The romance novelist, love illusion maker, and dream maker who influenced a generation just waved goodbye in his own way... According to CCTV News, at about 13:22 on December 4, the well-known Taiwanese writer Qiong Yao was in New Taipei City. Passed away at home in Tamsui Distri

The romance novelist, love illusion maker, and dream maker who influenced a generation waved goodbye in his own way...

According to CCTV News, at about 13:22 on December 4, the well-known Taiwanese writer Qiong Yao... He died at his home in Tamsui District, New Taipei City, at the age of 86.

She updated her social media with a "suicide note", " I don't want to resign myself to fate, and I don't want to slowly wither and wither. I want to 'make the decision' for this last big thing ".

Qiong Yao’s son said that his mother left a suicide note. At noon, the secretary discovered that Qiong Yao had committed suicide in the room, and immediately notified the emergency department. When the ambulance crew arrived, they found that Qiong Yao had no breathing or heartbeat and was obviously dead, so she was not sent to the hospital.

Tamsui police arrived at the scene after receiving the report. The cause of death was initially ruled out as external involvement..

Qiong Yao’s open letter to her son and daughter-in-law

When it comes to life and death, Qiong Yao once published a letter to her son and daughter-in-law on March 12, 2017. Many of its views are thought-provoking and worth reading.

An open letter to my son and daughter-in-law: Make an appointment to bid me a beautiful farewell

Dear Zhongwei and Xiuqiong:

This is the first time I have written my heartfelt thoughts on Facebook, but it is the most important moment in my life. letter.

"Book your own beautiful farewell" is an article I read in "This Weekly". This article is worth reading by everyone. In this article, I learned that the "Patient Autonomy Rights Act" has been passed and will be implemented on January 6, 2019! In other words, in the future, patients can decide how to die by themselves, and no longer need to let doctors and family members decide. To me, this is such great news! Although I prefer to legislate "Euthanasia", "Death with Dignity" is better than nothing. It is always a big step forward for patients who have no hope!

Now, after Shen Fuxiong and Ye Jinchuan, I want to make my advice public on the Internet. Although Zhongwei has repeatedly said that he fully understands my wishes, agrees with me, and will comply with all my wishes. But I am afraid that when the time comes, your love for me will become the biggest obstacle to my "natural death". It is easy to make a promise but hard to keep it! What if when the time comes, you regret it and are reluctant to let me leave, and become what Ye Jinchuan said: "The joint doctor came to delay me"? I think you deeply understand how afraid I am of that day! Now I have made my "rights" public, and everyone who sees this letter is a witness. No matter how reluctant you are to give up, no matter what pressure you face, you cannot forcefully keep my body and turn me into a "survival" No, the bedridden old man can’t die!” , you are "unfilial"!

Qiongyao went to the hospital for treatment

"No matter what serious illness I have, the most important thing is that I die quickly without major surgery."

I am already 79 years old and will be 80 next year! In this long life, I did not take the first step due to war, poverty, accidents, natural and man-made disasters, illness... various reasons.

Living to this age is already a grace given to me by God. So, from now on, I will laugh at death.My advice is as follows:

1. No matter what serious illness I get, the most important thing is that I die quickly without major surgery! Let me make the decision when I can make the decision. If I can’t make the decision, just follow my instructions!

2. Don’t send me to the “intensive care unit”.

3. Under no circumstances should a "nasogastric tube" be inserted ! Because if I lose the ability to swallow, I also lose the joy of eating. I don’t want to live like that!

4. Same as above, no matter what the circumstances, various life-sustaining tubes cannot be inserted into my body. Urinary tubes, breathing tubes, and all kinds of tubes whose names I don’t know will not work!

5. I have already noted that the final "first aid measures", tracheotomy, electric shock, leaf cystectomy... all of these are not necessary ! Helping me die without pain is more meaningful than trying every possible means to make me live in pain! Don’t be confused by the myth of “life and death”!

Qiong Yao looks at the posthumous affairs

"Glorification after death" is the vanity of the living, and it has no meaning at all to me after death. "

What I want to remind you now is my "behind the scenes"!

1. Don’t use any religion way to mourn me.

. Burn me into ashes as soon as possible, and let me return to dust with a flower burial.

htm. l6 3. No obituary, no public memorial service, no memorial service.

Death is a private matter, so don’t bother others, let alone the people who love me - if they really love me, they will understand me. Decide .

4. Don’t do seven, don’t burn paper, don’t set up a mourning hall, don’t have a funeral

I came with nothing. Yes, just be clean when you go! There is no need to worship me during the Qingming Festival, because I no longer exist. Besides, the earth is warming, and burning paper and incense is destroying the earth. We have an obligation to maintain a new life for generations to come. A pollution-free living environment

htm. l2 5. Don’t care about the outside world’s comments about you. I have never been superstitious. Don’t do any superstitious things!

“Glorification after death” is the vanity of the living. It has no meaning at all to me after death. I don't want to "be in mourning after my death"! The sooner the funeral is over, the better, and it shouldn't take more than a week.

I won't tell my relatives and friends about my death until they have their own opinions.

Qiong Yao looks at people’s life and death

“I will work hard to protect myself and live well... As for my wish to be like a snowflake when I die, I’m afraid I need your help to realize it. "

I once said: "Wishes during life are like sparks, burning until the last moment of life. When I die, I wish to be like snowflakes, falling to the ground and turning into dust! "

I write this letter with positive thinking. I will work hard to protect myself, live well, and burn like a spark. Even though the spark will become smaller and smaller with age, I will still burn until it goes out. until time.

As for my wish to be like a snowflake when I die, I’m afraid I need your help to realize it. Snowflakes falling from the sky are very short-lived and will not float for several years! Let me achieve my wish!

The most helpless thing in life is that you cannot choose life or death! Many customs and unbreakable concepts of life and death have locked us up. Times are constantly progressing, and it’s time to start changing our concepts!

Qiong Yao talks about end-of-life assistance for relatives

“No matter what serious illness I have, Without major surgery, the most important thing is for me to die quickly. "

Speaking of "life and death", I want to tell you that there are all kinds of unexpected changes and twists and turns in life, but "death" is the only one that everyone must face. Yes, it will definitely come. On the contrary, "life" comes to the world by "accidental".

Of course, if sudden death, premature death, natural disasters, accidents, war, disease... these factors prevent people from living long enough, it is indeed a tragedy.

These tragedies should be avoided as much as possible. Failure to avoid them is the greatest misfortune for the living and the dead! (This is why I don’t believe in God, because this kind of misfortune happens frequently.)

If you live to old age, it is "of course" to die. However, the process of old age and death is often long and painful, and your loved ones "save them if you can." This concept is also the main reason for prolonging the suffering of life!

My dear Zhongwei and Xiqiong ( Note: Zhongwei and Xiqiong are Qiong Yao’s sons and daughters-in-law). This letter does not talk about others, but only about me, the mother who loves you. I implore you to use positive energy to To deal with the death that must come to me.

After writing this letter, I can plan my next novel or screenplay with peace of mind! You can continue to “burn” with peace of mind! By the way, my "cat maniac" and I are commendable. We, grandfather and grandson, are planning to publish a book together, about "cat people", my story, her illustrations, let's talk about the story. With her in high spirits, it’s time to start working on this book!

Dear Zhongwei and Xiu Qiong, let’s “ cherish life and respect death together! Remember my instructions and enforce my rights, it is important!

The time has come, don’t be sad, rejoice for me! I finally finished this hard journey! Freed from any ailments I might have had before I died!

According to reports, on November 27, 2024, Qiong Yao once issued an article to mourn her late husband: "It is better to go back, so many past events are difficult to recall; so many grievances have been gone with the wind; two worlds , How much obsession, how many years of separation, I want to express my love. In this world, maybe we can meet again and listen to the cuckoo singing softly in the forest. It’s better to go back, it’s better to go back, ah, it’s better to go back.” Qiong Yao's husband Ping Xintao died of illness in 2019 at the age of 92.

The realization, determination and relief written in the last

Qiong Yao’s suicide note can’t help but make people think deeply - How does the pain caused by aging and disease torture a once strong person? How to find inner peace when facing the end of life?

The mental health problems of the elderly are gradually becoming a global focus. According to statistics, the annual suicide rate of people over 65 years old is significantly higher than that of other age groups, among which "loneliness" and "helplessness" are the triggers.Qiong Yao admitted in her suicide note that her fear of "weakness, degeneration, and illness" stemmed from long-term witnessing of the suffering of her relatives and countless elderly patients in society.

Older people should actively participate in social activities and build more support networks. At the same time, family members need to pay more attention to the emotional needs of the elderly and provide them with opportunities to talk and psychological support.

Qiong Yao described her final return as "pianran". The elegance revealed in this text is moving. Behind the "life and death decision", it reflects not only the individual's powerlessness towards aging, but also the society's lack of attention to the quality of life of the elderly.. She emphasized that "death is the last big thing for everyone" and she hoped to be "in charge" of this process. Her choice is not only a relief from the torture of the disease, but also a redefinition of the meaning of life - Love, laugh, pain and hate are enough.

For the elderly who are still pursuing the value of life, this attitude may be an opportunity for them to re-understand life. By loving the little things in life and accepting your limitations, you may be able to make every day more meaningful.

Qiong Yao used her suicide note to tell the world that death can be light and independent. However, this method is not a choice that ordinary elderly people can choose at will. Instead of looking for an end in despair, it is better to rekindle the passion for life in the limited years .

Paying attention to the mental health of the elderly is not only a personal responsibility, but also an unshirkable mission for families and society.

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