's No. 1 high-scoring drama on Douban recently is "She and Her She". In the hearts of many audiences, this is their favorite Taiwanese drama after " The Story of the Cultivation of a Common Girl ". In recent years, Taiwanese dramas have repeatedly surprised audiences with their realistic expressions. It faces sharp and sensitive realistic issues, and its novel and creative forms of expression allow the audience to see the great potential of realistic themes. And "She and Her She" once again let us see the bold, delicate and innovative choices of Taiwanese dramas on female themes. The female consciousness that burst out warms every woman who intersects with it.
"She and Her" starts with a murder case, which seems to be a suspense drama; when the heroine enters a different time and space, it is misunderstood that this is a science fiction drama; but when the plot enters the final stage, the plot core gradually gradually After the show, the audience suddenly realized that this is a "Fang Siqi" story. The parallel time and space in the play is actually imagined by the heroine after suffering from dissociation disorder after being violated.
More than that, "She and Her" also clearly presents the ubiquitous misogyny mechanisms in society, such as domestic violence, slut humiliation, and workplace sexual harassment. "She and Her She" bravely and clearly unveils this veil, and also sincerely and warmly conveys the hope of rebuilding the self to those women who have been destroyed. In the play
, Xu Weining plays the heroine Lin Chenxi, who works in a headhunting company and is a professional ace in the company. Lin Chenxi's personal life is a bit lonely. She has a cold relationship with her colleagues, and her relationship with her boyfriend Li Haoming ( Li Chengbin ) who loves her deeply has also entered a period of burnout. After an unexpected car accident, Lin Chenxi finds herself entering another time and space. In this time and space, Lin Chenxi did not leave her hometown of Yilan to go to work in Taipei. Instead, she worked as a tutor in the local remedial class and lived a peaceful and happy life with her family. Could it be that she imagined that Lin Chenxi in Taipei? And a happy life is full of flaws. With the deepening of the investigation into the death of Xie Zhizhong, a middle school physics and chemistry teacher, Lin Chenxi gradually "wakes up" from the fantasy world - it turns out that Taipei is the reality, and the one in Yilan is just a world of dissociation.
Lin Chenxi suffers from severe dissociative disorder, which is the sequelae of her great mental trauma after she was sexually assaulted by a cram school teacher Xie Guohua when she was in middle school. It can be said that Lin Chenxi is another Fang Siqi, and also another Lin Yihan . And the stories of Fang Siqi and Lin Yihan are deeply regrettable and resentful no matter when and where they are brought up. Five years ago, a novel called " Fang Siqi's first love paradise " caused a sensation in Taiwan. The novel is very cruel. It tells the story of a 13-year-old middle school girl who is seduced by a cram school teacher. The reality outside the novel is also extremely distressing: the author of the book, Lam Yihan, a young, beautiful and talented female writer born in 1991, died in April 2017 less than 3 months after the book was published. He committed suicide by hanging on the 27th.
After Lin Yihan passed away, her parents revealed the truth to the media: "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise" is Lin Yihan's "self-report" that she was seduced by a tutor when she was a teenager. In real life, Lin Yihan is the daughter of a famous doctor in Tainan. She obtained a "full grade" in the high school test. After being admitted to the medical department of a famous school, she dropped out and re-examined to enter the Chinese department of a famous school. In terms of performance, she is a "child from someone else's family". . But in fact, after the seduction incident, she couldn't get out of the mental trauma, fell into a mental illness for a long time, and finally destroyed her. From Fang Siqi, Lin Yihan to Lin Chenxi, such stories are still happening. At onceAs Lin Yihan said before his death: "There is often a wish that this kind of thing will not happen again in human history, but when I write it, I am very sure, not to mention the world, Taiwan, such things will continue to happen, now, Right now, it's also happening."
In a society where misogyny is everywhere, the insulted and damaged "Fang Siqi" exists around you and me, it may be you or me.
Just imagine, if Fang Siqi, Lin Yihan and Lin Chenxi, when they were hurt, immediately called the police, the bad guys would be brought to justice immediately, wouldn't the damage last for years and become irreversible? However, the astonishing fact is that the alarm rate of women after sexual assault has been around 5%. Many countries and regions have been hovering around this number for a long time, and the alarm rate is very low. For example, the "National Survey on Sexual and Reproductive Health of College Students" shows that only 3.88%3.88% of college students choose to report to the crime after encountering sexual assault, and most of the victims often choose to swallow it up after the injury. In
"She and Her", Lin Chenxi is very brave. After she was sexually assaulted, she quickly informed her parents about it. But her most trusted parents did not believe her at this time. Especially her father, who constantly questioned her: isn't the teacher kind to you? You are lying, right? When Lin Chenxi strongly denied her actions, her father began to deny her actions: why didn't you resist? Why didn't you tell Teacher Xie no? Is there something wrong with you?
After asking her parents for help, Lin Chenxi chose to call the police. They are afraid of making things bigger, affecting their daughter's "reputation" and destroying the peace of the family. The perpetrator, Teacher Xie, seized on this mentality of Lin Chenxi's parents, and boasted that "it's not good for you if it's going to be a big trouble".
Lin Chenxi was most disappointed and heartbroken. After her friend accidentally spread the news, the teacher invited her father, who berated her in front of the teacher, not only denying the truth, but also It is said that this is a rumor fabricated by Lin Chenxi due to excessive study pressure. After being violated, was hurt or even humiliated twice by the closest person. This is a common experience of many sexually assaulted people. 's close family did not question why he wanted to violate them, but accused her of not resisting, using the theory of victim guilt to infer what was wrong with her, taking the fact that she was injured as a "shame" that they dared not be humane, and only wanted to She was whitewashing Taiping without really thinking about her pain, the support she needed.
Lin Chenxi's painful experience, nakedly exposed the "misogyny" of the social mechanism. misogyny has two connotations. One is that men objectify women, and men stare at, belittle, loathe, exclude, and trample women. Xie Guohua's misogyny is evil and shameless, while Lin Chenxi's father's misogyny shows his ignorance. followed by women's self-deprecation andDisgust is mutual harm and conflict between women. Many women accept the discipline of misogyny, and even internalize it as a way of thinking and value standards for women. They not only hate themselves, but also hate other women. They are victims and accomplices, such as Mrs. Xie. The mechanism of misogyny is not only at play in extreme events, it is a structural problem that is often seen in everyday life. For example, "She and Her She" presents all kinds of misogyny encountered by women in life and in the workplace.
Wu Kangren played the workplace airborne soldier Du Junru, who is a typical gentle scum, not only repeatedly sexually harassing Lin Chenxi, but also shouting in the company that Lin Chenxi is pestering him, which is chilling. The other company that Lin Chenxi planned to change to was no better, and the company culture still devalues women everywhere. For example, at the beginning, Lin Chenxi was required to be married before she could enter the job, thinking that a single and beautiful woman like her would cause trouble in the company; the female supervisor believed that it was irresponsible for women in the workplace to become pregnant, and asked women to be on call at all times during maternity leave, otherwise she would be "Wage thief"; another example, asking the girls in the business department to accompany the wine, and so on.
and Jia Jingwen plays Du Junru's wife Yan Shenghua, she is also Lin Chenxi's senior sister. In the past, she and Lin Chenxi were both victims of sexual assault, but now she has become a victim of domestic violence. Many traumatized women are not saved, and they can easily fall into learned helplessness and become victims again. The misogyny mechanism is getting more reassuring.
How exactly does one fight the ingrained mechanism of misogyny? How can we help those girls who have been hurt so that they can rebuild themselves? First of all, when the injury happens, please stand by her side immediately, please tell her that it is not her fault, please help her fight back immediately, please give her more support and love. As the lines in the play say, "animal's instinct to be attacked is to attack, run away, and stay still", and the same is true for humans. If she encounters harm, relatives and friends just want to calm down rather than fight with her, and even the victim is guilty, just like she continues to be attacked after being hurt, and there is nowhere to run. This secondary injury will only exacerbate the mental trauma of the victim.
"Fang Siqi's Paradise of First Love" gives all readers such an exhortation, "Patience is not a virtue, but taking patience as a virtue is how this hypocritical world maintains its distorted order, and anger is a virtue." Her She also reminds this again: in the face of the mechanism of misogyny, anger is a virtue, and resistance is also a virtue. Only anger and resistance can restrain the misogyny, and it is possible to defeat it. One's strength is limited, we need mutual help. Whether it is "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise" or "She and Her She", the women's mutual assistance is touching. Women in the same sense of physiology and sociology, many times, women can more deeply feel the discrimination, difficulties and pains encountered by women. So girls, please stand with your sisters, speak up, and use the power of sisterhood to subvert male-dominant discourse and build a weapon of femininity.
Patriarchy is the enemy, but not all men are the enemy. Fighting against the mechanism of misogyny is inseparable from the participation of men, and the realization of women's liberation also requires the help of men. In "She and Her She", Li Haoming's unconditional support and his brother's silent protection also gave Lin Chenxi the courage to walk out of the haze.
If the women who are hurt still can't get out of the haze? Mental trauma cannot be healed by healing. As Lin Chenxi said, "I use willpower to get myself back on the right track, but my soul is falling apart all the time." It was never her fault that couldn't get rid of the pain. When her soul is still stuck, please continue to pull her and she will be able to get out.
We also have to face up to regret: Lin Chenxi, who is struggling to rebuild himself, and Fang Siqi and Lin Yihan, who are sinking into the dark. How I longed for them to know that they were always loved. "loved by the whole world, loved by the sun, loved by the waves that hit each other". Please stay alive and shout out and keep asking for help. Sunlight will eventually penetrate the haze, and waves will respond to another wave.
