mother-in-law brought a box of 100-year-old ginseng.
When Ren Duomei saw the ginseng, she complimented the quality of the ginseng, but she knew that her mother-in-law must not have bought it for her. Sure enough, the mother-in-law immediately said that ginseng was bought for Zhang Weichen, but Zhang Weichen, a Western medicine doctor, would definitely not eat it.
But in fact, that box of 100-year-old ginseng was brought by my mother-in-law and asked her to give it to Zhang Weichen's leadership. Ren Duomei paused for a moment, all the contempt her mother-in-law could not have imagined.
When Ren Duomei refused on the grounds of 's leadership style and 's strictness, her mother-in-law asked such a fatal sentence:
"What should I do, go to dinner with empty hands?"
The subtext of this sentence is: let you go. In order to help my son have a good relationship, not just eating. As for how to give gifts, how to give gifts, that is your business.
Tools
When Ren Duomei got married, her parents asked for a huge betrothal gift, but they didn't succeed. My mother-in-law believed that people who wanted a dowry were selling their daughters instead of getting married. Duomei also felt unreasonable, so she chose to stand on the side of her mother-in-law.
For this reason, the mother-in-law has always been polite to Duomei, and she still maintains the sense of proportions of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Even if he knew the password at home, as long as Duomi was not at home, he insisted not to enter the house without authorization. This makes Duomei very moved and grateful.
After more than three years of marriage, Duomei regards her mother-in-law as her "head boss", never talks back or quarrels, and listens to everything. Even if she saw her mother-in-law touch the table to check the hygiene as soon as she entered the door, she pretended not to see it, and when she was complimented, she would compliment, "It's all a good training from my mother." thanks. Even though these things were brought to Zhang Weichen, she still accepted them with joy and honor.
In Domei's heart, she cares about her husband's family and her parents' family. Because
was born in a small place, her parents inevitably have the habit of loving comparisons and greed for wealth, and she successfully married into a big city and lived in a big house. Her husband is handsome, rich and capable. Although not in accordance with the parents' ideas, give them dowry. But because of her, the standard of living of her parents' family is already top-notch in her hometown.
So, Dome's label on her mother's family is greed.
In-law's house, her in-laws have high pensions, and there are multiple properties under their names. Although they have high demands on her, at least they will not count her private property money, and they are mostly used to help, even if they are all watching For her husband's sake, but she was already content.
Therefore, Duomei's label on her husband's family is the gold master.
Because of sobriety and because of the harmony, Ren Duomei chose to give her mother-in-law. She naively thought that as long as she respected her mother-in-law enough, her mother-in-law would be sincere to her.
But after all, she can't escape the reality. Her mother-in-law doesn't need her respect at all, and she doesn't feel it if she doesn't. Even if the box of 100-year-old ginseng was rejected by the leader, my mother-in-law would rather take it back shamelessly than give it to Duomei.
As for how beautiful and well-behaved, my mother-in-law even thought it should be so. His son is so good, what kind of woman can't be found, but he married a woman who graduated from a second-class university and climbed up from a small place. In my mother-in-law's perception, the box of 100-year-old ginseng is like the stars in the sky that can be met but not obtained. Even if Duomei has been working hard in the direction of a perfect daughter-in-law, she can't shake her mother-in-law's tenacious heart.
The daughter-in-law is an outsider, a tool.
Pain
When the mother-in-law came to her daughter-in-law's house and stood outside the door waiting, she had been pacing back and forth, with more impatience on her face. When the elevator dinged and the daughter-in-law came back, the mother-in-law first sighed, and then changed her face and smiled at how beautiful it was.
Duomei has always been sensible, and my mother-in-law knows this very well. But in the eyes of mother-in-law, choose daughter-in-lawThe standard is not to be beautiful and sensible, but to be higher than or equal to the son. No matter in terms of education, family background and ability, he can't be worse than his son.
The son chose Duomei, this woman who is so different from her son everywhere, became her mother-in-law's heart disease. Why do
say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult to get along with?
The reason for the difficulty in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not only the cultivation and character of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also the awkward relationship between them. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult. The difficulty is that the two women are passively drawn together. One old and one young woman have no relationship at all. They are passively drawn together because of a man and become relatives. It is completely up to them to choose.
What is more critical is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but it is a by-product of the family. It is easier said than done to let two women who only have interests and no direct relationship coexist peacefully in a family for a long time and reach a level of harmony?
Duomei and her mother-in-law appear to outsiders as a harmonious mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Although they are not a family, they are as close as a family. But the hidden pain is only the most aware of the parties involved.
Especially her mother-in-law, she always thinks her son is very good and proud of her. Although in marriage, I don't want to destroy their mother-son relationship for an irrelevant woman. But the pimple remained in her heart.
saw that Tomei bought a vacuum cleaner , and immediately taught Tomei to use a wet mop to mop the floor, otherwise it would not be clean. However, as long as the floor is clean, who cares about how it was dragged. But in the eyes of my mother-in-law, it is a "big event" that must be corrected in time. Because she can't see a woman she doesn't like enjoying the glory brought by her son. She had to train her daughter-in-law into her second self, a woman who was selfless and not greedy for pleasure.
Why did the mother-in-law agree to Duomei's entrance, but did not accept it?
Because her mother-in-law is too contradictory, she doesn't want to make her son unhappy, nor does she want her son to hate her because of marriage. But she really couldn't overcome this hurdle, because Duomi was too far from the daughter-in-law she envisioned. Therefore, the mother-in-law picks the most beautiful thorns as much as possible while maintaining herself as much as possible. From a vacuum cleaner to cooking every meal, to when to have a baby, and parenting issues.
As long as Duomei is a little disobedient, she can trigger her mother-in-law's reverse scale.
ignorant
mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, not born enemies.
In reality, at least the daughter-in-law of the first three years of marriage respects her mother-in-law. Although she will not be as close as her mother, she will not turn against each other. However, these three years, in the eyes of the mother-in-law, are the best time to train the daughter-in-law.
How beautiful her mother-in-law seems to be gentle and harmless, but she has high requirements for how beautiful. As soon as you enter the door without sitting on a stool, check the hygiene with your hands. If she said that she was thinking about her son's living environment, it would be understandable. But the fact is that her son was away on business during this time, and Duomi was the only one at home. Even if he was really lazy and didn't do hygiene for two days, it wouldn't affect his son at all. But she still did this, in order to engrave these in Duomei's heart like a brand, and let Duomei form a subconscious self-requirement.
is even more distinct in the matter of spawning.
"I have an idea, I hope you can have a child sooner. Your family is relatively thin, so our family doesn't count on it. But you need to know that the child you will have in the future, his surname is Zhang, the Zhang family. , and we will definitely create the best material environment for him, which is not comparable to that of ordinary families." In this passage of
, "your family" and "our family" appear. Whose family is Duomei? , who gave birth to the child? Since the mother-in-law regards Duomei as an outsider, what position does she have to ask an outsider to give birth to her child? It sounds ridiculous and ignorant.
It is true that Duomei's own conditions are not good, but since she has entered a family and hopes to have offspring, she should not talk about Duomei's parents' family, let alone say "kill the chicken to get the eggs".
ironicallyMother-in-law Duomei thought her actions were decent, and she always thought that as long as she spoke softly enough, the harm caused by words could be reduced. On the one hand, the mission is to step down how beautiful her maiden family is, and on the other hand, she shows off how her family is proud of others.
ignorant! The beautiful mother-in-law of
is the most ignorant mother-in-law: not only wants to train Duomei to be as selfless and good to her son as herself, but also looks down on Duomei's background, she always has to hold high and step down to prove her superiority . Isn't it too whimsical to want the horse to run without letting the horse graze.
Remember, eating at the same table doesn't necessarily make a family.
" their name " is very realistic, especially the image of the mother-in-law is portrayed very realistically. The beautiful mother-in-law of
is from the city, and her own conditions are good. Even if she accepts a daughter-in-law from a small place, even if she knows that her daughter-in-law is pleasing to her, she still can't change her acerbic face. It's not that the mother-in-law is vicious, but it is difficult for her to treat her daughter-in-law as a family all her life.
is just like Feng Xiaoqin in " Heart ", who has been a horse in the Gu family for more than ten years, but still can't get the treatment of his family. When her husband died, the family either questioned her loyalty or tried to drive her out of the house.
But this is the real face of many mothers-in-law: Mother-in-law does not treat daughter-in-law as family, let alone daughter. There is no blood bond, nor will companionship be regarded as a long-term relationship. People are sitting at a table, but their hearts are separated by several layers of membranes. This kind of relationship is easy to establish, as long as a marriage certificate is required, but it is also easy to cut off. If you don't have a relationship, you will not know each other. There are too many trade-offs here, and there are too many chicken feathers.
is as beautiful as she is, she is very smart, she knows her shortcomings, and she also knows that her husband's family despise her. So, keep your posture low, compliment every sentence, and be obedient in everything, but so what? No matter how gentle the mother-in-law is, she is still a murdering knife. Instead of cutting at the sore spot, she will stab at the scar.
might as well not ask for her mother-in-law's approval from the beginning. Marriage is fair and a new starting point. As a human being, you should walk the road under your feet and look forward to the future. Why bother with the past and miss your vision.
Since my husband's family has opinions, we can simply take a step back and see the world. I am fortunate to get it, and I lose my life to love myself more, but it will be a lot easier.
Women, remember, marriage doesn't have to be on one side to be the best. Since sitting at a table and eating can't warm people's hearts, then no one loves and no one hates. Wouldn't it be better to be just yourself?
