Fifteen years ago, when " Golden Fan Family " was broadcast, I was still a little girl full of romantic bubbles. When I saw the ending, the two parted ways and cried.
recently watched this drama again, and found that is deserted and is already a good fortune teller. Think about it, in an era when so much importance was attached to family status, a poor girl married the most favored seventh young master in the Prime Minister's family, but her parents-in-law accepted it easily, and there was no conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and she couldn't give birth to a son. plot. The eldest ladies of the
Jin family all appreciate and like Leng Qingqiu. When the two of them got divorced, everyone in the Jin family felt very sorry, and Yanxi's eighth sister even cried and said, "Didn't you guys get married in free love?" "With your precedent, I will never get married in my life. !" Even if
broke up in the end, Jin Yanxi also said loudly, "I have never loved another woman in my life except for the lonely autumn."
However, since Jin Yanxi loves deserted autumn so much, why did she fail her after marriage? The first half of
's "Golden Fen Family" is a sultry romance that makes people want to fall in love every minute. Who is
Jin Yanxi? The young master of the Prime Minister's Office is born with wealth and power, and he can get everything he wants at his fingertips. With his father and brothers supporting the family business, his whole life is to have fun.
is a wealthy boy with online appearance and power and money. He is used to seeing sensuality and sensuality. He is tired of the coquettish women in the social field. When he encounters a beautiful and refined lily , he feels that she is different. .
Leng Qingqiu certainly couldn't refuse Jin Yanxi. The grand romance and love he gave her was impossible for Teacher Ouyang to give her. Some people say that Leng Qingqiu was hurt by his own vanity. But what young girl is not vain?
Romance is an ecstasy.
Don't say that the family is poor and lacks the love of the father, and the lonely autumn can't be rejected; isn't that the kind of love that most girls want? That person had better be handsome, rich, and dedicated. He would come to pick me up on a colorful cloud, which could not only protect me from worldly wind and rain, but also create dreamy surprises for me.
In front of feelings, reason is usually absent; people are the best at self-deception, and use self-hypnosis to package desires as love - deserted autumn makes mistakes that young girls are prone to make. Bewitched by the superficial romance, greedy for the benefits of love, and ignore what kind of person the other party is in essence.
So ah, "he's the most important thing to you" is the biggest lie in love.
In the dreamy sunflower flower sea, when Leng Qingqiu said that she wanted to go to university and a doctorate in the future, but Jin Yanxi only disdain, thinking that it is useless for girls to read so many books, the tragedy is actually doomed .
Do you ask Jin Yanxi to love cold autumn? Of course love. At first sight you can't say it's fake. However, he does not have the ability to love someone.
Because true love is not only heartbeat, but also responsibility, it is mutual recognition and understanding, mutual growth and commitment.
Many people say that "a man changes after he gets married, and he won't cherish it anymore when he catches up with him." In fact, the end of a relationship must be the result of the interaction between two people.
After getting married, the constant is the most terrible thing.
Love is staring at each other, marriage is all about cooperation. It requires two people to work together towards a common goal and solve internal and external problems together, which is no easier than starting a company. A happy marriage is the most test of a person's wisdom and feelings.
Jin Yanxi said that he has never changed. He really hasn't changed.
His life is all about having fun. After marriage, he still hangs out with his friends before returning home in the middle of the night; he said he loves Qingqiu, but he has never "seen" her pain, her needs.
He knew that Qingqiu would be angry, but he returned every night because he was afraid of losing face in front of his friends.
He knew it was wrong, but he danced with female stars and had too close contact with Bai Xiuzhu , but he was afraid of saying "When you get married, you are afraid of your wife." Honorable.
Not to mention, when Qingqiu had a baby, he was dating Bai Xiuzhu. His father died, the building will collapse, and he still has no remorse.
remembered that in " A Dream of Red Mansions ", Jia's house lost power and the river was declining, but Baoyu didn't realize it. Grand View Garden couldn't make ends meet and was frugal everywhere, but Baoyu said to Daiyu, "No matter how short he is, he can't be short of the two of us." It's really just the same tragedy as Leng Qingqiu.
Of course, Jin Yanxi has not changed, neither has Leng Qingqiu.
She is still the girl with a cold and arrogant heart, unable to integrate into the family order and the gossip circles of other young grandmothers, and she has not learned the rules of joining the WTO, and has both ways of doing both. Her mother's family; she still dreams of being self-sufficient, but since the day she put on her wedding dress, her wings have been broken.
They didn't change, they all wanted the other party to change to suit themselves, but in the end they ended up being separated.
What is tragedy? Tragedy is destroying the most beautiful things for you to see.
But this is not a "we will never go back" story, nor is it a tragedy of the times, but human nature. In the original work of Zhang Henshui and , the subtle and complex human nature is vividly portrayed.
Jin Yanxi, who has been soaking in the feasting, has seen a lot of courtesans, and has also experienced the arrogant temperament of a lady like Bai Xiuzhu, so he selfishly thinks that it is better to marry a wife than IKEA and IKEA. His ideal wife is An Keep your duty and don't care about him.
Leng Qingqiu said "Qi Da is not a puppet", yes, maybe Jin Yanxi didn't put her on an equal position from the beginning, let's love and respect her. He has always been aloof, how can he bend down to plan for his wife and children.
In the cold autumn, since she was reluctant to return the cheongsam material he gave, she slipped into the abyss that she couldn't control.
A happy marriage is nothing more than two basic elements, one is choice and the other is management.
When human greed and selfishness are blinded, you cannot make objective and rational choices. Love is never a panacea.
Many times, a person's wisdom and values are much more important than love.
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