her family conditions are average, and her boyfriend's family conditions are better than hers. During the relationship, her boyfriend shouldered most of the expenses, which was about four to five thousand a month.
Her boyfriend’s original living expenses were 3,000 yuan. After falling in love, if he didn’t have enough money, he could ask for it from his family, while she herself had a fixed amount of 1,500 yuan per month.
Therefore, from a girl’s perspective, her two thousand yuan is equivalent to her boyfriend’s twenty thousand yuan, which means that her boyfriend can spend thousands of yuan casually, but her money needs to be spent carefully.
The conflict between the two people came from a part-time job.
is a girl who majored in video editing. During this period, she helped others edit videos outside and earned 2,000 yuan in two months.
After her salary arrived, she and her boyfriend were very happy and agreed to go out on a date the next day.
At this time, my boyfriend suggested that we eat Japanese food when we meet tomorrow.
The girl readily responded that there was no problem.
They had planned all the dating procedures for the day. They were originally happy, but suddenly their boyfriend's words broke the happy atmosphere.
02
The boyfriend said: "You treat me. I found a 499 self-service restaurant."
The boy explained that the girl had never treated him to a meal after being in love for so long. The girl just made money before returning home during the winter vacation, so he wanted to treat her to a meal. .
At this time, although she had already said that it was Japanese food, the girl suddenly asked: "Japanese food?"
She told her boyfriend that she wanted to eat hot pot.
The boy asked if Haidilao was Haidilao. The girl said that Haidilao was too expensive. She saw a group purchase at a hot pot restaurant online, and a meal for three people only cost 199.
She asked her boyfriend if he wanted to eat hot pot tomorrow, and she would treat him.
The boyfriend said that he still wanted to eat Japanese food, and the girl replied: "Japanese food is not delicious."
The boy explained that this Japanese food restaurant is not very expensive, and the one he took the girl to eat before cost 799 yuan per person.
The girl was still reluctant to spend the money. The boyfriend thought about it and found that his girlfriend had never treated him to a meal.
The girl tried to convince her boyfriend: "Hot pot is also delicious."
The boy said that he just took the girl to eat Haidilao a few days ago. The girl said that this store is not Haidilao, and the boy was speechless.
The boy said that he had covered all other expenses, so the girl couldn’t even treat her to a meal?
Seeing that her boyfriend didn't let go, the girl suggested that she transfer 499 yuan to the boy, order takeout for herself in the dormitory, and then go out to watch a movie and have a date.
She explained that she was not used to eating Japanese food raw, "Japanese food tastes terrible."
Her boyfriend said that when she ate it before, the girl said it tasted delicious, but why did she say it tasted bad now.
The girl said that it was because the boy took her to eat, and she was embarrassed to say it.
At this point, my boyfriend was angry. He felt that the girl was stingy. He spent several "two thousand yuan" during the relationship but didn't think anything of it. As a result, his girlfriend was unwilling to pay even 1,000 yuan.
03
The girl posted this incident online, thinking that her boyfriend was being unreasonable. She even said that she could give him money to eat, but she still refused to let him go.
But netizens don’t think so. Netizens have said that if girls think this way, then they shouldn’t be so comfortable spending each other’s money before.
Everyone thinks that it is understandable for girls to think that the 499 yuan buffet is expensive, but since 499 yuan is considered expensive, why did they accept to eat 799 yuan of Japanese food with their boyfriends before?
At first, the boy didn't say anything about the girl's treat, but the girl agreed to eat Japanese food. After learning that she had to treat herself, she immediately said that she didn't like Japanese food. The inconsistent appearance of
all stems from the difference in who pays the money.
If a boy paid for it, then the girl would definitely be willing to eat it; now that it was her turn, she would immediately slap her in the face and say she didn't like it.
As the saying goes, don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you, this inevitably means that it doesn’t matter if you spend other people’s money, but it’s not okay to spend your own money. To put it simply, it’s a bit of an advantage.
No one’s money comes from strong winds, not even the money earned by girls, nor the money earned by boys.
The girl feels that the boy's 20,000 yuan is equivalent to her own 2,000 yuan, so even if most of the expenses during the relationship were paid by the boy, she feels at ease. However, if you insist on calculating the living expenses of the two, it is actually only twice the difference. There isn't much difference.
Girl's thinking is a bit of a double standard.
Previously, a girl complained on the Internet that her boyfriend’s monthly salary was 20,000 yuan, but he refused to reimburse her for the 2,000 yuan she bought during Double Eleven.
The boyfriend had promised to reimburse him before, but he did not say how much he would reimburse, so the girl planned to use one-tenth of the boy's salary to buy it. Although she finally bought more than 6,000 yuan, she only asked the boy to reimburse 2,000 yuan.
is the same as the previous men and women. In this couple, the boy’s salary is much higher than that of the girl, so the boy bears most of the expenses during the relationship. During the
chat, the boy asked the girl how much she spent on Double Eleven, and the girl said six thousand.
The boy didn’t reply for about 20 minutes, probably because he was afraid that the boy wouldn’t reimburse him, so the girl just offered to reimburse her two thousand, saying that it’s not easy for boys to make money.
But even so, the boy felt that two thousand was too much. He only spent 500 yuan, so he only wanted to be reimbursed 500 yuan.
He transferred 500 yuan to the girl, and the girl immediately accepted it, and then asked for the remaining 1,500 yuan.
The two sides were in a stalemate, arguing with each other. The man felt that the woman took this opportunity to kill him, and the woman felt that two thousand was only one-tenth of the boy's salary, which was not much.
One of them can't afford to give, but he makes money, and the other collects money very quickly, and then licks his face and chases for the remaining one thousand and fifty. He has no self-esteem at all. I can only say that both of them are very difficult to describe.
04
On Zhihu, someone asked: What is the most taboo thing between men and women? A highly praised answer from
is that just one word is "greedy", and I want everything.
There are always people who want too much, demand too much from others, and demand too little from themselves.
Whether it is love or other relationships, you should not just think about taking, but you need to give to each other.
Even if someone is willing to pay for you, you should not accept it with peace of mind.
If you know from the beginning that you cannot give him corresponding rewards, then you should not take advantage of others as they should. When dealing with others, you should have a heart of gratitude and empathy.
In this world, everything needs to be exchanged of equal value, and intimate relationships are no exception. You have to pay as much as you get.
encourage each other.
