who watched " know whether " said that the prosperity of the family was due to the efforts of four generations of daughters-in-law. This sentence
somewhat negates the hard work of the male students of the Sheng family who study hard and study hard. But the fact is that it can only be said that the men of the Sheng family will choose their daughter-in-law.
The grandfather of the Sheng family made a lot of money by starting his own business. Since ancient times, businessmen have been ranked the lowest in society. Naturally, he wanted to change his identity.
so spent a lot of money to marry the daughter of a declining official family. This official lady seems to have brought good genes and gave birth to three sons, one of which is the blockbuster Tanhua Lang, which is Sheng Hong's relative. father.
The grandfather of the Sheng family was naturally very happy, and quickly took advantage of the popularity of Tanhualang, bought a large house in the capital, and then married the only daughter of Yong Yihou, Xu, as his wife.
Although this Tanhua Lang was a bit lustful and spoiled his concubine, the wife he married was a good one. The couple turned against each other because of the affair of the concubine, but after Tanhua Lang died, the first wife did not choose to remarry. Take care of the concubine, take care of the Sheng family, and continue to let this concubine shine on the lintel of the Sheng family.
This concubine who was taken care of by her aunt was Sheng Hong. For the sake of Sheng Hong's future, her aunt Xu rejected the concubine that her family had put in, and asked Sheng Hong to marry the youngest daughter of the Wang family. Wang Ruofu . The Dongfeng of the Wang family, and the help of a wealthy businessman's cousin Sheng Wei, Sheng Hong's career was also smooth sailing, and he quickly rose from a sixth-rank junior official to a fourth-rank official.
Sheng Changbai , as the eldest son of Sheng Hong, after being a jinshi in the imperial examination, he even married Hai Chaoyun, the youngest daughter of 's fifth generation Hanlin Hai family. one floor.
From this point of view, the prosperity of the Sheng family is really achieved by marrying a daughter-in-law.
Although the Hai family is not a family of lords or princes and nobles, it is a family of Qingliu family, a family of five generations of Hanlin, in a dynasty that emphasizes civility and disregards martial arts, it is really as rare as winning the lottery to be able to form a family with the Hai family.
Having said that, Hai Chaoyun has such an excellent family, why did he like Sheng Changbai who just passed the Jinshi examination?
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Compared with the Haijia, the Sheng family has only two generations of official names, and Sheng Hong is only a minor official. Even if Changbai is a Jinshi in one stroke, the ranking is not high, Haijia chose Changbai as the Is the son-in-law really interested in his strength? To conclude that he is a potential stock?
is not always the case, wants to marry a high-class and low-married daughter-in-law, it's easier said than done, you have to use a snack machine , which is the same as when the old lady of the Sheng family begged the prince's house to Sheng Hong. The old lady
found an official friend she had made with Sheng Hong's father back then, and brought Sheng Hong to the Wang family to meet in person and ask for marriage.
said that the more the mother-in-law looked at the son-in-law, the more she liked it, even if the old man Wang did not look down on Sheng Hong, he felt that his rank was too low.
The old lady Wang fell in love with Sheng Hong, and felt that he was handsome and honest, so she gave him her youngest daughter Wang Ruofuxu.
It was Sheng Changbai's turn. The old lady also entrusted Changbai to personally go to the Hai family to propose a marriage. The elders of the Hai family met in person, and the daughter of the boudoir who did not show up well hid behind the screen and peeked.
Changbai naturally looks like a tree in the wind, and behaves gracefully, so it is easy to capture the heart of the young lady.
Sheng's family is a small portal, and its boys are naturally not as socially visible as those of the princes and nobles, and they are not as well-known as others.
The best way to sell yourself is to take the goods with you, without seeing anyone, no matter how good the intermediary is, the other party will not fully believe it, and later you have to inquire carefully.
comes to visit by himself, firstly, he can show himself, secondly, he can please the other's parents, and thirdly, he can tease the boudoir girl's heart.
invite people to promote yourself, it is better to speak for yourself and speak with facts.
Sure enough, Sheng Changbai successfully won Hai Chaoyun when he arrived at Haijia.
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Hai Chaoyun saw her in-laws for the first time after their marriage, and Sheng Hong said to her: " can marry you because our Sheng family has climbed high.. " is actually a blessing for Hai Chaoyun to marry Sheng Changbai.
The Hai family chose Sheng Changbai as their son-in-law, which is also considered to be a general among the lame. Although the men of the Hai family are good at marrying wives, the women are not so popular. One sentence: Haijia's daughter is not easy to marry .
Haijia's family background is so good, father and brother are important members of the court, why is it difficult for daughter to marry?
The reason lies in Haijia's family rules.
Haijia's The family rules are that does not allow men to take concubines . Thinking about that era, it was the norm for men to have three wives and four concubines, and some people were proud of having wives and concubines in groups. It's really commendable!
So every woman wants to marry into the Hai family. First, she has a good face, and secondly, she doesn't have to worry about Yingying Yanyan in the backyard.
The girls who grew up together also follow the rules of men. Although they know that their in-laws will not have such an enlightened policy in the future, but before , there was an example of brother and sister-in-law's love, and I naturally didn't want to accept it. His own men go to take concubines.
So the daughter of the Hai family can't tolerate concubines, and everyone knows that.
For the patriarchal society at that time, Women's concubines are capital for men to show off, and men are not allowed to take them A concubine is probably the same as not allowing men to drink now, which is unacceptable to most men.
And when people marry a wife, they want to spread their branches, and they have more children and more blessings. The number is limited, and seriously, it was unfilial at the time.
The Sheng family knew the rules of the Hai family, and the Hai family also inquired about Sheng Changbai, and knew that he was determined to obtain fame, and there was no problem with his style on weekdays. There were a few girls who passed through the room, but they had already let go of the conversation at that time. In the future, whether to go or stay and listen to the arrangement of the wife.
Speaking of it, the Sheng family also gave up in order to marry the Hai family and make Changbai's career smoother in the future. Some so-called men's rights, but fortunately, Changbai himself doesn't want these rights. Compared with his father Sheng Hong, he is really not good in this regard.
Although the Haijia has stricter standards for choosing a son-in-law, the most important thing is his unique vision. Advanced, don't ask for the high marriage of children, at least do it, but ask for one's heart.
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After Hai Chaoyun passed through the door, he quickly cleaned up Changbai's backyard, and the two young, beautiful and coquettish people passed through the house. After driving them away, only the plain-looking and honest sheep remain. If
drives away all the houses, even if the Hai family's family rules are there, but now she is a daughter-in-law in the Sheng family, it is inevitable that she will be left behind. Jealous of the reputation of the shrew tigress.
left an honest sheep, because the sheep have no competition Li, when he is not even comfortable or pregnant, he can block the elders in the family to give the elder sister to the elder.
Second, since she was willing to break the rules of her own family, keep a concubine by Changbai's side, and give Changbai a face in front of her colleagues and friends, then Changbai will naturally remember her goodness.
But Every time Yanghao has sex with Changbai, she will still prepare a bowl of safflower soup and watch Yanghao drink it.
She can keep Yanghao in order to check and balance all kinds of things around her, but she will never allow Yanghao to get pregnant and give birth to a child. Sheng Changbai's child can only be born to her.
Hai Chaoyun's various behaviors towards Yanghao are really the most ruthless calculations among noble ladies.
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Hai Chaoyun married Sheng Changbai. It seems that the Sheng family has climbed high. In fact, if a woman like Hai Chaoyun hadn't married Sheng Changbai, I am afraid that her husband's family would not be able to tolerate her.
Therefore, in the marriage between the Hai family and the Sheng family, there is no saying that whoever takes advantage and who suffers, everyone puts the gains and losses on the bright side, which is much better than a temporary deception in exchange for a never peaceful life later.
Be honest with others and be true to yourself, so that you can be treated with sincerity by others.
Hai Chaoyun is a wise woman, Changbai is also a wise man, they both know exactly what they want!
