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The top men in the Chinese literature and art circles, writers, creators, producers, and chairman of Ali Group, can just talk about life experience and can open a talented person who can open a "Dawn Talk" program.
Since ancient times, talents must have beautiful companions. Gao Xiaosong, who is more than half a hundred years old, has had two marriages, both of them are vigorous and heart-warming. In the second marriage, the age difference with his wife of 19 years has been widely discussed.
01, Xiaosong's person
Gao Xiaosong comes from a real scholarly family. The three generations up are all scholars, and all of them have made extraordinary achievements. His grandfather has been the president of Tsinghua University, and the founder of Shenzhen University. His parents and relatives are also different subjects. Leading figure.
When Gao Xiaosong was a child, he could visit Liang Sicheng's house to listen to Su Yu telling stories. The characters most people can only see in books are familiar people to him.
Gao Xiaosong himself was directly admitted to the Department of Electronic Engineering of Tsinghua University from Beijing No.4 Middle School. If there were no accidents, he should have inherited the family tradition and become a renowned scientist.
However, the young Wen Qingmeng made him choose to drop out of Tsinghua University and enter the preparatory class of Beijing Film Academy. Since then, he has started a romantic and free literary life.
In 1988, Gao Xiaosong was a college student who had just been admitted to Tsinghua University.
In 1988, Xi Youmi should have been named Xu Shanshan at this time, and he fell to the ground in Shangqiu, Henan.
In the early 1990s, Gao Xiaosong, who had just entered university, began to think about the meaning of life and developed a strong yearning for music. He formed a "bronze band", took the piano to Hainan to sing, and fell in love with the female students of Xiamen University who he met during the wandering process. During the time
was in the South, young and like-minded friends and sweet lovers gave birth to Gao Xiaosong's creative enthusiasm. It was also during this time that he wrote the song "You at the Table" that is still regarded as a classic.
In 1994, "Campus Ballads" published by Dadi Records included part of Gao Xiaosong's creations. Since then, campus ballads have spread all over the country, laying the foundation for the "originator of campus folk songs", but in the same year, because of different future plans, Gao Xiaosong and his girlfriend End the relationship.
In 1999, Gao Xiaosong drove past the University of International Business and Economics. He accidentally saw Shen Huan at the entrance of the school. He was shocked. After being introduced to him, he proposed marriage three days later, and they divorced three years later.
Through the first marriage, Gao Xiaosong's attitude towards love can be seen. When you meet someone you like, you won’t miss it easily, go all out in pursuit, and dare to give a promise of marriage, but when one day you don’t love anymore, you won’t be procrastinated, and simply separate.
02 and Jinfengyulu met at
. One year, the Miss Shenzhen contest held by "Southern Capital" invited Gao Xiaosong as a judge. The 17-year-old Xu Shanshan attracted Gao Xiaosong as a contestant.
has traveled in the literary circle for many years. Gao Xiaosong, who has read countless beauties, even confessed sincerely: "Her eyes and face are long and hair, which meets all my standards for beauties."
is an insurmountable 19-year-old age difference and two people. Completely different levels of education cannot stop Gao Xiaosong, who is extremely romantic in love.
Gao Xiaosong helped Xu Shanshan to change her name to Xu Canjin and sent her to study in the United States. Although Xu Canjin’s academic qualifications are still unknown to this day, the experience of living in the United States has indeed brought the gap between the two people closer.
In February 2007, 19-year-old Xu Canjin married Gao Xiaosong. The two held a simple ceremony in the United States, and they had a daughter after marriage.
Gao Xiaosong said about this relationship: "When Xu Canjin was with me, she was still very young and had not even entered the society, so her basic worldview was shaped by me. My wife's views on the world and even listening to some music 、What movies we watch are all influenced by me, so most of our thoughts are the same. I think this is very happy.”
Actually, it is not difficult to understand when thinking of Gao Xiaosong’s past experience. After all, I want to be at the same age. It is not easy for people to find a vision of his mind, let alone a girl under 20 years old.
For Xu Canjin, the world brought by Gao Xiaosong should be rich and colorful. This man who has been regarded as a successful figure in the literary circle will play the guitar and sing "You at the Table" to her, and will accompany her and his daughter to the beach to play , Will cooperate with sending some romantic and poetic sentences on Weibo. zFor a long time, 1z
mentioned that Xu Canjin must add "Gao Xiaosong's little wife". People may not have any malicious intent, but it does reflect the disparity in their relationship to a certain extent.
03, over the age difference of 19 years, but the itch of seven years
This 19-year "father-daughter love" has been attacked by rumors from the day it started, and the people who eat melons speculate with relish when they will break up, but they did not expect From marriage to having children, and occasionally showing affection, the journey went smoothly.
Until everyone almost forgot the age difference of the loving couple, in 2014, the two announced their divorce through Weibo, and the formalities were completed a year ago.
rushed for a while, and speculation about whether the two would not escape the seven-year itch or another loved one flooded the Internet. The parties concerned did not respond after making a breakup statement, leaving people with more speculation.
As a great talent in the literary circle, although Gao Xiaosong is not a promiscuity, he definitely has nothing to do with long-term love. He has always been honest and straightforward in dealing with feelings.
In a later interview, Xu Canjin mentioned the divorce, and once said that the divorce was proposed by Gao Xiaosong. Her mood at the time was "Everything was caught off guard. I was like being suddenly thrown into a downpour from a fairy tale world, and I was soaked." and After filing for a divorce, Gao Xiaosong did not leave room for it. Within three days, he packed his luggage and moved out of the two people's home.
Compared to the rumors about the derailment of the sweet wife, I prefer to believe in Xu Canjin's version. The man at the top of the literary circle and the young and beautiful wife, not so much as the secular identity, is better to say that the two souls have a short-term gap that cannot be filled. .
Although Gao Xiaosong once reshaped his wife based on his own aesthetics and was satisfied, he still knew how long he could maintain his interests by copying an exact same self.
04. The farewell is for a better start.
Gao Xiaosong's reason for divorce is: "He feels unhappy living with me (Xu Canjin), he wants more freedom and creative space."
Just one sentence is enough to make Xu Canjin’s world collapse. The man who expressed his appreciation at the age of 17 and entered into a marriage contract with her at the age of 19, took her to study abroad, and taught her how to look for aesthetics. Being "unhappy" together. After
experienced a long time of helplessness and collapse, Xu Canjin began to try to follow the advice of friends in the fashion circle, do some design work to distract, and gradually found his own interests and founded the independent brand DEAMON.
has been circulating in the shops that Xu Canjin was the name changed by Gao Xiaosong to help Xu Shanshan. After the divorce, Xu Canjin neither chose to change her name to erase this past, nor did she continue to use the name that had been inextricably linked to her ex-husband, but changed the name " The character "Chan" was split into Xiyoumi.
When people mentioned Xiyoumi, the labels gradually became "independent designer" and "independent woman". After the wife Xu Canjin, who once lived under the wings of Gao Xiaosong, drifted away and was no longer what others liked, Yuyomi became what she liked.
Xi Youmi's experience of regaining a new life after divorce can be regarded as an inspirational model for divorced women. They separated politely and friendly from their ex-husband, took care of their daughter together, found a career that suits them, and worked hard to be beautiful.
In contrast, Ge Huijie, who also gave birth to Wang Feng's daughter at the age of 18, is also a poor teenager. The result is much embarrassing. He tied himself in the relationship that has ended, constantly consuming each other’s memories. And own future.
For women, they always maintain their independence in a relationship, and both grow up together. Even if the differences need to end, they should not give up. There are many beautiful things in the world waiting for you to discover.
Author: Tony
