Author|Qiao Tangtang
watched several movies in recent days, "囧Mom", "Xiao Hong", and an old film by Brigitte Lin "Out of the Window".
After watching these movies, I have a deep feeling. The people in the movies have all kinds of pain no matter what era, age, professional status and who they live with.
Pain is of course bad. It tortures people’s will and consumes their emotions. Some people even become depressed and fragile because of pain.
all say that a movie is a condensed life. Watching a movie and understanding other people's lives, their joys, sorrows, and pains, seem to have experienced it again.
However, the difference is that after watching the protagonists Xu Zheng, Xu Zheng’s mother, Yuan Quan, Xiao Hong, Brigitte Lin, and their suffering, as an outsider, I think there may be some pain we can avoid, or deliberately avoid it.
Today, I will talk about these "Outside the Window", "Xiao Hong" and "囧Mom" that made me deeply touched.
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Let me talk about Brigitte Lin’s old movie "Out of the Window." The
movie is about the love tragic story of the heroine (played by Brigitte Lin), a senior in high school, falling in love with her teacher. How did the
story begin? The heroine
is a senior high school student in Taipei. She ranks as the eldest at home, perhaps because her homework is not good enough, or because her parents prefer to be young and ignore the eldest. The hostess is a bummer at home and is not loved by her parents.
The long-term depressive family environment has caused the hostess to be taciturn and depressed. She wrote her sad emotions in the weekly diary. When she was seen by the teacher, the teacher was extremely distressed and pityed, and immediately wrote back, expressing her willingness to love her like a father. Give her warmth. The heroine
got solace from the teacher, and got close to the teacher. Slowly, the relationship between the two gradually evolved into a teacher-student relationship. The
news spread like wildfire. Rumors arose throughout the school. The teacher was expelled from the school. After that, several schools were dismissed because of their unreasonable relationship with the hostess.
At the same time, the hostess’s parents constantly pressured the teacher and daughter to break up.
The precarious love between the heroine and the teacher finally fell apart under the obstruction of various forces. The hostess of
was forced to marry a man chosen by her parents reluctantly. The teacher was forced to leave Taipei to find a job in a small village.
Due to the suspicion and jealousy of the newlywed husband, the hostess is violently abused and scolded by the husband, and the aggrieved hostess embarks on a journey to pursue the teacher.
But when she saw the teacher she cared about every day, she flinched.
The original talented teacher became helpless due to emotional damage and turned into an old and dirty old man. Now he barely makes ends meet. His career and body can no longer withstand even the slightest change and shock. .
Seeing the teacher Xinxinnian looks like now, the hostess had to leave silently with bitterness, heartache, and unwillingness. The ending of
hostess and teacher is embarrassing.
After watching the movie, I feel as follows:
1, too much emphasis on feelings, is a person’s strengths and weaknesses;
2, love that is not accepted by the world, such as teacher-student love, is destined to be a tragedy;
3, too addicted to love, only It will make people sink, in addition to love, there are many beautiful things in life worth pursuing, and this is a healthy life.
02
The second film "Xiao Hong", this film is an autobiography about the talented female Xiao of the Republic of ChinaHong's life deeds are mainly based on her feelings and life experience.
Xiao Hong, a talented and beautiful woman, has 4 relationships in her life. Almost all men encountered in each relationship can be described as "slag men".
especially the feelings with Xiao Jun, this man gave her warmth when she was most desperate and helpless, they had shared weal and woe, and cherished each other.
However, Xiao Jun is a scumbag who is merciful everywhere. When he sees a lover, he gives his scumbag a few interpretations: "I don’t understand why there are so many women in this world who are always so lonely and need love. !"
The sister of his cheating student, entangled with Xiao Hong's best friend and became pregnant, challenging and stimulating Xiao Hong's sensitive nerves time and time again.
Even so, he still shamelessly said to Xiao Hong: "I am just acting with them, and you are a husband and wife, and I will never leave you."
Xiao Hong went to see Mr. Lu Xun, and she said to Mr. Lu Xun: "Meet Xiao Jun, is it my luck or misfortune? I love him, but I can’t own him; I hate him, but I can’t live without him." Mr. Lu Xun said: "You are too devoted to feelings, and your character is stubborn. You and him It's like two hedgehogs. They hurt each other when they get close, and they feel lonely when they are far away."
I have to say that the comments of a generation of great writer Lu Xun are really in place. These few words of Mr. Lu Xun apply to everyone who encounters problems in their relationships.
The feelings that are too devoted always want to get more from the other party. Once you feel that the gain is not equal to the giving, you will be hysterical and even hate the other party. If
left, that was impossible. After all, he didn't give up the investment and efforts he had made before, so he struggled, contradicted, and suffered.
03
The third part of "囧Mom", to be honest, compare the first two parts of the series, this one is a bit worse. Although
is a comedy, I didn't laugh the whole time.
Even when Xu Zheng was climbing the train car and various thrilling scenes, I actually felt that this man was quite pretentious, taking his life as a trifle, so I couldn't laugh at all.
and Xu Zheng and all kinds of fucking quarrels, but also make me feel extremely irritable, not funny.
If this movie is bad, I also disagree.
After all, there are several details in the movie that touched me.
One point is that Yuan Quan said to Xu Zheng: "You have a phantom wife in your heart. What should she like, what should she hate, how to say, you have all set it up, why do you persevere in transforming me? After so many years, it's hard for you to realize that I am not the person you think?".
Another point is that Xu Zheng said to her mother: "In your heart there is a son who imagined that he should eat a few pieces of braised pork, the meat on his face is long horizontally or vertically, when will I have a baby, and what time is the bladder? Drainage, you have all set it up, why do you persevere in reforming me? Haven't you found out after so many years? I am not the son you imagined!"
Yuan Quan and Xu Zheng's resistance is to control each other Desire to resist.
Whether it is a couple, parents and children, or daughter-in-law, etc., in reality too many people want to control each other, which is the source of many contradictions.
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Sum up and find that everyone in this world has all kinds of pain.
However, some pain may be doomed from the beginning, such as "Outside the Window" heroine Lin Qingxia and the teacher's teacher-student relationship pain, because the beginning was wrong and not accepted by the world.
Some pain may be avoided after constant reflection, such as XiaoThe pain of red four times encountering a scumbag, the pain of Xu Zheng and Yuan Quan, Xu Zheng and his mother in "囧Mom".
After all, we are all ordinary people and can only live this life in a way that is acceptable to the world.
Talk about a love that can be accepted by the world, not over indulging in feelings, and don’t try to control each other when you get along with others, so maybe there will be less pain and more ordinary happiness!
Some people can always be self-righteous, feel that they can control everything, just care about themselves, disregard the world, disregard others.
In fact, you can't control anything, you are just a tiny piece of this big world, nothing more.
There is a proverb that says, "Fools never learn lessons, ordinary people learn from their own mistakes, and wise men learn from others' mistakes!"
May we all be wise men, after all, there are so many pits in life. If you can step on one less, the pain in life will be much less.
