It’s time for our #羊羊TeaParty# again. Today let’s talk about the awakening moment of middle-aged girls. A few days ago, Yang became popular after seeing the emotional guests Zhang Quanling and Patty Hou in "Goodbye Lover". Zhang Quanling was busy using her own marriage examples i

Zhang Quanling was busy using her own marriage examples in the live broadcast room to promote her composition class😅.

Patty Hou posted short essays one after another, sharing her own awakening after participating in variety shows during this period. Netizens criticized her for participating in Metamorphosis😊.

Babies still remember that she was judged as fake in her early days on the Wanwan Variety Show: "The fake Hou has eaten her real self."

In contrast, I like it very much. It’s hard not to be moved by her sincere and candid sharing.

Speaking of the awakening of middle-aged girls, Yang also discovered that many middle-aged epiphanies actually revolve around the issue of "the relationship between yourself and yourself."

be like: Only when you straighten yourself out can your life become smoother.

Today Yang also talked with the beautiful and thoughtful readers and sisters in our backstage about their recent awakening moments.

Let’s watch together~

@婷婷

The biggest awakening of middle-aged girls

is to know how to avoid risks

After the age of 30, the cruelty of life will be multiplied by 10 times.

Being young will cover up many problems. You don’t have to have money, you don’t have to be beautiful, you can have a full personality, you are young, and the problems have not been magnified.

When you reach middle age, your social image is maintained by money and self-discipline, not by how ideal, upright, and artistic you are.

But when you are middle-aged, you have to think about, apart from those vain things, what else can you be proud of to sustain your life.

If you are no longer young, you must understand realism before pursuing idealism. Even literature and art require capital.

A person who cannot defeat himself will never be qualified to analyze the situation, let alone be on the big stage.

You must abandon your fantasies, enter the situation with your own body, and throw away your own set of things that cannot be put into practice. Your own strength and self-esteem cannot change the situation and can only become a joke.

What I mean is that for middle-aged girls, whether they are single or not, working hard to make money is the first priority.

@王荃

handling of the opposite sex

completely bowed down

Time is long enough, and you will grow. Some people actively seek growth through brokenness and tears.

And I am a person who is relatively tolerant of myself, which comes from my temperament and lack.

After all, life is a waste of time, but my biggest awakening now is that I am no longer interested in many relationships between the opposite sex.

includes the kind that teaches you how to manipulate the other person. Maybe you once thought it was interesting, a tug-and-pull game, but now to be honest, it doesn’t make much sense. ‍

The kind of superficial chatting is to make yourself inferior. You play a game with the other party, a rural power game with only two people.

Things that may be untrue and insincere are slowly moving away from me.

Regardless of men or women, it is always the economy that makes people tough, not their character and emotions. What they fear most is that women are taught to be kind, courteous, thrifty, and have never mastered the ability to make money.

This is a snobbish society, I often say that you should ask yourself every day, what do I want? What am I going to get? What steps do I need to take to get this?

Once you are financially free, no one will care about you unless you get married, and people will only envy you for your freedom and wealth.

Human nature is like this. It bullies the weak and fears the strong, and is snobbish to the extreme. Thinking about what you want is the most important thing.

Whoever interferes with you, you will override.

@李小新

Gender must be abandoned in the workplace

Fight for yourself 100%

I am a girl who has been working in real estate for nine years.

The real estate industry is dominated by men, and women are labeled with too many labellings, such as poor data analysis skills, poor logic, girls cannot go to construction sites, cannot drink and socialize, and girls are only suitable for administrative work.

In addition, the traditional construction and development category is dominated by men...

The company has been in a recession recently, and the elimination rate has increased sharply. Many girls around me have encountered many similar things such as unfair competition, sexual harassment in the workplace, being laid off because of pregnancy, etc. .

I myself fell into anxiety. After my anxiety reached its peak, I suddenly felt relieved again.

Gender anxiety actually stems from our labeling of ourselves.

The traditional role positioning of women in the family, the elimination system of education and the restrictive concepts of social education make us dare not take the initiative to compete in the workplace, dare not face risks and only seek stability.

Many times, we use the weakness of the group as a label for ourselves, ignoring our true self, especially how we make decisions when facing difficulties.‍‍

For example, when a department merger requires competition to maintain the original position, I know that my gender and age will definitely not be an advantage, but I am still fully prepared. Although there is no way to change the result, at least I do not back down because I am a girl.

Of course, I was not demoted in the end because my professional abilities matched. But if I had given up directly at that time, I might have been demoted or optimized.

When people reach middle age, they must put aside their gender inferiority complex and face their true thoughts and desires as a person, and no longer worry about labeling.

When women’s gender no longer becomes the source of everyone’s anxiety, disadvantage becomes just a kind of prejudice.

@shancai

Don’t be defeated by painful moments

My own little home

I just saw a girl saying that she was drifting to the north , I woke up from the cold at four in the morning and didn’t want to continue.

I would like to say that the most important thing for a girl to work hard on her own is not how much determination or hard bones she has, but the ability to take good care of herself in small things. Only in this way will she not easily shrink from a moment.

When winter comes, buy an electric blanket and wool socks electric heater. When summer comes, buy a circulating fan and ice silk short-sleeved portable fan. When you are hungry, go have a hot pot meal and when you are thirsty, have a cup of milk tea.

What the elders say about starting a family is actually these little things, which actually don’t cost much, but you have to be careful.

Take care of these seemingly irrelevant life details first, and take care of them carefully, so that you can move forward comfortably and step by step, and avoid the anxiety of survival and pressure to get married.

When you can live well alone, you will not have inexplicable fear of the unknown. I used to think that someone would help me take care of these things. When I encountered difficulties, I didn’t want to solve them myself. I always thought of finding a man. , or just go back to your hometown to find your parents.

is actually not.

A person can only be kind to himself if he treats himself attentively. Especially when a person works outside the home, it is especially easy to blame singleness and being in a different place for unsatisfactory results. Never think of finding a way out just because you retreat for a moment.

The difficulties in life are nothing more than those. There is nothing that cannot be overcome. Live a down-to-earth life, and fate will not have the heart to treat you harshly.

@zhouxingxing

accept that you are in a bad state

Don’t panic

I am a child who grew up in a poor family.

The material insufficiency, the lack of psychological care, and the spiritual constraints have formed a riddled me.

grew up stumblingly, experienced two failed relationships, broke free from the quagmire of disillusionment in intimate relationships, and is now repairing and reinventing himself bit by bit.

If there is any benefit to growing up, it is that I see myself, recognize and accept that I am not a mentally healthy and spiritually rich person.

Then every step in the future will have a direction, and every time you hesitate in the future, you will no longer entrust yourself to others.

Because I have me, this thing is the only certainty in my uncertain life.

I give myself to myself, and everything I own is claimed and borne by myself, which makes me feel at ease.

After I realized that love can only happen to people with sound minds and full spirits, I lost the charm of love. I no longer choose to get the missing love from elsewhere. I hope I can give it myself.

0-year-old unmarried women will face some dangerous choices. We are asked to do what traditional women should do. Anxiety from the outside world and ourselves will make us become a rat that cannot choose the right path.

And we, don’t underestimate yourself, and don’t jump into the trap.

@一 hammer pumpkin

Happiness is only in

It only exists when you accept it

Respecting yourself means accepting your true self, accepting your own life, and learning to love yourself.

I like the famous saying of George Orwell: "happiness can exist only in acceptance."

Happiness only exists when you accept it.

In the past, I always ignored my own feelings in order to cater to others, and rarely respected my own feelings.

Slowly I discovered that I deserve to be treated well. If I give priority to my own feelings, allow myself to express my emotions, do not suppress myself, and do not ignore my own thoughts, I will be really happy.

For example, there are some outstanding people around me who often say that time is my life. They all respect and cherish their time.

Under their influence, I also learned not to waste time on meaningless social interactions and ineffective busyness. I learned to say no decisively and spend time on improving myself and the things I love.

shared a point mentioned in "The Navarre Book": Treat your time as a scarce resource and set a high "imaginary hourly wage" for it to avoid wasting time on low-value things.

Cherishing your own time and respecting your own feelings is a high-quality life.

is written at the end

Finally, Yang wants to quote Freud's words:

"A person's life is to convince himself, see himself, and give himself a happy life process." It doesn't matter if

is not perfect, the important thing is to dare to make changes after discovering the problem.

I hope all the sisters who read this article can be braver.

The starting point for happiness in middle age starts with recognizing reality, making independent decisions, and respecting one's own time and feelings.

As long as you have awakened, it is not too late.

It’s time for us # sheep sheep tea party #.

Today I will talk about the awakening moment of middle-aged girls.

A few days ago, Yang became popular after seeing the emotional guests Zhang Quanling and Patty Hou in "Goodbye Lover".

Zhang Quanling was busy using her own marriage examples in the live broadcast room to promote her composition class😅.

Patty Hou posted short essays one after another, sharing her own awakening after participating in variety shows during this period. Netizens criticized her for participating in Metamorphosis😊.

Babies still remember that she was judged as fake in her early days on the Wanwan Variety Show: "The fake Hou has eaten her real self."

Looking at the scandals and gossips over the years since her debut, they all revolve around her ex and mother. Patty Hou herself seems to have been invisible.

However, a few days ago, Yang saw the long article posted by Patty Hou. She has now realized this. She wrote in the short composition:

Compared with treating others as the focus of life, the relationship between yourself and yourself is ranked first. bit.

In contrast, I like it very much. It’s hard not to be moved by her sincere and candid sharing.

Speaking of the awakening of middle-aged girls, Yang also discovered that many middle-aged epiphanies actually revolve around the issue of "the relationship between yourself and yourself."

be like: Only when you straighten yourself out can your life become smoother.

Today Yang also talked with the beautiful and thoughtful readers and sisters in our backstage about their recent awakening moments.

Let’s watch together~

@婷婷

The biggest awakening of middle-aged girls

is to know how to avoid risks

After the age of 30, the cruelty of life will be multiplied by 10 times.

Being young will cover up many problems. You don’t have to have money, you don’t have to be beautiful, you can have a full personality, you are young, and the problems have not been magnified.

When you reach middle age, your social image is maintained by money and self-discipline, not by how ideal, upright, and artistic you are.

But when you are middle-aged, you have to think about, apart from those vain things, what else can you be proud of to sustain your life.

If you are no longer young, you must understand realism before pursuing idealism. Even literature and art require capital.

A person who cannot defeat himself will never be qualified to analyze the situation, let alone be on the big stage.

You must abandon your fantasies, enter the situation with your own body, and throw away your own set of things that cannot be put into practice. Your own strength and self-esteem cannot change the situation and can only become a joke.

What I mean is that for middle-aged girls, whether they are single or not, working hard to make money is the first priority.

@王荃

handling of the opposite sex

completely bowed down

Time is long enough, and you will grow. Some people actively seek growth through brokenness and tears.

And I am a person who is relatively tolerant of myself, which comes from my temperament and lack.

After all, life is a waste of time, but my biggest awakening now is that I am no longer interested in many relationships between the opposite sex.

includes the kind that teaches you how to manipulate the other person. Maybe you once thought it was interesting, a tug-and-pull game, but now to be honest, it doesn’t make much sense. ‍

The kind of superficial chatting is to make yourself inferior. You play a game with the other party, a rural power game with only two people.

Things that may be untrue and insincere are slowly moving away from me.

Regardless of men or women, it is always the economy that makes people tough, not their character and emotions. What they fear most is that women are taught to be kind, courteous, thrifty, and have never mastered the ability to make money.

This is a snobbish society, I often say that you should ask yourself every day, what do I want? What am I going to get? What steps do I need to take to get this?

Once you are financially free, no one will care about you unless you get married, and people will only envy you for your freedom and wealth.

Human nature is like this. It bullies the weak and fears the strong, and is snobbish to the extreme. Thinking about what you want is the most important thing.

Whoever interferes with you, you will override.

@李小新

Gender must be abandoned in the workplace

Fight for yourself 100%

I am a girl who has been working in real estate for nine years.

The real estate industry is dominated by men, and women are labeled with too many labellings, such as poor data analysis skills, poor logic, girls cannot go to construction sites, cannot drink and socialize, and girls are only suitable for administrative work.

In addition, the traditional construction and development category is dominated by men...

The company has been in a recession recently, and the elimination rate has increased sharply. Many girls around me have encountered many similar things such as unfair competition, sexual harassment in the workplace, being laid off because of pregnancy, etc. .

I myself fell into anxiety. After my anxiety reached its peak, I suddenly felt relieved again.

Gender anxiety actually stems from our labeling of ourselves.

The traditional role positioning of women in the family, the elimination system of education and the restrictive concepts of social education make us dare not take the initiative to compete in the workplace, dare not face risks and only seek stability.

Many times, we use the weakness of the group as a label for ourselves, ignoring our true self, especially how we make decisions when facing difficulties.‍‍

For example, when a department merger requires competition to maintain the original position, I know that my gender and age will definitely not be an advantage, but I am still fully prepared. Although there is no way to change the result, at least I do not back down because I am a girl.

Of course, I was not demoted in the end because my professional abilities matched. But if I had given up directly at that time, I might have been demoted or optimized.

When people reach middle age, they must put aside their gender inferiority complex and face their true thoughts and desires as a person, and no longer worry about labeling.

When women’s gender no longer becomes the source of everyone’s anxiety, disadvantage becomes just a kind of prejudice.

@shancai

Don’t be defeated by painful moments

My own little home

I just saw a girl saying that she was drifting to the north , I woke up from the cold at four in the morning and didn’t want to continue.

I would like to say that the most important thing for a girl to work hard on her own is not how much determination or hard bones she has, but the ability to take good care of herself in small things. Only in this way will she not easily shrink from a moment.

When winter comes, buy an electric blanket and wool socks electric heater. When summer comes, buy a circulating fan and ice silk short-sleeved portable fan. When you are hungry, go have a hot pot meal and when you are thirsty, have a cup of milk tea.

What the elders say about starting a family is actually these little things, which actually don’t cost much, but you have to be careful.

Take care of these seemingly irrelevant life details first, and take care of them carefully, so that you can move forward comfortably and step by step, and avoid the anxiety of survival and pressure to get married.

When you can live well alone, you will not have inexplicable fear of the unknown. I used to think that someone would help me take care of these things. When I encountered difficulties, I didn’t want to solve them myself. I always thought of finding a man. , or just go back to your hometown to find your parents.

is actually not.

A person can only be kind to himself if he treats himself attentively. Especially when a person works outside the home, it is especially easy to blame singleness and being in a different place for unsatisfactory results. Never think of finding a way out just because you retreat for a moment.

The difficulties in life are nothing more than those. There is nothing that cannot be overcome. Live a down-to-earth life, and fate will not have the heart to treat you harshly.

@zhouxingxing

accept that you are in a bad state

Don’t panic

I am a child who grew up in a poor family.

The material insufficiency, the lack of psychological care, and the spiritual constraints have formed a riddled me.

grew up stumblingly, experienced two failed relationships, broke free from the quagmire of disillusionment in intimate relationships, and is now repairing and reinventing himself bit by bit.

If there is any benefit to growing up, it is that I see myself, recognize and accept that I am not a mentally healthy and spiritually rich person.

Then every step in the future will have a direction, and every time you hesitate in the future, you will no longer entrust yourself to others.

Because I have me, this thing is the only certainty in my uncertain life.

I give myself to myself, and everything I own is claimed and borne by myself, which makes me feel at ease.

After I realized that love can only happen to people with sound minds and full spirits, I lost the charm of love. I no longer choose to get the missing love from elsewhere. I hope I can give it myself.

0-year-old unmarried women will face some dangerous choices. We are asked to do what traditional women should do. Anxiety from the outside world and ourselves will make us become a rat that cannot choose the right path.

And we, don’t underestimate yourself, and don’t jump into the trap.

@一 hammer pumpkin

Happiness is only in

It only exists when you accept it

Respecting yourself means accepting your true self, accepting your own life, and learning to love yourself.

I like the famous saying of George Orwell: "happiness can exist only in acceptance."

Happiness only exists when you accept it.

In the past, I always ignored my own feelings in order to cater to others, and rarely respected my own feelings.

Slowly I discovered that I deserve to be treated well. If I give priority to my own feelings, allow myself to express my emotions, do not suppress myself, and do not ignore my own thoughts, I will be really happy.

For example, there are some outstanding people around me who often say that time is my life. They all respect and cherish their time.

Under their influence, I also learned not to waste time on meaningless social interactions and ineffective busyness. I learned to say no decisively and spend time on improving myself and the things I love.

shared a point mentioned in "The Navarre Book": Treat your time as a scarce resource and set a high "imaginary hourly wage" for it to avoid wasting time on low-value things.

Cherishing your own time and respecting your own feelings is a high-quality life.

is written at the end

Finally, Yang wants to quote Freud's words:

"A person's life is to convince himself, see himself, and give himself a happy life process." It doesn't matter if

is not perfect, the important thing is to dare to make changes after discovering the problem.

I hope all the sisters who read this article can be braver.

The starting point for happiness in middle age starts with recognizing reality, making independent decisions, and respecting one's own time and feelings.

As long as you have awakened, it is not too late.