Do not follow blindly, be an independent self
After graduation, my best friend Xiaoyu, I saw that other classmates were taking advantage of their youth to venture outside, and I followed to the big city.
At first, she applied for the position of Administrative Commissioner . She was not tired from work, and she did it well, and her income was just enough to support her basic living.
Later, she heard that her classmates made more than 10,000 yuan a month in sales. She was very envious, so she decided to switch to another company to do sales.
But because of his eloquence and inflexibility, his performance is at the bottom.
and later short videos became popular. Some classmates made a lot of money by doing this. She thought that it would not work in sales anyway, so she might as well try this.
Source: "Twenty Do Not Confused 2"
did what she said, she and her classmates got a video account, and also spent money to learn video editing and new media operation .
ended up playing short videos for a year, but I didn't make a name for myself. I even used the money I saved before.
During that time, she was so anxious that she always felt that she was a useless person.
blindly followed the trend and lacked independent thinking in line with his own reality, allowing Xiaoyu to wander outside for 3 years without achieving anything.
Philosopher Russell said:
"Always ask yourself what is the truth, what is the truth about wisdom. Don't be fooled by what you prefer to believe." The bad habit of conforming to the crowd makes good use of your own mind to think about problems and make life choices.
In 2004, Jiang Shuying was admitted to the Shanghai Theater Academy's performance department with the first grade in the professional course.
After graduating, the already famous she did not choose to continue filming, but decided to study abroad.
Source: TV series "Thirty Only"
Her classmates, teachers and friends do not understand, saying that she is wasting time and will regret it in the future.
Jiang Shuying did not explain, but resolutely followed his own heart and went abroad to pursue his dream.
later, when she was about to graduate, she shared on Weibo:
"Don't be fooled by dogma - it tempts you to live according to other people's mindsets. Most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition and they will know What kind of person do you really want to be?"
has an independent and sober cognition that makes Jiang Shuying today.
Carnegie once said:
"To be a real person, you must first be a person who is not blind."
is not blindFrom, is a sober attitude to life, but also an independent life choice.
does not follow blindly, it can let us know exactly what we need and get rid of anxiety fundamentally.
不比较，做自信的自己
余华在《活着》中写道：
“永远记住：生活是属于每个人自己的感受，不属于任何别人的看法。”
看清自己的状态, far better than meaningless comparisons. An UP host of
B said frankly that when she first joined the company, she couldn't help comparing herself with the people around her or her colleagues who joined the company together.
In this case, she can always find someone who is better and better than herself, and the result is that she becomes more and more anxious and lacks confidence in the comparison.
The opportunity to change this state was a small talk with colleagues.
In that conversation, she found that everyone's life plan is different, but she had mistakenly thought that their destination was the same.
Later, she thought about it and began to pay more attention to herself, which turned anxiety into fulfillment and became confident as a person.
I hope we can all get rid of the habit of seeking pain on the track that opponents or others are good at, and live more fighting spirit.
" quirky talk about " has a debate topic: My peers around me are doing better than me, do I want to chase after my life?
Mentor Xue Zhaofeng has an impressive saying:
" I have my own world, I have my own standards, and this standard has nothing to do with my peers, I have my own rhythm ."
agreed.
Everyone's growth environment is different, which will make us take different paths at the crossroads of life, and the subsequent encounters will be different.
are different and do not conspire. The starting point is different, if you chase after your life, you will not be able to catch up.
It is better to choose the path that suits you and go on confidently and attentively instead of trying to reach things that you will never be able to reach in your life.
抓住当下，做真实的自己
《当下的⼒量》中有句话是这么说的：
“所有的消极都是由心理时间的累积和对当下的否定造成的。”
不安、焦虑, tension, stress, worry... all fears are caused by focusing too much on the future.
Guilt, regret, resentment, grievance, grief, bitterness... All unforgiveness comes from focusing too much on the past.
However, the past cannot be changed and the future is yet to come.
Only the present is within our reach, and only the specific actions of the present are the only magic weapon to resolve anxiety.
Wu Xin once broke down and burst into hot searches when she participated in the variety show " My Daughter ". She said that she had been under heavy pressure from all aspects for a while.
Source: "My Daughter"
She feels that she has a low sense of presence in " Happy Camp ", she has few host lines, anyone can do it in her position, and she is often worried that she will receive the producer's call Call and tell her, "You don't need to come."
She will be sad when she sees the negative comments from the audience, and she is even more afraid that if she is not the host, she will not be able to do anything.
But later, she heard a lot of various voices, and she thought about it. Instead of living in fear every day, it is better to do the things in front of her.
worked hard to get fit and gradually gained vest lines and abdominal muscles;
seized every opportunity to speak in front of the camera in order to get the best appearance;
began to try to host other variety shows, and also recorded reality shows as guests, and also participated in Act on TV.
Wu Xin's anxiety disappeared without a trace. On the contrary, her confidence on stage left a deep impression on everyone, and the audience liked her more and more.
Instead of futile imagination and anxiety before tomorrow, it is better to seize today and act decisively.
As Chu Shijian said:
"We are people who have lived through today and there is no tomorrow. It doesn't matter what the past or the future is. The present and the present are a lifetime. The charm of being a person lies in whether you are the real you."
The current self is the most authentic self.
Grasp the moment, go on bravely, there will always be surprises waiting for you along the way.
Barryl Markham It's more reassuring than standing in place and making useless speculation.
No one is born perfect, and you don't need to worry about it all the time.
After all, we spend our whole lives fighting anxiety and surpassing ourselves.
You have to believe, time is long.
You will eventually grow into what you want and embrace your own future.
Author: Zhai Yi, author of Reader·Bee Project. Personal profile: Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. The first public account of this article: readers readbook club. The official reading exchange platform of "Reader" magazine, here, you can see the world and understand life.
