, the big exam, which is bigger than the college entrance examination and has a larger number of participants, is the new crown epidemic that started in Wuhan in 2020. In the face of this big exam, all walks of life, men, women and children from all walks of life, men, women and children have overcome difficulties, and the optimistic attitude of actively taking the exam has moved all of us who can't stay out of it and have personal experience.
In this play, the six college entrance examination families focus on the three college entrance examination families and understate the three college entrance examination families to discuss the proposition that "the college entrance examination" is a tangible big test for students, and an invisible big test for parents.
The college entrance examination is not only the score of the last test paper, but also the past tense, present tense and future tense of candidates, families and society hidden behind this test paper.
In the family, all the people participating in the college entrance examination, their conscious and unconscious words and deeds, have a direct and indirect influence on the college entrance examination, and they are aware or numb and unconscious, and show the audience one by one through the portraits of six families.
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№1 Zhou Bowen's home - a child who is absent from one parent & worried about
Zhou Bowen (played by Hu Xianxu ) is a boy with the best academic performance and a mature mind among the six college entrance examination students. His parents never quarreled and had a good relationship.
However, this "peaceful" family atmosphere is mainly due to the painstaking efforts of Zhou Bowen's mother, who has a strong tolerance, hard-working and omnipotent at home and abroad.
is away, and the family's source of income, the small restaurant, is managed and managed by her mother alone. Including
, laundry and cooking, those rough jobs that require men to repair nails, climb up and down to change light bulbs, etc., this mother also took care of it all and won them all.
In this home, Zhou Bowen's mother seems to have two sons. One is the "eldest son" Zhou Bowen - born by the mother herself. The other is "old son" Zhou Meiren - born by grandma.
According to some local customs, the "old son" is the most favored youngest in the family after the "eldest son".
And it's true - Zhou Bowen's mother seems to be more pampered by her husband, "old son" Zhou Meiren ( Wang Xiao).
and Zhou Bowen manages his father Zhou Meiren's appearance, more like a sensible brother helping his parents to teach his ignorant younger brother who is obsessed with online games.
In this family, Zhou Meiren has not fulfilled any responsibilities and obligations as a father and husband. Because, a capable wife shoulders the family responsibilities that his husband and father should do without complaint.
In this home, Zhou Bowen's mother "trained" a husband who doesn't touch the spring water with his fingers and only uses the mouse to play games.
On the one hand, although Zhou Bowen's mother worked hard for her family, she worked hard. But in the face of her husband who acts like a spoiled child from time to time and needs her help everywhere, this kind of need makes her feel at ease and satisfied.
On the other hand, Zhou Bowen, the "eldest son" of the dragon among the people, helped and distressed her, which made her proud and gratified.
and this successful son Zhou Bowen also helps her "control" her giant baby husband every day. What satisfies her even more is that this giant baby is still in control.
All these, compared to those cheating husbands, Zhou Bowen's mother, and two men who don't cause trouble around her, she undoubtedly feels happy.
But in the eyes of his son Zhou Bowen, the mother is very unhappy: on the one hand, she is working hard to manage everything at home. On the one hand, my father doesn't care about it, doesn't feel distressed, and has fun alone.
He felt sorry for his mother and persuaded her to divorce her father. In the future, he would take her to Shanghai by himself, showing his firm belief that her mother's married life was very miserable and her mother was too bitter.
However, in episode 9, when Dad cleared the game, he caught the picture of the couple kissing excitedly, and Zhou Bowen was shocked.
It was only now that he understood that his mother's attitude towards his father's inaction and playing games at home and the close relationship between his parents were not as bad as he imagined.
The father's position is vacant. Regardless of his son's education, he can have a mature and college-oriented son. It is good luck or excusable. There are five reasons for
:
1. My mother has a strong personality, is self-reliant and capable, and is a good example.
2. The father, who is thousands of miles away from his mother and rejected by his children, is an example of an unreliable man that Zhou Bowen tries to avoid completely.
3. The mother's unequal contribution to the family has aroused the strong protection consciousness of the third-party son, who wants to change his mother's fate through learning.
4. An unreliable father "respects" his wife and son from a certain point of view. He not only obeys his son's "control", but is also loyal to his marriage, and he does not make mistakes that make his wife uncomfortable and his son sensitive. This is critical.
5. An ignorant father will only make his son worry and make Zhou Bowen mature prematurely.
№2 Tian Wenwen's family - "not sensible" parents working in other places & "too sensible" left-behind daughter
Tian Wenwen is Zhou Bowen's classmate. He was sent to work in Wuhan since he was a child, and his parents stayed in their hometown to live with their grandma on the grounds that they were unable to take their children with them.
But a few years later, her parents gave birth to a younger sister in Wuhan, but they still did not have the conditions to take her by her side.
Tian Wenwen read that her grandmother died when she was in high school. She would rather continue to live in her grandmother's old house by herself than live in her parents' house with good conditions.
Because, left-behind children have become accustomed to this kind of normal life - they lack their parents on weekdays, and only see them in a hurry during the New Years and holidays.
"thinks" about her parents, just thinking about her. And for her parents, she was only thinking about the kidnapping of blood thicker than water. There is not much communication between them at all, not to mention the timely and rain-like help when things go wrong.
discovered the thief's attempted burglary, and she immediately chose to inform the aunt of the neighborhood committee. She had a fever. Even though her parents were on their way back to their hometown and were about to meet, she chose to inform the head teacher as soon as possible.
these performances, she is like an orphan without parents. She seems to be a very sensible child who is afraid of her parents' worries.
In fact, these sensible people are forced to exercise by life. Because, even if there is something to contact the parents, the distant water will not quench the thirst of the near.
was left behind since he was a child, and later accepted his fate without crying or making trouble. When he grows up, he replaces his parents to support the elderly and fulfills his obligations, and is regarded by his parents as an "adult" who is both sensible and able to take care of things.
Therefore, Tian Wenwen's father was infected with new crown , afraid that his wife could not bear to hide it from his wife, but told his daughter, who was about to take the college entrance examination, to let her face the death of her grandmother again alone, and parted with her relatives. A family like
is not a family education model for a college student. Compared with Zhou Bowen's family, neither a positive role model nor a negative image to be avoided exists.
Homeschooling is completely missing. For Tian Wenwen, her parents are just gift givers and financial sponsors for college.
In such a family background, what characteristics does Tian Wenwen have?
1. Lack of parental favor and strong independence.
2. Good at communicating with outsiders - communicating with the aunt of the neighborhood committee, communicating with the head teacher, being the group owner of the QQ exchange group, etc. are enough to explain.
3. Lack of effective communication with their parents, they only stay on the ritual greetings. Due to the long-term non-contact, the two sides do not know how to express their love.
4. She is sensitive at heart, has a heart for her family of origin, and envy her younger sister who lives by her parents' side. When there is nothing between you and your parents, you are safe. When something happens, Zelan Ai burns with the sword and shadows.
In the joint entrance exam, Tian Wenwen scored 520 points, more than 30 points less than usual. After learning that Zhou Bowen scored 670 points in the test, she was irritated by the blow.
After hearing the noisy voice of her mother playing with her sister, which affected her study, Tian Wenwen changed her sensible image and calculated the new and old accounts of her mother and sister together. Results, my sister can follow you, why do I have to live so hard...
This emotional outburst is because Tian Wenwen has been neglected by her parents for many years, and the anger of grievance and repression erupts. If not for this outbreak, her parents would never be "not sensible", they would never know the true thoughts and fragility of her "too sensible" daughter.
Tian Wenwen said that her independence is not independent independence, but lonely independence. Throwing stones to ask for directions, I am the pathfinder stone, throwing bricks to attract jade, I am the brick.
She has good conditions for her parents and wants to have a second child, instead of taking herself to Wuhan and worrying about it. This seemingly strong and sensible girl actually longs for the company of her parents.
The parents who are absent on the way of their children's growth will affect their children far more than the superficial things that appear.
№3 Wu Jiajun's family - a weak father and a strong mother & a rebellious child in predicament
Unlike Tian Wenwen's family, Wu Jiajun, his classmate, was accompanied by his parents all the way up. Mom's name in Dad's phone address book is "Hua Ge".
This is a typical family education model of tiger mom and cat dad. The hostess should be strong and capable at work. A strong master at home, not only the master of the husband, but also the master of the son.
went home as a policeman's husband. She was afraid that her husband would bring the new crown germs home, so she would not let her husband enter the door, and she decided to let her husband sleep at her mother-in-law's house.
For her son who is studying at home, she resigned to accompany the exam and went all out, she made a "tailor-made" study plan for her son, and arranged the time to be full and not free.
and regularly give his son a standard "feed" every day - three kinds of fruits, a bottle of yogurt, and nutritional health products.
Wu Jiajun wanted to be a original artist . He passed the joint art examination and entered the gate of an art college with one foot, but he was strongly opposed by his mother.
When he saw Wu Jiajun locked the door "while studying", he simply removed the door lock, saying "there is no privacy between mother and child".
In such a family environment, Wu Jiajun, a college student, is like a college entrance examination machine, a prisoner.
took advantage of his mother's nap timeHe drew two strokes on his own painting, but his mother found out that the cartoon he had drawn for several months was instantly destroyed by his mother's graffiti, and Wu Jiajun collapsed on the spot.
The extreme will turn against him. Wu Jiajun tried his best to leave his mother and live in his grandma's house, escaping from his mother's clutches.
deprives children of the right to enjoy paternal love, deprives husbands of the right to educate their sons, and deprives children of their hobbies and free souls.
She is possessed by her son and controls everything. For her son, it is a question of "survival or destruction". This is another form of "absence" of education, and she is a stumbling block in her son's path forward.
№4 Pan Xiaoxuan's family - their remarried parents & a rich second generation who wants to be noticed
Pan Xiaoxuan is a senior in Jinhe County No. No matter in which new home he was, he was a "superfluous man."
He told his father who came to pick him up, he wanted his mother. To the mother who came to pick him up, he wanted his father. He didn't want to let his parents separate, but he couldn't be the master of his parents.
In real life, there is no place for him. In the first middle school of militarized management, beating the drums of war, and shopping for the college entrance examination, he is also out of place and an alternative existence.
Because he wants to study abroad in the future, he has already given up preparing for the college entrance examination. But he was not willing to be a corner forgotten by his classmates and his parents.
Seeking attention in rebelliousness - in the teaching building, he excitedly drove a small racing car around, so as to let the principal complain to his father, thus winning his father's "attention".
However, this mischievous rich second generation is understanding and helpful. He not only helped Tian Wenwen of the Fourth Middle School to find Wu Jiajun, who had run away from home, but also entrusted his father to buy a few boxes of masks from abroad to send to the school, and bought a mobile phone for Gao Mingyu, a classmate from a poor family.
In order to protect Gao Mingyu's self-esteem, he let Gao Mingyu accept the mobile phone "with peace of mind", and he threw the mobile phone into the trash can. When the mobile phone was picked up by Gao Mingyu, he said, remember to pay me back after work. The mobile phone
is like helping Gao Mingyu with help in the snow, providing the necessary conditions for Gao Mingyu to take online lessons.
Pan Xiaoxuan's disintegrating family, the parents completely put their children in the school's escrow, this kind of hands-off shopkeeper who only gives financial support to the children is irresponsible and selfish parents.
Pan Xiaoxuan is sympathetic to Gao Mingyu because the two "sympathize with each other" and lack the love of their parents. The difference between him and Gao Mingyu, whose parents both died, is "rich" and "no money".
From a certain point of view, Pan Xiaoxuan is not even as good as Gao Mingyu. Gao Mingyu can change his destiny through knowledge, but he can only rely on rebellion to brush his existence and win the attention of his parents and people.
№5 Gao Mingyu's family - both parents died & a son who is at the mercy of fate
Gao Mingyu is a poor student who has attracted the attention of the principal of a middle school. His hometown is in a remote mountain village. His parents died when he was young, and he lives with his grandfather.
The epidemic is coming, he can only rely on the proof of the village to go to the small train station outside the village to study on the Internet. The difficult conditions at home gave Gao Mingyu the idea of not taking online classes and wanting to be admitted to an ordinary university through self-study.
After his grandfather told him that he would not be able to explain to his dead parents in the future, Gao Mingyu no longer cared about his self-esteem and started taking online classes.
However, grandpa fell and was injured again. In the face of thousands of dollars in medical expenses, Gao Mingyu once again had to face up to the greater responsibility he had to face in the future.
Gao Mingyu's family, the lack of parents, and the education of his grandfather's old concept made Gao Mingyu feel inferior and sensitive.
№6 Qin Siyao's home - a father with mature educational concepts & Happy learning 's college student
Qin Siyao is the daughter of Director Qin of the Jinhe County Education Bureau ( Guo Tao ) in the play. Initially, she went to school in Jinhe County No. 1 Middle School, which was managed militarily.
The principal of Wang Benzhong ( Wang Qianyuan, ) said that seventeen or eighteen-year-old children are immature and do not have so many ideas. Strict control is love. The teaching philosophy under high pressure made Qin Siyao unhappy and unhappy.
After transferring to Jinhe County No. 4 Middle School, principal Shi Aihua (played by Chen Baoguo ) emphasizes the educational philosophy of students' autonomy, making Qin Siyao happy and fond of learning.
As a rule, the No. 1 middle school in each region must be ranked higher than the No. 4 middle school, with better educational resources and teaching quality. For this, it is impossible for my father, who is the director of the Education Bureau, to be unaware of this.
This is a wise father who does not sing high-profile to others, truly respects his daughter's personality, and has a mature educational philosophy. He proved to his daughter with his own actions that the college entrance examination is not the only way out in life.
At the dinner table, Qin Siyao said disapprovingly: "Families with no money should find a way to make money, just start a live broadcast and sell them badly.
Dad was surprised at his daughter's indifference and sense of superiority, and slapped the table and questioned his daughter's values. Seeing that his father was angry, Qin Siyao went back to his room without eating.
For this situation, Director Qin, played by Guo Tao, showed targeted educational methods in the play. The father's teaching process to his daughter can be called textbook level.
He first apologized to his daughter for his rude attitude, and then opened the topic with the novel "The Great Gatsby" that his daughter was most interested in.
He quoted a sentence from the novel: When you criticize others, remember that not all people in the world have the same conditions as you.
does not use the persuasive education of big truth, but uses what the daughter understands as the starting point, which is not only convincing, but also makes the daughter feel that her father understands and pays attention to her on weekdays.
Qin Siyao reflected on himself and admitted his mistake. At the same time, I hope my father has something to say. At this time, Qin's father, by apologizing again, used his sincerity to completely reconcile with his daughter, and the father and daughter were deeply in love.
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Six families, with different family backgrounds and different educational models, reflect the lack and insufficiency of parents in family education, which will definitely affect the growth of children and bring them irreparable harm.
, in front of the "college entrance examination", does not require parents and children to have a good horse with a good saddle, nor does it require that they must eventually arrive in Rome.
The most important thing is that every person who directly or indirectly participates in the big exam at must be clear about the preparations they have to make before the "exam" and their responsibilities. In front of the "big exam", as long as you don't lose time, you will pass the customs.
