The second brush "The Adventures of Tom Sawyer" has become a mother, I know more about family education

saw this film a long time ago, and at that time I only thought Tom was a clever ghost. After I was born as a mother, I watched this film again, and I got more new thinking and new inspiration about family education.

01. Tom’s personality: his innocent, lively, unfettered personality makes him unique; in real life, how should our parents educate children who are naughty and active?

Tom is a clever, witty and naughty boy. Both his parents died since he was a child, and he lived in aunt Polly, who was strict and loved him. Tom is lively and active, very clever, often comes up with many ghost ideas, and does not like to learn, always like playing truant to go fishing, wandering with the tramp Huckleberry Finn, playing "pirates", and collecting all kinds of strange objects.

Once, Tom was punished by Aunt Polly to paint the wall outside the house for stealing food. Painting the walls with lime in the sun is certainly not a bad job. But the clever Tom turned hard labor into a right, and used it to exchange many "priceless treasures" such as apples, stone marbles, and dead cats with the children around him. He chewed the apple leisurely, watching his friends, sweating, taking turns painting the wall.

Tom Sawyer 's tricks not only made other children willing to work for him, but also automatically offered thanks, which is extremely witty. Later Tom and Huck fled to the desert island. People couldn't find them everywhere. They found their things in the river and thought they were drowned.

then held a funeral for them in the church, but when they were sad, they hid in the church bell tower to eavesdrop. This was originally a serious matter, and it was really fun in Tom's eyes. When Tom showed up at the church, Aunt Polly was angry and loved, slapped Tom, hugged him, and was glad he was fine.

In my opinion, his fighting of wits with Aunt Polly can make the kind-hearted Aunt Polly helpless to him every time, and Tom can always be complacent with victory there. From Tom’s performance, I saw the joy of childhood, the innocent children, annoying and joyful, how cute they are. This is what makes him different from other well-behaved children.

So, in life, facing strange and naughty children, many parents also have a headache, so how to guide this type of children correctly? Let me talk about these three points of view:

①Learn to play with your children. When children get into trouble, you should not beat and scold them

bear children, you can’t beat, scold, talk, but you can’t endure it in silence. If they come to your house to play, be sure to play with them! They may move things, tear them at random, and make a mess of the house. At this time, no matter how you hate them, you can't beat or scold them, learn to distract and let them play happily.

When you have fun with them, they will naturally be very happy. At this time, you can make a reasonable request to let them clean up the house, and they will naturally obey, because they have had a good time and are easily satisfied when they are happy.

②Learn to observe words and colors, understand the child’s emotional changes

Bear child, if you understand his mood, he will also be obedient. The key is whether you use the right method. They like to make trouble when they are happy, and when they are unhappy, they will be peaceful, but if they are unhappy and something provokes them, they will keep crying.

Therefore, learn to observe words and colors, look at the expressions of children, and judge how they are feeling. If the children are upset, they must play with them, chat with them, and tease them. Otherwise, it is very annoying for them to make trouble. When the children are happy, many things will be solved.

③Learn to use gadgets to attract children's attention, and let them be obedient

In the eyes of some bear children, your bracelet and souvenirs from your friends are no different from toy guns with a few dollars outside. They are all attractive They are just eyeballs. You know, they are crying and wanting your baby, and they are in the same mood as they want to eat an ice cream on the street.

You cherish these things very much for fear of being damaged by your children. However, if you don't give it to them, they cry and make noise. Therefore, you can bring some worthless gadgets with you when you face the bear kids, and give them to them when they want, so that they will not make trouble.

02. Tom's performance when facing bad guys: brave and just, smart and upright, how should we in life properly cultivate children's sense of justice and responsibility?

In the middle of the night, Tom and Huckleberry went to the cemetery to "experiment" the method of treating warts with dead cats. They accidentally encountered a murder case-Dr. Robinson, Indian Joe and Potter the drunk A personal dispute occurred. In anger, Indian Joe killed Dr. Robinson, and blamed the stunned Potter for the murder.

Tom and Huck, who were scared enough at the time, vowed to keep the matter strictly secret, but Tom has been in a state of anxiety for a long time. He often had nightmares at night, dreaming that Indian Joe came to trouble him, and was often awakened by scares. He really couldn't bear such a life. Even Indian Joe really took the opportunity to come to his house to observe Tom's every move. Tom was nervous and uneasy, so Indian Joe realized that Tom was not a fuel-efficient lamp.

Soon after, the court wanted to hear the murder of Dr. Robinson, because the knife was transferred to Potter's hands. Everyone thought the murderer was Potter. Tom knew that Potter was framed. He wanted to sue Indian Joe and finally overcome his fear and told the truth in court. But Joe ran away on the spot. Tom broke his vow with Huck and got himself into trouble. He fell into extreme anxiety.

In my opinion, although Tom has violated his vow with his friends, he cannot just sit back and watch when his life is being framed innocently. Even if it would cause him great harm, he chose justice, revealed the truth, showed a brave side, and did not bow to the evil forces. In the face of the choice of his own interests, Tom's behavior is worthy of everyone's thinking.

Tom and Huck walked into a "haunted" old house by the river. They went upstairs, and after a while, they saw two people coming downstairs. It turned out that it was Indian Joe and his accomplices. The two men had gotten a lot of money from somewhere and were buried in the ground. Unexpectedly, I dug a box out of the ground and opened it. It was full of money. At this time, the Indian heard a little noise, and he suspected that there was someone upstairs, so he wanted to go up and take a look. Tom and Huck were not knowing what to do when the decayed stairs collapsed and Indian Joe failed to go upstairs.

Later, Tom found out that Indian Joe was living in an inn. Together, he and Huck moved out the cash box while Indian Joe was out. A few days later, Becky, Tom and some other friends went to a "picnic party." They came to McDougall Cave, a maze of caves to play. Tom and Becky patronized and played, separated from the crowd and lost their way.

They went through twists and turns in the cave. Hunger, thirst, darkness and fear kept attacking the helpless. After several days, they did not find a way out. Even more frightening is that they saw Indian Joe in the cave. Indian Joe won't let them go. They climbed up and down the ladder. To protect Becky, Tom made Becky up and he was down.

Indian Joe wanted to retaliate against Tom. Although Tom was scared, but still wise, he cut off the ladder and finally escaped with Becky. Tom told Becky's father Judge Thatcher about Joe the Indian in the cave. The judge took people to check, the door was opened, but the Indian Joe starved to death.

Tom Sawyer’s bravery, not surrendering to evil forces, for justice, revealing the truth, even if it puts himself in crisis, don’t see innocent people being victimized. When he meets Indian Joe who is critical to himself, he and Becky are together, and the first thing he thinks of is to protect the girl he likes and let himself deal with Indian Joe. The sense of justice and courage in a child is vividly reflected in Tom.

If there is no Tom, the innocent people in the town will not be rescued, and the evil forces will frame more people. It is precisely because of Tom's bravery and integrity that the bad guys in the small town have been punished as they deserve. Only by choosing kindness and justice and bravely facing evil forces will life be less dark.

So in life, how to educate children to learn to be brave, and how to properly cultivate children's sense of justice and responsibility?

First of all, inculcate the concept of right and wrong to the child, and let the child form his own judgment .

According to the nature of individual moral judgment results, Kohlberg divides the individual’s moral development into three levels and six stages. Children at the pre-conventional level,Approximately in kindergarten and elementary school lower middle grade. Children at this stage still lack the concept of right and wrong. They abide by the norms, but have not yet formed their own opinions. Therefore, this stage is the best time to instill the concept of right and wrong.

For example, observe the behavior of a child. If the child’s behavior is bad and needs criticism, and the child’s behavior is good and upright, encourage and support it. In this way, the child will think that the things that are criticized are all bad, and the things that are praised are all good, forming a self-judgment.

Secondly, let the children watch positive energy videos, which will affect the children subtly. As a means of spreading positive energy,

video has an intuitive and vivid effect. For children who are lively and active and have difficulty listening to their parents' preaching, watching positive energy videos can directly stimulate the children's nerves and let them know what is good and what is bad. The child can learn from the video what the parent does not know how to teach.

For example, let children watch "Law and Ethics". The TV carefully tells a story that is news, documentary, and case-based, and focuses on deep thinking on both sides of law and morality, popularizing legal knowledge and promoting social morality. Children can not only improve the ability to distinguish right from wrong, but also learn legal knowledge, so that knowledge can be internalized in the heart and externalized in action, thereby fighting bad behavior.

Finally, simulate the situation and let the children participate in relevant performance activities to experience the real situation.

Situational learning is the learning completed in situational activities, which is very important for children to get the feeling of the real situation. This kind of learning is not only integrated with the real practical context, but also can closely simulate the needs of practice, allowing children to develop the ability to discover and solve problems in the context.

For example, let children participate in stage drama performances, acting on the role of promoting justice and fighting evil forces. The performance can not only simulate the real situation, but also enable children to cultivate their sentiments, show their youthful vitality, experience their own feelings in the simulated situation, and realize how justice is to fight against bad behavior.

03. Faced with children who are as naughty and active as Tom in real life, how can parents guide them to focus on learning and doing things?

In life, many parents mistakenly think that their children have "hyperactivity disorder", especially young boys. In fact, in many cases, this is caused by the wrong parenting method of the parents. In short, it is a good thing in most cases of children being active, but parents have no use to guide education. In the

movie, Tom is a clever boy. He is very dissatisfied with real life. He wants to be a hero in the green forest and live a life of justice. In the eyes of his aunt, he was naughty and mischievous, but he couldn't help but like him. Tom is just a child. Although he likes to cause trouble, he has a good heart.

Every time Tom and Aunt Polly fight wits, we only see Tom’s aunt Polly’s head smoked, but we ignore that Tom’s cleverness never involves personality insults and harm to life. , His cleverness is only used in the little things that can make him lazy.

is like Tom being punished by Aunt Polly to paint the walls. Tom used his ingenuity and unknowingly made his little friend become Tom’s "captive" voluntarily. Not only did he paint the wall for Tom, but he also lost his apple in order to paint the wall. When the children rushed to paint the wall, Tom was secretly happy.

Tom is not a down-to-earth child, children are all playful by nature, and Tom is no exception. However, children cannot learn to be lazy and clever since they are young. If they do not learn to do things steadily since they are young, they will develop the habit of opportunism when they grow up.

Because Tom Sawyer has lost his parents since he was a child, he often lacks some education. He is not a good boy in the eyes of many people. He is always "disobedient", he knows to play, skip school, run out in the middle of the night, go to terrible places such as the cemetery, and always do worrying things.

Despite Tom Sawyer's resourcefulness, he is still a child after all. Although it is normal for a child to be naughty, in real life, if the child is too naughty, the parents will be especially big-headed, and they must always worry about whether the child will cause anything. At this time, the education of parents to their children is particularlyIs important.

In life, facing a naughty child like Tom, how can parents guide them so that they can learn to do things in a naughty way?

① Let the children form the concept of honoring labor and improve their enthusiasm for doing things

In modern society, many children are spoiled since childhood and hardly do housework. Many parents also consider that their children are still young and are not suitable for housework, so their children leave. The working environment. As the saying goes, diligent parents will nurture lazy children. If children have not formed the concept of glorious labor since childhood, then they will remain lazy in the future.

Therefore, children should learn to be diligent from an early age. Parents should encourage them to do things, encourage them to work, do the housework within their capacity, and reduce the burden on parents a little bit. Even if they do not do well, as long as they often say some praise and encouragement to them, they will be willing to do housework. Gradually, they feel that labor is a glorious thing.

②Parents lead by example and let their children be responsible for their own affairs in their parents’ words and deeds. There was a news from the Chongqing Morning Post that a 3-year-old girl who was late for the classroom said "I have money" twice in order to enter the classroom. This surprised parents who also took their children to training courses, but this teacher said that it is commonplace, and children say this almost every month.

A 3-year-old child has no idea of ​​money, but blurted out "I have money". It can be seen that in her family, parents have indeed passed on to her the value of "If you have money, everything is done".

3-year-old children have not yet formed their own value judgments, they are deliberately imitating adults in every move, and they need correct guidance and education. Parents should lead by example and let their children know that it is their own business to be late, and to bear their own mistakes instead of being willful with money.

③ Use the reward mechanism to reward children in time when they perform well, so that children learn to develop good habits in the rewards. Parents should know that praise and rewards can more effectively stimulate their children's motivation to do things than criticism and accusations. Praise and reward children effectively, and reward them according to their specific circumstances. Regarding rewards as some kind of information that implies good deeds, it is of no value in itself, it is only used to attract children's attention.

When children do something wrong, but they have the courage to take on the mistakes and correct themselves, this is a good performance. At this time, encourage the child's behavior in time. For the child, he did something wrong, admits his mistake, and was not blamed. The child will be very happy and will continue to maintain good behavior.

To sum up:

"The Adventures of Tom Sawyer" I believe many friends have seen it when they were young, but after adulthood, I believe that if we watch this film again, we can see and learn more about family education problems and solutions method. In the story of

, ​​Tom is a brave and resourceful child who yearns for freedom and the future. His childhood is full of vitality and fun. Tom Sawyer's personality and experience still have great significance for the education of parents to children in modern life. The film is worthy of our parents' repeated contemplation.