On July 1, 2016, a beautiful woman was lying weakly on the bed. She weakly said to her parents beside her, "You have seen my situation. I really don't have any money for my family."
But this is It's not the most tragic, but since she became sensible, she has been subjected to constant pressure from her family. In the end, this lovely girl like an angel passed away hastily before enjoying the beauty of the world.
Suffering life
Xu Ting is from Anhui, she graduated from Sichuan Media Institute .
Her family is a very traditional feudal family. In order to have a son to pass on incense, her parents gave birth to seven children in a row, and did not give up until the seventh was a son.
Xu Ting ranked third. Living in such a family since she was a child, her parents would naturally not give her much attention.
Still, she's found something she loves: acting.
Xu Ting had an unusual interest in acting when she was young, but for her parents, instead of pursuing those out of reach things, it was better to drop out of school early to work and earn some money to support the family.
Amid the opposition, Xu Ting did not give up her dream.
Although this is her first exposure to acting, she studied by herself, studied hard, and took the exam with a passion for acting. was finally admitted to the Performance Department of Sichuan University of Media and Communications, and her grades were even more impressive.#1 .
But her grades did not change her parents' views, but caused them to dislike her even more.
According to their traditional concept, "a girl is a loser, what's the use of reading so many books", under the influence of this concept, Xu Ting's performance road is not smooth.
As soon as she was admitted to university, her family refused to give her financial support.
During the years she was in school, the tuition and living expenses were almost all earned by her work-study program. Before she finished college, she took the only 300 yuan to live in the basement of Beijing and started her own business. North drift life. The days of
can be said to be the most painful days for Xu Ting. Not only did she have to bear huge life pressure and psychological pressure, she also had to send the "extra" money home to support her family.
In the huge Beijing city , the lonely Xu Ting shuttles back and forth in the city, looking for opportunities to make money.
Since she was 20 years old, she has been running back and forth all over the country, not letting go of any chance of success, and constantly participating in various competitions, although she did not win the first place in the end, which has laid a solid foundation for her future performance road.
worked hard to live up to the expectations. When Xu Ting was 22 years old, she finally met a turning point in her life. She participated in the TV series " Dad Comes Home " starring Zhang Yishan , Yang Zi and others.
Although she is only a supporting actress in this drama, she cherishes this opportunity very much and performs her performance seriously and responsibly, so that her piece of "gold" is finally discovered by the world, and her acting career is slowly on the right track.
From 2013 to 2015, she starred in TV series such as "Second Uncle", " Brings Love Home ", " Backlight Love ", " Beidrift Fairy Tale ", " Hou Tianming's Dream " and other TV series ; "Little God is coming", " Ao 囧 " and other movies. In 2016,
and Zheng Zhongji co-starred in the comedy movie " Funny and Wonderful Night ".
Judging from her performance experience, she is a proper "model worker" in the industry. She has made so many films in just a few years. The pressure of work can be imagined, but what everyone does not know is that she worked so hard to film, but she was not. live for yourself.
Bad Luck is looking for hard-working people
On July 9, 2016, Xu Ting suddenly posted on Weibo. In
's Weibo, she said that in order not to worry fans and to prevent people with ulterior motives from spreading rumors, unabashedly admitted that she had lymphoma .
, this hard-working girl, was just about to start her dazzling life, and her ruthless fate once again made fun of her.
On Weibo, Xu Ting admitted to the public that in her 26 years of life, not a single day has really lived for herself. Everything she does is to subsidize her family.
Whether it's staying up all night filming countless times, or getting a protruding lumbar disc, and still acting in ice water in winter, everything is just to make more money, and then send it home to their only family. The younger brother pays tuition fees, rents, repays debts for his parents, and buys a new house.
She worked hard and worked hard to make dozens of movies, and she was reluctant to spend the money she saved, all of which went into the "bottomless pit" at home.
The "hard-earned money" she earned by overdrafting her health has become a "necessity" for her family to improve their lives.
When Xu Ting faced cancer, she didn't complain like other people. Her biggest thought was to be relieved.
The life that doesn't belong to her has weighed on Xu Ting for 26 years, and she can't breathe. After she got cancer, she really lived her own life. This has to be said to be a tragedy.
When Xu Ting was suffering from cancer and her life was dying, her family also took the opportunity to hype in front of the media and wanted to benefit from her.
Xu Ting's tragic life is by no means an exception, there are still many " Fan Shengmei " families, They are imprisoned by the feudal dross, attached to their daughter's body to "suck blood" frantically, and they don't care about her daughter's life. good or bad.
In their eyes, the water splashed by a married daughter is nothing more than a "commodity" used to make money.
"Fan Shengmei" cases emerge in an endless stream
There are many girls like Fan Shengmei, the heroine of the TV series " Ode to Joy ", there are many in real life, and even their cases are more magical than TV series.
In 2021, a program called "Hangzhou Peacemaker" suddenly appeared on the hot search, triggering a heated discussion among netizens about the "Fan Shengmei" family.
This incident is mainly about the tragic experience of a 24-year-old girl. The protagonist of the story of
is lolo . Born in 1996, she has just left the campus, but God has not given this young life a brighter future.
In October 2019, when Luo Luo was resting, he went for a walk near Qiantang River and suddenly encountered a high tide.
Lolo, who couldn't escape, was swept into the river by the surging tide, and an innocent soul disappeared. After the
incident, Luo Luo's parents immediately rushed to the company where Luo Luo worked and demanded monetary compensation from the company leaders.
In fact, according to relevant laws, the company is not responsible for Luo Luo's unexpected death.
But after all, considering that this little girl has worked in the company for a long time, her heart is full of flesh, and everyone has feelings, so out of humanitarianism, I decided to give some financial compensation.
During the negotiation stage, the company initially offered 20,000 yuan, but her mother said that she would give 50,000 yuan. 20,000 yuan was too little, and the company leaders agreed to after thinking about it.
But at this time, Luo Luo's uncle said again: "Since it's all fifty thousand, let's go up a little more." He directly agreed to the request of Luo Luo's family.
So the two parties reached a consensus that the company would give Luoluo's family 60,000 yuan at one time, and the agreement was signed in black and white.
What the leaders of the company didn't expect was that in just three days, Luo Luo's family went back on their word, not only tore up the original agreement, but also put forward more excessive conditions.
The confused leader of the company had a second conversation with Luo Luo's family, but what they didn't expect was that the Luo Luo family opened their mouths wide, and it cost 410,000 yuan to open their mouths. zThe leaders of the 2z
company were all stunned, but the more infuriating words were still to come. The Luoluo family first said that now our daughter has died, and there is only one son left, and the family conditions are not particularly good.
And Luoluo's father failed in business, he has no money now, and the family's life is very difficult, etc. He said a lot of high-sounding words, prepared the groundwork, and finally figured it out: I hope to get this money from the company, for My son pays a down payment on a house. The leaders of
were all laughed at such shameless words. They have seen people who sell their daughters, but they have never seen their daughters die to make money. The bottom line of the
family is beyond the imagination of ordinary people.
's unreasonable request for Luoluo's family, of course, the leader will not agree.
Luoluo's father saw that 410,000 yuan really could not be obtained, so he took the initiative to lower the requirement, saying that it would be fine to take more than 200,000 yuan, as long as he could make a down payment for his son, anything would do .
Luoluo's uncle also said that if he spends another 200,000 yuan, he will be pulled down if it doesn't work. This sentence
is really speechless. Is this what a normal elder should say?
The girl's body is not yet cold, and she doesn't think about the girl's afterlife, but sits here and bargains with the girl's life. Parents like
, do they really have "licking the calf?" What makes
even more ridiculous is that this matter has actually been resolved in November 2019.
Under the hardship of Luo Luo's family, Luo Luo's company had no choice but to pay 160,000 yuan to Luo Luo's parents, but the company made it clear that the money was not compensation, but a humanitarian "compensation".
During the whole process of negotiation between the two parties, the indifference to the girl and the numbness to the girl's death displayed by the girl's family is very chilling.
In this world, there are too many parents who care and love their children, but there are always a few people who "make up for themselves" in the role of parents. They never treat their children equally, and their gender discrimination is engraved in their bones. When did
" prefer patriarchal women " to eradicate
"patriarchal men over women", from " Linhai Xueyuan " 20, representing a kind of feudal and ignorant thought. Although
has now entered the 21st century, the emphasis on "incense" is still rooted in the minds of most people.
Ordinary families are affected by this kind of thinking. At best, they neglect to care for the girls at home, and there are some gaps in material and emotional giving.
is more serious like the above two cases, takes benefits from his daughters in the name of family members, and does not treat his daughters as people at all, thinking that they are simply "money-making tools" .
The spread and spread of this idea has greatly affected the quality of life of some women.
Some girls who have a younger brother wander abroad to save money, most of the money has to be taken away by the family, euphemistically called "subsidy for the family", in fact, all the money is used by them on the males of the family .
What's more, the daughter is a little bit more attractive, and she is up for sale.
Originally, my daughter found a guy who she likes and who also likes her.
should have tied the knot, but was abruptly torn apart by the woman's family. The birth of the terms
"high-priced bride price" and "brother-in-law" originated from this patriarchal idea.
It is undeniable that some families love their daughters very much, and they are afraid that their daughters will endure hardship after marriage, so they demand a bit higher dowry, which is understandable.
After all, when a man is looking for a daughter-in-law, he can't just say that his wife should "share weal and woe". If there is love, there must be bread. Besides, such a family will usually give an equal or higher dowry as the future living funds of the newlyweds. .
But the families who "sell their daughters" are different, they don't talk about "equivalent exchange", since wants to marry meDaughter, it means that you want to "marry" our family .
was originally just a matter of two people, but there were five or six more people, which invisibly cast a shadow on the newlywed life of the young couple.
If you grit your teeth and pass the dowry, then you will be waiting endlessly to ask for money, things and relationships from the man under the banner of "family".
Not only that, once the man fails to achieve the expected goal, then complaints and scolding will fall like raindrops. Marriages like
, which are full of stress and burdens, often don't last long.
And these are just some trivial cases caused by the idea of "preference to women", and there are more unspeakable things that are happening in our daily life all the time.
At present, we should not ignore the harm caused by the idea of "preference of sons to daughters", which will have a very serious impact on society.
First of all, the biggest manifestation of the idea of "preference of sons to women" is the decrease in the proportion of female population, resulting in a serious imbalance in the social structure. Although a large number of men can find a suitable job, they cannot find a suitable girlfriend.
The disproportion between men and women means lower marriage rates and fewer births.
At present, my country is gradually entering an aging society. The downturn of the new population will cause a serious labor shortage and hinder the normal development of society.
Secondly, the spread of the idea of "prioritizing boys over girls" has seriously affected the marriage rate in our country.
In the eyes of these women, they have already seen their parents and families treat men and women differently. Unfair treatment will make most marriageable women fear marriage and even hate men.
This kind of influence is difficult to erase the day after tomorrow. A girl who grew up in such a family environment will not change her long-standing concept with just one or two sentences.
Finally, the idea of "preference for women" can add to the burden of our lives. Most families that are deeply influenced by the idea of "preference for women" do not consider their own family circumstances at all.
After the state banned the detection of the gender of newborns, giving birth is like buying a lottery ticket. If they win, they are full of joy, and if they don't, they continue to give birth.
Some lucky people can have a son after two or three children, and with the help of the couple and their parents, they can barely survive.
, like Xu Ting, had seven children in her family, and she didn't have a good material foundation, so the final burden fell on those girls.
The son will definitely want to have a son in the future under the influence of this concept, continue to bet on luck to have children, and finally form an endless cycle of death.
I hope that everyone will treat the issue of men and women rationally. There is no throne to inherit in the new century, so why do you have to raise a son and add so much pressure to life?
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