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was recently reading the book "Lower Logic". After reading it, he overturned the traditional concept and understood more human nature and the truth of the workplace.
So, when I watched " Their Names " again and saw these three lines, I suddenly realized that the world of adults, don't be too realistic!
And just as Feng Lun said:
"Behind any face is the favor, but behind the favor are the operating rules of power and interests."
Therefore, in the world of adults - this utilitarian, how can there be so A lot of helping others, good people can do is not fall into the trap.
line one
Lei Li said something emotional to her chef friend.
She said:
"The world sees too many jokes on you, but those who look on indifferently are kind." In this sentence,
contains the hardships and tribulations of Lei Li along the way. She has seen too many indifference and discrimination, Experienced too much infighting and intrigue.
Therefore, in her current position, she is indeed capable of saying this, and she is indeed telling the truth.
This is how cruel and cold this world is.
is like Lao Yang's owl. In his book "The World of Adults is Not Easy", he commented on the world of adults:
It is utilitarian, tacky, greasy, and troublesome, but in the end you will love it it.
Why does a world that looks so bad make us love it? That's it - when we accept the imperfections of the world, we really do make peace with ourselves.
At that time, the once utilitarian world became cute and real because of the smell of fireworks. It can be seen that this kind of change in thinking is growth!
As for, how do I appreciate what Lei Li said? On the surface of this sentence
, it seems so snobbish and indifferent, so cruel and numb, such words that subvert our worldview of 's public order and good 's worldview, but it shows human nature everywhere.
is cruel from a negative point of view, but radical from another point of view.
Because, just like the competition for orders in the company, it seems that this colleague has seized the project that he has spent several months following up, and has also made the boss agree to this order-grabbing behavior. This behavior seems to lack the first-come, first-served moral standards, and it seems to offend the interests of one employee, but it inspires the enthusiasm of all employees. As long as the choice is made under healthy competition, the company can be revitalized. The same is true for the sentence
. It seems cruel, numb, and ugly, but behind its context, at least there is a hidden attitude towards life:
Don't overestimate human nature, and don't underestimate your potential.
work hard in the days of being ridiculed, be strong in beatings and scoldings, use all your hard work, and work hard to break the ground, one day, you will be like a thunderbolt, just gently in front of others Mention this fact, but no longer need to care about it from the bottom of my heart.
And at that time, you were really powerful!
line two
This sentence was said by President Liu to Ren Duomei, and it was this sentence that exposed the pain in her marriage.
She said:
"The better the women tend to be, the more prominent the conditions are, the easier the family is to have problems."
This sentence actually contains a lot of information, at least through this sentence, I feel that Dean Liu is in a high position, but She still lacks momentum for men. She places women in a more vulnerable and lower position. Therefore, what she naturally reveals is that women's excellence is negative. Problems in the family are women's responsibility.
Perhaps, Dean Liu is a very family-friendly woman! She devotes a lot of energy to her work, and her husband is so strong and domineering, her gentle personality has become the original sin in the marriage.
But I still want to say something:
Even if a marriage requires the management of both parties, butIt's not that the better a woman is, the more likely it is that there will be problems in the family. This problem is not caused by the excellence of women, but caused by some men who have no mind and tolerance.
They can tolerate their careers outside the home and let their wives protect their families at home (such as Zhang Weichen), then when a career-oriented woman, an excellent woman, has a beautiful job that can realize self-worth, and can do it well When it's good, why don't men come forward willing to take over the family's affairs?
Men need a sense of accomplishment, but women don't?
Since everyone is equal now, why can only "sacrifice for the husband" be allowed? It can be seen from
that Dean Liu, who made such a statement, is still a traditional woman. Of course, her helplessness is a major trend, because today's society is such a status quo, so men's rights and women's rights are so full of disputes.
However, no matter how the world does not tolerate women, this is not the reason why women cannot be independent and outstanding. Only when women themselves truly realize this, the discrimination against women in this world will die one day!
Line 3
Ren Duomei broke up with Tan Tian, she told Tan Tian that she was 26 years old and could not wait for his efforts.
She said:
"But I don't want to live like this, I want to live a good life."
So, the diamond ring that Qin Tian was about to take out was slowly clenched in his hand, and the prepared surprise was finally I couldn't send it out...
's life is impermanent, and he wanders in this world.
Ren Duomei's choice told Tan Tian a cruel fact: no matter how deep
's feelings are, they will be consumed by reality one day. Sometimes, no money and no love are just as painful. The things that
expect will be forced to be lost because of the situation in the middle; the people you love will be attracted by the prosperity of the outside world; the songs in your dreams will only be left a little trembling because of the wakefulness after getting up. phonology.
Therefore, when everything has passed, what is left is the most precious and worth cherishing!
It's just that life is impermanent, you don't know when the hammer of fate will hit you, what you expect, desire, possess, and cling to will all be like grains of sand in your hands, sprinkled in the heat with the wind of time. The lively and silent world leaves no traces. It can be seen from
that the departure of a lover was extremely painful at that moment.
Tan Tian, who is so affectionate, still has emotions in his heart when he meets his first love many years later. He can't forget his former lover, and he can't forget the hurt he suffered for love.
just kept a decent smile on their faces and said: Hello!
And this kind of helplessness and pretense is the most mature attitude of an adult - not to leave troubles to others, not to let your emotions vent too much, and to leave yourself and others a decent room.
The way of getting along with adults may lie in this.
Conclusion
I scrutinized these three lines in "Their Names", and then I suddenly realized the reality of the adult world:
People will pursue you because of your success, and they will abandon you and trample you because of your failure. Sometimes they will be bullied by fate, and people will think: Why is fate so hostile to them? In fact, after you have seen through human nature, you will know that your kind of being bullied is just a small episode of fate, and fate does not remember it, only you remember it;
In the life of an independent woman, it will always be In such a dire situation, they suffer from injustice and resentment, and sometimes they are choreographed by reality. After all, there are still too many inequalities in this world where everyone is equal. Therefore, instead of expecting the other party to change, it is better to learn to be strong;
and In the last line, the choice in this context forced Tan Tian to grow up, so what is the meaning of its existence? But it is to tell the world - life is impermanent, do it and cherish it!
And the real world reflected behind the lines, the world that adults hate but have to grapple with - its ugliness is the surface, and the truth is its biggest feature, because of the truth, so there is Fireworks.
and fireworks are the true meaning of life!
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