Ren Duomei accompanies her mother-in-law to the supermarket twice has become the second of the few highlights in the TV series " Their Names ".
for the first time.
When Ren Duomei accompanies her mother-in-law to the supermarket, she was distracted by something on her mind, and her mother-in-law was chattering on the side. Finally, she found out that she was in a wrong state, so she ruthlessly scolded her:
"Being a leisurely housewife at home, all When you don't understand, Wei Chen is under a lot of pressure in the unit, I think you are staying at home, people are going to be stupid, right?"
Ren Duomei has always swallowed her anger and resigned, but this time she was really angry, so she blurted out, " I haven't done a lot of housework at home, and I'm chatting with you now to accompany you to buy."
for the second time.
Ren Duomei looked at the fresh steak and thought it was good, and was about to take a piece, but her mother-in-law stopped it immediately, don't take the beef, Wei Chen has a weak stomach, and if the stew is not rotten, it will not digest. This remark has two meanings. The first layer is to ridicule Ren Duomei for not knowing that her husband has a weak stomach, and the second layer is to mock Ren Duomei's poor cooking skills.
Ren Duomei smiled slightly and decided to give up the steak. When her mother-in-law proposed to buy black-bone chicken for her husband to cook chicken soup, Ren Duomei complimented her mother-in-law for her carefulness. At the same time, he secretly released a cold arrow, reminding the mother-in-law that she had said before that although the winged ones energize Qi, they will get angry.
Her reply this time is perfect. The first is to tell her mother-in-law that she will always remember what her mother-in-law said, and the second is to tell her mother-in-law that she also cares about her husband and worries that her husband will get angry. As soon as these words came out, although the mother-in-law was scolded, she also changed her mouth cheerfully.
's mother-in-law lost a little, so she set her sights on the potato chips Ren Duomei just took, accusing her of eating so much junk food. Ren Duomei took the potato chips and told her mother-in-law that they were bought for her husband Wei Chen. She bitterly told her husband that he was under a lot of pressure at work recently. He came back from surgery every day, and ate some junk food such as potato chips to relieve stress and feel hungry.
Every time I see Duomei getting along with her mother-in-law, I can't help but think of this sentence, "How many grievances have you experienced before you have a good temper." Despite her resignation, she eventually lost her love and marriage, and faced the unbearable derailment of her husband.
understood the details of Duomei's visit to the supermarket with her mother-in-law before she understood the truth of Zhang Weichen's derailment. The tragedy of Ren Duomei's marriage happens to be that she can bear it, she can bear it too much.
There are thousands of families with happy marriages. The happiness between Ren Duomei and Zhang Weichen happens to be the most superficial happiness I have ever seen. They seem sweeter than anyone else, and both treat each other with tenderness, but that's the crux of the matter.
1. The husband and wife never face up to the contradiction between the two
In the second half of the TV series, Zhang Weichen and Ren Duomei occasionally have some conflicts, but every time a conflict arises, the two do not face the problem and the conflict, but Fooled by "good attitude" and "extreme tenderness".
Ren Duomei knew from her best friend that Zhang Weichen did not return to China after studying abroad because his younger sister Zhou Min saw the intimate photos of the two with her own eyes, and she was still calm. With suspicion, she did not mention her inner worries to her husband, and she killed the signs with actions.
personally picked up her husband to and from get off work, and delivered a loving lunch at noon, a good wife and mother, and a calm atmosphere, suppressed Zhou Min, who was actively provocative. Ren Duomei told Zhou Min:
"Xuemei, you are beautiful and have a good family background. If you have a proper affection for my husband, it is not wrong in itself, but there are rules in this world, if you destroy If you violate this rule, or cross the line, it is wrong. Of course, if my husband does something that makes you misunderstood, I will go back and have a good talk with him. But I hope that the last time between me and you is because of this Let's talk about something."
did not alert Zhang Weichen, so he blocked Xiaosan from the door. Of course, this is just a temporary victory, and Zhang Weichen still cheats.
Although Ren Duomei didn't take the initiative to tell Zhang Weichen to keep him away from Zhou Min, he didn't really do it in a big way.
Duomei pretended to be allergic, and inadvertently mentioned Zhou Min's gift to Zhang Weichen, "You look very itchy all over your body, I think it's because of that sachet." Hearing her husband said it belonged to a younger sister, she pretended to be surprised and Sorry, "I don't know, what should I do if I threw that sachet?"
I don't know if this counts as wisdom, or a not-so-sophisticated trick.
Ren Duomei discovered her husband's problems, perhaps because she was concerned about family harmony, or perhaps because she didn't want to lose something, she never dared to really express it, but took a detour to solve it.
Like Ren Duomei, Zhang Weichen seems to be wearing a mask in marriage.
didn't want his wife to go to work, he said:
"You are born with the ability to run the house, I just really don't want you to go out and be called upon by others. As long as my wife takes the money I give her every day, I miss going home."
didn't want to have children because of his own reasons, he said:
"Wife, you must know that I will always be on your side when you encounter key problems. If we don't have children now, you will be much more relaxed. It will get worse, you love beauty so much, why did you suffer such a crime so early?"
Zhang Weichen is always gentle and elegant, hiding his true thoughts, whether good or bad, under sweet words, even if it is an unreasonable concept, even if It is an unreasonable concept. After his decoration and packaging, it has become the sweetest honey, which is actually not much different from arsenic.
2. Pretending to be happy for the sake of "happiness"
The marital relationship between Zhang Weichen and Ren Duomei is very affectionate to outsiders. The two always speak harmoniously and softly. Contradictions, until Zhang Weichen derailed Zhou Min, Ren Duomei finally "crazy" once.
's best friends and parents have told Ren Duomei that Zhang Weichen and Zhou Min have an unusual relationship, so she should be wary. Duomei was flustered in her heart, but she never talked to the "participant" Zhang Weichen about this matter. It was not until she broke Zhang Weichen and Zhou Min's kiss that she completely collapsed.
"How beautiful, why are you crazy?" Zhang Weichen shouted at Ren Duomei.
Ren Duomei didn't show weakness, "I'm crazy, can't I be crazy once?"
should be crazy. After enduring so long and so much, it will explode if not crazy.
Compared with Zhang Weichen and Ren Duomei's cautious "moderateness", Zhang Weichen and Zhou Min are obviously more comfortable when they are together. He dares to refuse, criticize, and get angry. That is the part that really belongs to "people".
Of course, this cannot be a reason for a scumbag to cheat, but it also reminds Ren Duomei that perfection, especially shaky perfection, is not the true meaning of life.
wrote at the end
Some people say that true love also includes appropriate rejection, timely praise, appropriate criticism, appropriate arguments, necessary encouragement, gentle comfort, and effective supervision.
Between Zhang Weichen and Ren Duomei, there is only gentle comfort, constant praise, and undercurrent of sweetness. This way of getting along is not too perfect, or it is inclusive without bottom line. Zhang Weichen and Ren Duomei are obviously the latter.
One is hypocrisy to hide, and the other is to swallow one's breath and pretend to be decent and elegant in marriage life with a fake face, but the heart and back are already dilapidated.
Ren Duomei's greatest sorrow is,She didn't understand until middle age: In this life, we can't get happiness from anyone else after all.
Ren Duomei, in order to keep this marriage, this family, and to maintain what she has now desperately obtained, she swallowed her anger and acted as a lowly, thinking that as long as she is good at business and knows how to be patient, she can always count her happiness. Zhang Weichen's betrayal and derailment gave her a slap in the face.
She is almost perfect, but the marriage is still broken.
understands the details of Duomei accompanying her mother-in-law to the supermarket, and then she understands the truth of Zhang Weichen's derailment. A happy marriage should be down-to-earth, instead of standing on a false bubble of beauty.
