Fan Deng's reading author | Summer to Korea
's hit drama "Settlement" has passed more than half of the time. Fang Sijin, played by actor Sun Li, has witnessed the story of one family after another by selling houses.
According to Sun Li's interview, at least 85% of the story in this drama is adapted from real stories. It can be seen that TV dramas come from life, and life is a TV drama. The hot broadcast of
also revealed the three truths of life. In front of the interests of
, seeing the truth of human nature
Xi Meijuan played Granny Jiang, who wants to sell the old house to see her husband Song, but the old house has two other owners, the two nephews of Granny Jiang.
requires three property owners to sign and confirm the sale of a house, but the two nephews make things difficult for them. For a while, the money is too small, the other is to pay more, and the other is to get a lump-sum payment.
Grandma Jiang continued to compromise and was willing to suffer, but in the end she failed to sell the house as she wished. Until the death of Teacher Song, Grandma Jiang was heartbroken and made a will to donate the house to the country.
In front of tens of millions of real estate, the two nephews were ruthless and indifferent, selfish and greedy, and did not even care that they were their own aunts, so that little family affection disappeared.
Keigo Higashino said: "There are two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart."
You think you are your relatives, and others treat you as enemies; you think you have nothing to lose, but you can’t stop others from getting worse. ; You think that those who are favored will always be grateful, but unexpectedly others will bite you back in ungratefulness.
In the face of interests, it is easiest to see the true human nature. Cousin
once invested in a friend and started a business with him. In the first stage, the money was used up, and the cousin continued to invest. Later, the company slowly stabilized, and the cousin gave all the business to his friends, and he went to manage his other things. A friend of
told him that the company can trust him and make money together.
later my cousin bought a house and almost got some money, thinking of the money invested at that time, he can get some back. But my friends kept pushing, looking for various reasons, saying that the company had no cash and all used it as fixed assets.
However, my cousin found that this is not the case through a side investigation. The company is operating well, the capital turnover is normal, and my friend gets dividends by himself every year, but he never mentioned it to his cousin. Cousin
took into account the feelings of his friends, and was anxious to buy a house, so he discussed with his friends that he would only get back his investment amount and don't want to pay dividends.
didn't expect his friend to change his face. Not only did he say that there was no dividend, he even cut his investment in half, saying that his cousin had already lost money. Cousin
was really helpless, and finally recovered his money through a lawsuit, and his friend was completely turned over.
saw a friend clearly because of a transaction. At present, how much friendship can withstand the temptation? For cousin, it is a wise choice to recognize the so-called friend in time and stop the loss in time. In front of
interests, human nature cannot stand the test. And what we have to do is not to rely on others, not to look forward to others, be kind and generous, and really pay.
In front of marriage, don't underestimate responsibility. In the
drama, "Mrs. Kan Asking for Divorce" was once the number one hot search. As a housewife, after discovering that her husband had cheated again and again, Mrs. Kan finally broke out and asked for a divorce. The
couple once started from scratch and worked hard together. Step by step, they changed from poor days to the present. They had four children. Mrs. Kan concentrated on taking care of the family and the elderly, leaving Mr. Kan no worries.
Mr. Kan, who lives in a comfortable life, began to seek a soul mate and betrayed the family. Mrs. Kan chose to forgive at first, but he did not expect that he made mistakes again and again, without repentance, and eventually the divorce ended.
In fact, when everyone chooses marriage, they also choose responsibility. Whether a marriage is good or bad depends on how the husband and wife perform their responsibilities.
cheating, widowhood parenting, widowhood marriage, domestic violence... are all manifestations of irresponsibility. A marriage that lacks responsibility is bound to cause some crises and affect happiness.
plays Mrs. Kan's Hu Ke, who is also the mother of two children in real life. She was willing to help her husband Sha Yi's career develop.
until she revealed in a show that sheWhen she wanted to come back to filming, Sha Yi was actually worried that she was tired, but he asked her to weigh and focus on taking care of her children.
faced a man who never did housework at home and didn't even support oil bottles. Hu Ke cried aggrievedly. His husband didn't share the burden and didn't understand himself.
But since then, I have slowly seen Sha Yi's changes. He can bring his baby, share the burden for the family, and allow Hu Ke to work at ease, and their marriage is getting happier.
Before marriage, don't underestimate responsibility. If the sense of responsibility is weakened, there will be problems in the marriage, and the marriage maintained by responsibility will also last longer.
Marriage requires the husband and wife to operate together. The family does not depend on the responsibility of the husband or wife, but requires mutual care, mutual support and joint maintenance. In front of
relationship, don't underestimate the rules
In this show, one of the most irritating characters must be Fang Sijin’s mother, Pan Guiyu.
She gave birth to Fang Sijin, and she felt that she could not afford it and planned to throw it into the well. Fortunately, she was rescued by her grandpa.
As a mother, she didn't give Fang Sijin a little bit of love, only scolding and punishing her, but when she grew up, seeing that she was able to make money, she asked her for money again and again, and even chased her to the shop. In a rented house.
For grandpa and brother, Fang Sijin has tolerated it. Until she discovered the money she gave to the family, Pan Guiyu did not use it to treat her grandfather, but to decorate her son. In the end, her grandfather died of illness. She asked Pan Guiyu, "Where is your face, you have lost all your conscience."
, Fang Sijin decided to sever ties with the family and never give money to the family again.
Even if it is the closest parent relationship, it is not taken for granted. You can't force orders and do whatever you want because of blood relationship. If the family is not harmonious, the family will not be happy.
Adults have their own set of rules. Don’t underestimate the rules for your family, your partner, your friends, your colleagues, no matter what kind of relationship it is.
Good rules will make you more and more comfortable in interpersonal communication. When you know how to be grateful, you will also start to "get grace". When you respect others, you will be respected by others; when you know how to cherish, You will have it.
"Biography of Giants" says: "The saddest thing between people is that where you think you deserve goodwill and friendship, but you suffer annoyance and damage. "
Every relationship needs careful attention "Design", every relationship needs to be well maintained, and rules are established to make the relationship more stable and stronger.
is written at the end:
There are many problems in life, which need to be constantly understood through my own experience.
In the face of interests, see the truth of human nature; in the face of marriage, don't underestimate responsibility; in the face of relationships, don't underestimate the rules.
The more you want to understand the truth, the more you will be relieved. There is nothing more in the world than this. To live a good life, you only need to have a clear heart.
book recommendation
calmly deal with bad events in life, exercise a strong heart of insight into the world.
"We have all been hurt, but we have a better life" This book tells everyone: Everyone may be like Fang Sijin, who suffer big and small injuries in the process of growing up. But we can still live a better life.
