Famous performance artist Wang Gang got a son in his 60s. In people's traditional concept, he must be very fond of his son, but the fact is just the opposite. He has his own unique views on home education.
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Use sports to cultivate son's masculinity
On August 25, 2008, famous performance artist Wang Gang had a happy event. His wife Zheng Yandong , who was 20 years younger than him, gave birth to a 4.3 kg Olympic baby boy. Wang Gang just turned 60 years old. He was old enough to have a son. He named his son Wang Yiding and nicknamed him "Ding Ding".
In people's traditional concept, the old man has a son, and Wang Gang must be very fond of his son, but what is unexpected is that although he cherishes his son, he maintains a rare rationality in family education.
Wang Gang felt that the child's physique was weak since childhood, and boys must have masculinity if they want to stand in the world. As a result, he takes a lot of care in shaping his son's gender roles.
Exercise is the best way to make your son masculine. Wang Gang is a sports fan who pays attention to all kinds of sports. Before his son was 3 years old, Wang Gang accompanied him to watch the cartoon "Bear Infested". After the age of 3, he directed his son's attention to sports programs, watching TV basically locked sports channels.
Guiding his son to fall in love with ice hockey
Wang Gang found that his son was more interested in ice sports projects and had an idea in his heart. The next day, he took his son to a youth ice hockey club in Beijing to observe the scene. Seeing his peers slid around the ice with protective gear, Tintin was envious and eager to try. Wang Gang asked the staff to find a set of protective gear for Tintin to teach him some basic skating movements and the basics of playing ice hockey. Ding Ding understood quickly, Wang Gang asked him if he would like to learn, he nodded and said yes.
What Wang Gang did not expect was that Ding Ding had become fascinated since he practiced ice hockey. Ice hockey competition is fierce and dangerous, and his wife, relatives and friends are quite critical of Tintin's ice hockey practice. Wang Gang defied all opinions and insisted that his son continue to practice.
Learning sportsmanship in football
Wang Gang likes football very much and loves watching the five major European leagues. Under his influence, Tintin also fell in love with football. Wang Gang is a fan of Real Madrid , his favorite star is C Luo . After Tintin watched many Real Madrid games, Ronaldo also became his idol.
On Tintin's 6th birthday, Wang Gang asked for Ronaldo's autographed photo through a friend as a birthday present for his son. Tintin was very happy and posted the photo in his room.
Wang Gang took the opportunity to say to his son: "Cristiano Ronaldo has become a popular player because he has a very strong professional spirit. I would like to be a guest at his house, because what he entertains his teammates is , fruit salad, , etc. Tattoos are very common among football players, but he never tattoos, just so that he can often donate blood for charity. In training, he never shows Big name, conscientious. Maybe he is not as talented as Messi in playing football, but these acquired factors make him a great football player. " After hearing this, Tintin said to his father: "In the future, I will also want to be like a football player. A great athlete like Ronaldo!"
During the 2018 FIFA World Cup in Russia, Wang Gang and his son watched live TV matches as long as time allowed. Sports can be inspiring and can give children a lot of positive energy. It is precisely because he likes sports that the 13-year-old Tintin exudes a healthy and upward vitality.
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Train his son to be versatile
Be a fun person
Wang Gang is versatile and has a place in storytelling , hosting, appraising, performance and other fields. His wife, Zheng Yandong, came from a musical family and holds a master's degree from the Central Conservatory of Music. She is currently the director of the Western Instrumental Music Teaching and Research Section of the PLA Academy of Arts, and the bishop of the cello. Such a married couple naturally has many expectations for their son's future.
From Wang Gang's heart, he hopes that his son will inherit his poetry and books in the future and inherit his mantle. After the son was separated from the bed, he made a bookcase for his son and arranged a small study room for him. After dinner every day, he read in the study, his wife practiced the piano in the study, and Ding Ding read with his fairy tale book. The home was filled with a strong learning atmosphere.
insisted on practicing the cello for his father's birthday
Zheng Yandong wanted his son to learn an instrument, and the cello was his first choice. It is difficult to get started with the cello, and the practice process is relatively boring. In order to guide Tintin to like the cello, Wang Gang gave his wife advice and recommended the 21-day habit formation method. Zheng Yandong agreed to give it a try. So she started giving her son an hour of cello lessons every day. If Tintin can stick to it for an hour, he can get 10 minutes of TV watching time, or other rewards.
Tintin is a child after all, and on the 13th day of his piano practice, he didn't want to practice. Zheng Yandong forced him to practice, he barely practiced for 20 minutes, and escaped in the name of going to the toilet. Zheng Yandong saw through his little trick and urged him to practice the piano quickly. He was so anxious that he sat on the ground and cheated.
Seeing that his son didn't want to practice the piano, Zheng Yandong came up with another solution: "In half a month it will be your father's birthday, let's make a secret agreement to practice a "Happy Birthday" song without your father's knowledge, and you will play it on his birthday. Listen to him, what do you think?"
Ding Ding also wanted to surprise his father, so he agreed to his mother's suggestion, and his attitude towards piano practice was much more correct. During that time, Wang Gang went out a lot. With the encouragement of his mother, Ding Ding practiced the piano very hard.
December 22, 2014 is Wang Gang's 66th birthday. Zheng Yandong held a banquet at the hotel to celebrate her husband's birthday, and many relatives and friends came. Before the birthday feast, Zheng Yandong took out the cello and announced to his relatives and friends, "Ding Ding is going to give Dad a special gift!" The relatives and friends looked at Ding Ding with smiles. I saw that he was not in a hurry, he stretched the bow and pulled the strings, and played a song "Happy Birthday". After the performance, Wang Gang kissed his son excitedly: "I thought you couldn't keep practicing, I didn't expect you to give me such a big surprise, thank you son!" The son's many hobbies make him an interesting person. Wang Gang believes that people cannot be friends without any fetishes. This hobby of is a hobby. People who don't have any hobbies in life are relatively boring, and it is not interesting to communicate with each other. Only with a wide range of hobbies and talents can we use our own charm to attract like-minded people.
Under the guidance of Wang Gang's philosophy, Ding Ding became very interested in aerospace when he was in kindergarten. Wang Gang often helps him check information and contact industry experts to answer some of his questions. When he was in the third grade of primary school, Ding Ding developed a strong interest in mathematics again, and his grades improved rapidly. His English grades are also outstanding, and he was selected to give an English speech about at the Winter Olympics. On holidays, Wang Gang's family of three often hold small gatherings, where the family plays, plays, and sings.
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Punctuality is a virtue
Traditional culture should also pay attention to
Punctuality
Whether at work or with friends, Wang Gang is a punctual person. He believes that punctuality is a virtue and an expression of respect for others. When educates his son, he also attaches great importance to this.
In the winter when Ding Ding was 8 years old, Wang Gang was responsible for sending him to school one day. At 6 in the morning, the alarm clock rang, and Tintin rubbed his eyes and said to sleep for another two minutes. Wang Gang reminded him: "If you don't get up again when the alarm clock rings for the third time, I won't send you to school!" When the alarm clock rang for the second time, Ding Ding didn't move, and Wang Gang ignored him. Five minutes later, when the alarm clock rang for the third time, Tintin still didn't get up. Wang Gang decided to teach his son a lesson, and he did not remind his son again.
More than an hour later, Ding Ding opened his eyes, looked at the alarm clock next to him, it was past school time, he hurriedly sat up, and asked his father with a crying voice: "Why didn't you wake me up?"
Wang Gang said sharply: "I have already reminded you that you are not punctual, so you don't have to go to school this morning."
Ding Ding burst into tears after listening to his father's words: "If I don't go in the morning, this week's little red flower will be gone. Without me, it will not only affect my evaluation of the three good students, but the teacher has to criticize me. It's all you, who has delayed my schooling!"
Facing his son's complaints, Wang Gang said solemnly: "It is not me who has delayed your schooling, but You are not punctual. I hope this time I can remind you that if a person can't even keep the minimum work and rest time, it will be very difficult for him to do much in the future! " After this correction from Dad, Ding Ding will get up later become very punctual.
attach importance to traditional culture
In the process of teaching his son, Wang Gang paid great attention to the influence of traditional culture on his son. Every year on the first day of the new year, Wang Gang's house is very lively. The eldest daughter Wang Tingting brought her foreign husband and a pair of children to pay New Year's greetings to Wang Gang. The children’s favorite part is when the elders give out red envelopes. The red envelopes don’t have to be handed out, but they must be kneeled on the ground and kowtowed. The kowtow ceremony is very formal, one after another according to seniority.
The kowtow ceremony began. Wang Gang and his wife sat upright, with a small square rug in front of them. The younger generation knelt down one by one to kowtow to Wang Gang and his wife, and they had to say a few auspicious words to receive the red envelope. Since he became sensible, Ding Ding has kowtowed to his parents every year to say New Year's greetings. Wang Gang asked him to have new ideas in his New Year's greetings, and he couldn't be the same every year. Every time he kowtows to his parents, Ding Ding has to consider words and phrases and try to express new ideas.
When it was Wang Tingting's children's turn to kowtow, because Ding Ding was an uncle and was of great seniority, Wang Gang invited his son to the sofa next to him and asked him to accept the kneeling of his nephew and niece together. Infected by that atmosphere, Tintin behaved very seriously, and even put his lucky money into a red envelope, and then stuffed it into two juniors.
In his life, Wang Gang also used Tintin's "uncle" status to make a fuss. He taught his son: "You are an uncle and an elder, so you must set an example for your nephew and niece everywhere. You must stay ahead in your studies, not picky eaters in your life, be polite and cultivated, and be a qualified and outstanding uncle." Dad's words are very convincing, and in front of his nephew and niece, he pays attention to regulating his words and deeds everywhere.
Now, Wang Gang is 73 years old and is a veritable "father". He knew that he could only accompany his son on a journey of life.When he has other jobs, his greatest joy is to "waste time" at home with his son. When Ding Ding was 3 years old, Wang Gang bought a Hetian Baiyu seal through auction, with the words "Zhi Aier De" engraved on it in regular script. On Ding Ding's 12th birthday, Wang Gang solemnly gave him this seal. hoped that he could get wisdom and love, and take a good life in the future.
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Author: Xinran
Editor: Zhuang Qingqing
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