Zhihu: What kind of men are most unacceptable to women at
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ranks among the top three: cheating, violence, and mom.
It is true that Ma Baonan is among the top three, but many mothers do not feel that there is a problem with the way they get along with their children.
But if this is the case, it must be caused by intimacy across the border.
The mother who let her son sleep in separate rooms at the age of 15?
What is the intimacy of the world?
Taiwanese actress Di Ying once revealed in the show that she "spoiled" her son: He grew up by his side, and he helped him do everything without him.
A normal child is weaned at the age of one or two, but his child is not weaned until the age of 12.
When Sun Anzuo was a child, Di Ying took him to a marathon-style kissing contest. Most of the participants were couples and lovers, but she actually took her son to kiss for a few hours, which is simply shocking.
After Sun Anzuo was 11 years old, he would sleep next to his mother Di Ying, and even when his son was 15 years old, he would occasionally sleep with his parents.
As the second generation of stars, Sun Anzuo is quite famous in Taiwan. Di Ying has taken him to many variety shows, and has also boldly shared "fun stories about parents and children" many times.
said that for the sake of his son's health, watching him eat for seven hours a day and gaining 5 kilograms of fat a month; for the safety of his son, Di Ying asked him not to go out alone before the age of 18.
Her tone is full of complacency, as if raising a son like this is an amazing way.
Di Ying also attaches great importance to the growth and education of her son. She has been studying in aristocratic schools since she was a child. The tuition fee for a year in high school is nearly 600,000 Taiwan dollars. After graduation, she was sent to study abroad.
After Di Ying married Sun Peng, she still does her own way. He often goes out for drinking, shopping, spending money like water, and cares nothing about his family.
Sun Peng complained that the money she made to record the show was not enough for the tip she gave to the driver. So countless quarrels exacerbated the breakdown of the relationship, and they divorced for the fifth year together.
In order to distract the pain that the feelings brought to her, she focused on the child's daily life and education, and even imposed the desire to control on her son, preventing him from seeing his father.
Di Ying has devoted a lot of effort to her son, and she firmly believes that his son will become a pillar of society in the future.
One day, the teacher told Di Ying that her son once said to her: "I want to grab the classmate's father, because his father is good!" So Di Ying reflected on herself, and then the family reunited.
Di Ying cherishes the family after her remarriage very much, and she broke off all relations with her sisters. A healthy relationship is about living in each other's lives, rather than giving up her social circle for anyone.
She prides herself on putting all her heart on her family. Later, she laughed at herself on the show, "I have no friends!"
For this reason, family is her only focus. She thought she used her mother’s love to forge a fortress of copper and iron walls. , Let Sun Anzuo grow up unharmed——
Sun Anzuo is 11 years old, and the elementary school Sun Anzuo could not go out alone. He was weaned at the age of 12. He would sleep with Di Ying every night when he went home. Under underwear.
Until Sun Anzuo was 15 years old in adolescence, he saw that his body would have a physiological reaction, and this completely let the child sleep separately. The fortress of
really kept the child never injured, and successfully imprisoned him by her side, because she believed that this would definitely make her son become a talent in the future.
But she could not think of it, but her excessive love sent Sun Anzuo to prison by herself.
Spoiling and causing evil results. Life-long ban from entering the United States
In 2018, 18-year-old Sun Anzuo made an unforgivable mistake while studying in the United States, which was very different from Di Ying's expectations.
Because he told his classmates, "I want to attack the school with a gun, you better not go." As a result, the classmates were afraid of an accident and called the police. The
police found a lot of illegally possessed pistols and ammunition in his residence.
So he was really imprisoned in a foreign country, detained for four months, then repatriated back to the country, and will not be allowed to enter the United States for his entire life.
After returning to China, the 20-year-old Sun Anzuo was taken by Di Ying to do charity and participate in variety shows, hoping to wash his face in entertainment, so as to wash his son. In the
variety show, even Wu Zongxian directly criticized: “He made a mistake and was too stupid.Intimidation? "
Di Ying has an almost paranoid desire to protect, she is totally unreasonable. He beats the staff twice for the sake of his family, and even the protector pointed at Wu Zongxian eagerly.
Under the protection of his mother, Sun Anzuo continued to be confused. Living. Some Taiwanese media later revealed that he was ganging up with different female Internet celebrities Chengri, who disappeared irresponsibly after becoming pregnant.
Why did Di Ying protect and doting her child so much?
She was born. In an ordinary family in Taiwan in the 1960s, her father died young, and her mother took their four children alone. It was very difficult to make a living.
Seeing her mother being pointed and bullied by others at a young age, she secretly vowed to be promising and protect her family. .
Di’s mother made a living by singing operas. Di Ying, who grew up in a theater company, was fascinated by her kung fu. With this skill, Di Ying used martial arts knives to chase the boys who bullied herself all over the street. Fight until the other party begged for mercy.
Di Ying’s violent character comes from having suffered enough in childhood, so he hopes to protect her family from harm.
entered the showbiz, and she gradually succeeded by relying on it. Career, became defiant, deliberately cruel to the opponent actors when filming, not only did not apologize, she also proudly said: "The actors I have kicked will be popular. "
In Di Ying’s past scenery, her career went smoothly, her love in her life was happy, she was young and ambitious, but Di Ying didn’t know how to cherish, but became more arrogant.
So later the Taiwanese media didn’t buy it at all, which attracted netizens to their family. Squirting wildly.
Sun Anzuo still hid behind his mother after making mistakes and even breaking the law, letting her shelter herself from the wind and rain.
Faced with his son's behavior, Di Ying not only did not criticize education , Is still blindly indulging, and it seems that he doesn’t care about his son’s perception of right and wrong. What exactly can
bring to the child with such a weird cross-border protection?
Appropriate intimacy and healthy growth
Di Ying has never felt right The child’s spoiling is what caused him to go astray. She is more willing to believe that protecting the child from harm can help him become a dragon and a phoenix.
In the old saying, there is an idiom called "children avoid mother", which means that after the son grows up, parents should know how to avoid taboos, especially mothers, and pay more attention to protecting each other's privacy.
If Di Ying had been educating her sons to be different between men and women, not condoning their sons, and respecting women, maybe they would not have the evil results they have now, and the spoiling would ruin the child's life.
Everyone should have different ways to face different people, especially the opposite sex. Don't confuse gender awareness, respect privacy, and children will have the concept of boundaries.
In fact, "girls avoid their fathers" is the same. If the role of the father is not well guided, it will have an adverse effect on the establishment of the children's consciousness and affect the children's growth.
Proper love can make children grow up better and create a more harmonious parent-child relationship. "Appropriate withdrawal" is the right way to love them.
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