Wu Qiong is a well-known " Huangmei Opera Queen", known as the "Golden Voice of Huangmei Opera", and won the China "Magnolia" Drama Performance Art Award.
In fact, her road to success was not smooth. She used to be frustrated and sing popular songs.
Looking back in time, she was fortunate to meet the most important man in her life, her husband Ruan Xun, who was 15 years younger than him, and she got along with her mother-in-law like sisters.
Although Wu Qiong has regrets because she has no biological children, her life has always been in her own hands, and she has lived a persistent and wonderful life. Her secrets to getting along with her mother-in-law are worth sharing.
Early experience
Looking at Wu Qiong's life, it can be said that he has achieved remarkable results.
Born in 1962, she is from Fanchang County, Anhui Province. In 1980, 18-year-old Wu Qiong graduated from Anhui Art School and entered Anhui Huangmei Drama Theater.
In 1984, her album "Wu Qiong Huangmei Opera Golden Melody" won the gold medal in the first National Grand Prix, and the next year she won the Best Performance Award in the National Huangmei Opera Competition.
In 1992, Wu Tan moved to the music scene, and in the same year he won the Popular Singing Silver Award in the National Youth Singer TV Grand Prix.
In 2008, Wu Qiong held the first solo concert in the history of Huangmei Opera; in 2012, she won the China "Magnolia" Drama Performance Art Award; International Stage Performing Arts Awards...
Although Wu Qiong has achieved so many achievements, she was often beaten and scolded by her mother when she was a child. Wu Qiong, who likes to sing since childhood, dreams of being a singer. But this idea was strongly opposed by the mother.
At that time, my father was sent to the countryside, and my mother took her and her sister alone, and life was very difficult. In the eyes of the grumpy mother, singing is unstable and is not a proper job. She only hopes that her daughter can live a peaceful and stable life. In order to prevent her daughter from singing, she even locked Wu Qiongguan at home and prevented her from going out.
's mother's attitude continued until Wu Qiong was 13 years old. That year, Anhui Huangmei Opera School recruited students, and her mother agreed for Wu Qiong to sign up for the first time, and Wu Qiong was admitted by virtue of her singing voice.
The young Wu Qiong was a little fat, which made her not stand out in a school full of beautiful girls. Wu Qiong was also well aware of her own shortcomings in appearance, so she worked hard to improve herself in terms of ability.
No matter whether it is cold or hot, Wu Qiong is the first to get up, and then practice her voice to the apricot tree. Because she likes Yan Fengying 's singing, she imitates it for several years. Wu Qiong's efforts were not in vain, and she soon became the best among her classmates. After
entered the Huangmei Theater, in the process of changing old and new, Wu Qiong seized the opportunity timely and became the pillar of the troupe.
The reason why Wu Qiong later moved to the music world was due to the problem of appearance. At that time, among the five golden flowers in Huangmei Opera, Wu Qiong's singing skills were the best, but because her appearance was not amazing enough, she was robbed by others.
Wu Qiong feels that it is difficult for him to develop further in the field of Huangmei Opera. At the age of 29, she came to Beijing to study at the China Conservatory of Music.
Wu Qiong, who is arrogant and arrogant, wants to win a place in the music world, but this road is full of hardships for her.
's bleak life in Beidriu has made her suffer a lot. With her tenacity, Wu Qiong has also made a name for herself in the pop music world, but at this time, her mother was paralyzed by a cerebral hemorrhage. The dual pressures of caring, family and career overwhelm her.
In those ten years, Wu Qiong had an extremely difficult life. Her reputation in the music world was not very loud, but her mother left. The death of her mother made her miss the days of singing Huangmei Opera more and more. After all, Huangmei Opera is her root and her destiny!
Wu Qiong, who had figured it out, turned around resolutely and returned to Huangmei Opera just like when he switched careers to learn pop songs. After
met the fate of this life
returned to Huangmei Opera, Wu Qiong opened her golden age. Although she is no longer confused, Wu Qiong has the strength to not admit defeat. She is willing to endure hardships, not afraid of being tired, and she does her best in every performance. The opera skills acquired in the early years, as well as the increasingly mature performance style, make Wu Qiong once again become the brightest corner on the stage.
During this period, she single-handedly took the lead and sang all the Huangmei operas " Angel with " and " Concubine ", she also launched the original Huangmei opera "Yan Fengying", and even played Li Bai in reverse, and created the The Huangmei tune musical. In 2002, 40-year-old Wu Qiong finally ushered in her love. In March of this year, Wu Qiong was preparing for the filming of her own song "Soul Broken Blue Bridge", and the producer recommended the actor Ruan Xun as the male lead.
Ruan Xun, whose ancestral home is in Shenyang, is 1.85 meters tall and tall and handsome. He is the one who plays Emperor Jiaqing in " Prime Minister Liu Luoguo ". During the filming of
, Ruan Xun and Wu Qiong cooperated tacitly, interpreting every scene of love into a tragic and tragic interpretation. A week later, MTV filming ended, but Ruan Xun was reluctant to leave Wu Qiong.
The two fell in love because of the filming. At that time, Wu Qiong was 40 years old and Ruan Xun was 25 years old, with a 15-year age difference between the two. Although Wu Qiong also liked this sunny and handsome young man very much in her heart, but the age gap made her stop her pursuit of love. She could only hide her emotions in her heart.
However, Ruan Xun disregarded these, he boldly confessed his love to Wu Qiong, and under his pursuit, the two began a world-shattering love between siblings.
Ruan Xun's parents both work in state-owned enterprises. Ruan Xun's mother is also an old fan of Wu Qiong. They were surprised that their son was going to marry a much older famous opera artist, and they quickly persuaded their son to give up, so as not to be laughed at.
Ruan Xun's father had a serious feudal ideology, and he couldn't understand his son. The son is not ugly, why do you have to find a big daughter-in-law? He said to Ruan Xun: "Wu Qiong is only 11 years younger than your mother. What's the matter? If you marry her, the backbone of our family will be pierced."
After persuading him, Ruan Xun had already made up his mind and would not marry Wu Qiong. Zhou Caifen saw that her son was like a stubborn donkey, so she had to go out in person and make an appointment to meet Wu Qiong.
In a cafe, the future mother-in-law and daughter-in-law meet. Zhou Caifen threw out a gentle olive branch: "We are an ordinary family, and we can't give you the life you want. It's better to break up now than to have a bad life in the future." Said: "I was born in a small county, and my family was more ordinary. A year ago, I lived in a 6-square-meter iron house with a boiler room below. The indoor temperature in summer is as high as 40 degrees, and my colleagues call me temperature-resistant. General."
spoke softly, Wu Qiong gently resolved her mother-in-law's edge. And these remarks also made Zhou Caifen see Wu Qiong's frankness and frankness. She liked this daughter-in-law with a similar personality to herself, but the disparity in age made her unable to nod her head.
and the parents
Which parents do not want their son to find a girl of the same age, have children, and live a peaceful and warm life? For the sake of her son's future happiness, Zhou Caifen and her wife decided to cut off theThe connection between the son and Wu Qiong.
In order to prevent her son from secretly going to get a marriage license, Zhou Caifen locked the household registration book in a drawer, while her wife confiscated her son's mobile phone and placed him under house arrest in the study. :
I didn't expect Ruan Xun to sneak out while his parents were taking a nap. He borrowed a friend's cell phone to call Wu Qiong, and Wu Qiong drove to pick him up. Ruan Xun's father's blood pressure rose.
When Wu Qiong found out, she was very disturbed. She said to Ruan Xun, "Love without the blessings of parents will not be happy. You should go back." .
Wu Qiong couldn't bear the pressure of her boyfriend alone. She took the initiative to visit Ruan's house. Every time she bought some expensive gifts for Ruan Xun's parents, she also combed the hair and washed the feet of Ruan Xun's 93-year-old grandma... Slowly, Ruan Xun There was a warm color on the parents' faces.
Li Bai
In January 2003, Ruan Xun accidentally fell off his horse while filming in Shenyang, injured his left ankle and was admitted to the hospital. Wu Qiong rushed to take care of her boyfriend as soon as possible. Two days later, Zhou Caifen learned from the media that her son was injured and rushed to Shenyang.
She asked why her son was injured, why did he hide it from his family? Ruan Xun replied: "You and Wu Qiong love to say weird things together, I don't want you to face each other." Zhou Caifen was very upset when she heard it.
Wu Qiong took care of Ruan Xun meticulously, and Zhou Caifen was very moved when she saw it. As parents, they have always wanted their sons to be happy. Now, when their sons have found a partner who will love him, why should they object?
Zhou Caifen's character is open-minded, and she quickly figured it out. Immediately, she communicated with her wife, and under her persuasion, Ruan Xun's father finally nodded and agreed to his son's marriage.
On December 21, 2004, Wu Qiong and Ruan Xun held a grand wedding in Beijing. The combination of the two became a legend among relatives, friends and neighbors.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law joined forces to transform their little husbands
Wu Qiong and Ruan Xun were married for only three months. The mother-in-law left her wife at home to take care of the old mother, and moved into her son's new home alone. The reason is that I am retired and you are busy, so I used to take care of your life.
Wu Qiong knew in her heart that her mother-in-law was still worried about herself. Wu Qiong is famous and his income is higher than Ruan Xun.
However, Zhou Caifen's worries are superfluous. Wu Qiong has more life experience than Ruan Xun. In her life, she spoils Ruan Xun like a son. The family's mortgage, utilities, gas, living expenses, etc. are all borne by Wu Qiong. . When Ruan Xun was filming on the outskirts of Beijing, Wu Qiong had to pack the fruit, bread, milk, etc. in a fresh-keeping bag and let him take it to the crew to eat.
Ruan Xun earns his own money and spends his own money. He is managed by his mother and wife at home. In his spare time, in addition to chatting with netizens online, he also plays games. Once, he even spent 20,000 yuan to buy game equipment.
When Zhou Caifen saw her son like this, she was very upset for her daughter-in-law. She said to Wu Qiong: "Even though Ruan Xun is younger than you, he is also a man and should take on the responsibilities and obligations of a husband. Look at him now, he is just a little kid, you can't be accustomed to him. ."
's mother-in-law's reassuring words made Wu Qiong realize that she had indeed arranged too much of her husband's life, which made him unable to enter the role of husband for a long time. As soon as the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law discussed, they decided to join forces to change Ruan Xun and let him mature as soon as possible.
They asked Nguyen Xun to do one thing every day for his mother and wife. Ruan Xun didn't know what to do at first, under the guidance of his mother and wife, he quickly found a way to thank his family.
He insists on cleaning the floor every day, making beauty meals for his wife, polishing shoes, customizing costumes... Habits come naturally. When Ruan Xun goes out to film, he will call home every night, telling his mother not to forget to measure blood pressure and blood sugar, and remind his wife Close the doors and windows, the gas valve... Ruan Xun, who was arrogant in the past, has completely disappeared.
In addition, Zhou Caifen also asked her son to take his father-in-law, who is in his seventies, to the hospital for a physical examination every six months. Every time, Xun Ruan took the medical check-up form and helped his father-in-law upstairs and downstairs, accompanied by blood tests, electrocardiograms, CT scans, etc. During this process, Xun Ruan gradually matured.
In May 2006, Wu Qiong's music room was renovated, and she gave her husband full authority to handle the matter with confidence. Ruan Xun is in charge of supervising the work every day. When he is busy, he has to carry the floor tiles upstairs with the workers. Every day, he is tired and sweaty, but he is very fulfilled and completes the task perfectly.
Seeing her son transform from a willful child to a responsible man, Zhou Caifen's heart is also sweet.
and their father,
, are sisters, and regret that they have no children.
Zhou Caifen and Wu Qiong are both fast talkers. Zhou Caifen is diligent and diligent. She gets up at 6 o'clock every morning to make breakfast. When her son and daughter-in-law go to work, she cleans up the house.
has the support of her mother-in-law at the back, Wu Qiong has no worries, and her career is advancing by leaps and bounds. She made a bold attempt to combine Huangmei opera with modern pop songs, and created a new Huangmei opera musical.
Her original masterpiece "The Lady Returning Home" caused a sensation after its tour in Nanjing, Shanghai and other places. Wu Qiong was awarded the "Magnolia Drama Performance Art Award" by Chinese Dramatists Association . In 2013, the play also Won the "Beijing Denny International Stage Performing Arts Award".
Ruan Xun is not far behind. He follows in his wife's footsteps and plays important roles in more than 10 film and television dramas such as " Yingpan Town Police ", " National Image ", " Tiger's Mouth " and so on.
The family is happy and the career is successful. Wu Qiong only needs one thing to be successful, that is, the child.
In fact, when Wu Qiong was rehearsing Yan Fengying, she was pregnant once, in 2008, when Wu Qiong was 46 years old. Unfortunately, during the rehearsal, she was overworked and had a severe cold, so she took high doses of antibiotics for 4 days in a row.
Wu Qiong didn't know she was pregnant at the time. When she found out that she went to the hospital for an examination, the doctor reminded her: "In your case, the baby is likely to have intellectual or physical disabilities. It is best to have an abortion."
Wu Qiong was very sad. Go home and let the husband and mother-in-law make up their minds. Although Ruan Xun was heartbroken, he still persuaded his wife to leave. Zhou Caifen also said: "I have long wanted to hold my grandson, but if the baby is born with problems, how can we be happy."
Wu Qiong calmly thought about the words of her husband and mother-in-law , Tears had an abortion.
and her mother-in-law on the show
However, since that pregnancy, Wu Qiong has never been able to conceive a child again. From 2008 to 2014, she did not know how many nursing medicines she took, and she always missed her child. The reason is that one is older, and the other is that he worked too hard when he was young, and his body wasted too much.
When Wu Qiong was over fifty years old, seeing that there was no hope of seeking a child, she filed for divorce from her husband. She said to Ruan Xun, "You are the only child in the family, and my parents are eager to hold their grandson. I have let them down." Ruan Xun felt sad and didn't know what to do? Zhou Caifen noticed that her son had something on her mind, and after asking why, she had a candid conversation with Wu Qiong. She said to Wu Qiong: "Actually, as long as you and Ruan Xun love each other, we can accept it with or without grandchildren. I have now figured out that the happiness of the elderly is not limited to children and grandchildren around their knees.
Ruan Xun's father also said: "Don't be under pressure, we will treat you as a daughter if you have children or not. "
Wu Qiong was very moved, her heart was untied, and she cherished this family even more. When Zhou Caifen encountered a talkative person and asked her when she was going to be a grandmother, she always answered generously: "The baby is here because of fate. . "
is exactly this tolerance and righteousness. When Wu Qiong later adopted his sister's daughter as his adopted daughter, Zhou Caifen and his wife never said a word of complaint.
sang on the same stage with the adopted daughter
performed
on the same stage with the adopted daughter in order to make the mother-in-law perform on the same stage
Happy, at home, Wu Qiong often let her husband accompany her, and she performed Huangmei opera to her mother-in-law with a handkerchief in the living room. The upgraded version of "Homecoming" is on tour nationwide. Wu Qiong asked her mother-in-law to do her own logistics and clothing management. Zhou Caifen followed Wu Qiong to Nanjing, Hefei, Hangzhou and other places to take care of things in an orderly manner.
She made all kinds of costumes The numbers are hung on the wall in order, so even though Wu Qiong has to change more than 20 sets of clothes after a performance, there has never been a mistake.
A reporter asked Wu Qiong: "Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are difficult to get along with. What unique secret?
Wu Qiong said proudly: "My mother-in-law and I are not too different in age, and we have similar personalities. "
Now, Wu Qiong and Ruan Xun have gone through their 17th year of marriage, and they are still in love. Someone asked Ruan Xun why he married Wu Qiong, and Ruan Xun said, "I am like everyone else. , I just follow my own feelings, I married Wu Qiong for only one reason, that is: I love her! "
