On November 12, a Wuhan law firm organized 60 divorce lawyers to watch video clips of "Goodbye Lover 4" and used the show's guests as typical cases to study, sparking heated discussions. In response to calls from netizens, on November 14, the law firm formed a marriage lawyer observation group to watch "Goodbye Lover 4" live and answer netizens' questions in real time. The first time it was broadcast, it received over 500,000 views.
On that day, nine news reporters came to the live broadcast and watched the program with six marriage lawyers. During the live broadcast, many netizens asked about issues such as pre-marital property protection and child custody, and the team of lawyers also answered them one by one. After the live broadcast, the reporter had a conversation with six marriage lawyers, covering topics ranging from marriage and love variety shows to marital difficulties and personal growth. The following is the conversation, with some excerpts.
Jiupai News: Since "Goodbye Lover 4" became popular, Yang Zi was the first to gain popularity. Why did subsequent discussions focus on Mai Lin?
Fu Litai: Because she looks so much like ordinary people, she represents most ordinary people.
Liu Jiaguang: Yang Zi and Mai Lin, one represents the male perspective and the other represents the female perspective.
Ruan Chengjia: Mai Lin is really typical. The marriage parties we usually encounter are so entangled. We watched this program to deepen our acceptance, understanding and resonance with such customers.
Jiupai News: Some netizens said that they feel that Mai Lin’s problem is not a marriage problem, but a personal problem. What do you think?
Fu Litai: If you want to have a smooth marriage, you must first straighten yourself out, including spiritually, ideologically, career-wise, and emotionally. You must first go through your own setbacks. . You can live a good marriage only after it is over, because marriage is essentially about the relationship.
Jiupai News: Judging from your experience, what kind of development trend do you think the marriage of Mai Lin and Li Xingliang will have?
Everyone: I don’t think there will be a divorce.
Zheng Mengting: I feel that Li Xingliang's emotional dependence on Mai Lin is actually very heavy. Mai Lin should be more than just a lover to him, she has made up for his family affection. Both of them love each other very much and cherish this marriage. We need to explore whether there is something wrong with the way Li Xingliang and Mai Lin get along, and find out the reasons behind it. If both parties are willing to adjust and solve it, it can still be solved. The most important thing is that they are willing to change. If they are unwilling to change, they just think that I have feelings for you, but I am very painful when we get along, and I have no way to solve it. The two of them may only continue to suffer like this, mutually Continue the torture.
Nine Pai News: How does the plot of "Goodbye Lover 4" compare with the cases handled daily?
Everyone: This variety show really reflects the situations we often encounter.
Jiupai News: In the past, 60 lawyers watched it together. Why did we choose the format of a 6-person observation group today?
Shu Ying: I really can’t sit down, and there are so many people that I’m afraid of disturbing everyone. 3 people is too few, 6 people is just right. Moreover, our six marriage lawyers each have their own characteristics. First of all, there is a male lawyer as the representative. He may look at the issue from a male perspective. Several other lawyers are sharp, professional, or have strong control over the situation. They combine to give everyone a different perspective.
Fu Litai: We will continue to broadcast in the future, maintaining the format of a 6-person observation group, but will have different lawyers come to meet with you.
Jiupai News: Do marriage lawyers also provide some psychological counseling services?
Everyone: Yes
Liu Jiaguang: When we deal with marriage and family cases, the first requirement is to understand people and understand human nature. Because we are dealing with marriage and family relationships, which are not just laws, but a combination of emotions, reason, and law, we will have higher requirements for controlling human nature.
Zheng Mengting: Many people think that marriage cases are very simple, and the terms of marriage are very simple, just go to a court and go through the procedures. But in fact, the legal services the client needs are not just a court hearing. Real problems are too complex and multifaceted. Marriage cases are the most difficult to resolve and the most difficult to judge.
In addition, most marriage clients come to lawyers because they don’t know how to solve marriage problems. The only solution they can think of is divorce. But in fact, there are many customers who just need professionals to provide them with solutions to their problems. In fact, this marriage can still be maintained. Among the many clients we serve, a large proportion of them are reconciled.
Nine Pai News: What do you think of the fear of marriage among some young people?
Liu Jiaguang: A large part of young people’s fear of marriage comes from work pressure and life pressure. It is financial concerns that prevent them from getting married.
Fu Litai: Looking at both sides of this issue, if two people are suitable, of course we support marriage. That is, when the situation is evenly matched, 1+1 is definitely greater than 2.
Ruan Chengjia: In fact, people always have the need for emotional value. Rather than saying that people do not need marriage, it is better to say that they are afraid of marriage because they are afraid that this marriage will not get the desired emotional value or will be hurt. I am afraid of meeting someone who is not so suitable, or I am afraid of bearing the cost of trial and error.
Jiupai News: Do you have anything to say to everyone on the issue of marriage?
Fu Litai: I would like to give you a heart-warming advice, that is, be brave. Life is nothing more than an experience. The cost of trial and error in life is actually not as high as we think. Just be brave enough to experience it. If it doesn't suit you, be brave enough to say no. It cannot be said that I have not experienced it, and I have given up all the opportunities that I could have experienced.
Liu Jiaguang: Marriage is free.
Zheng Mengting: Don’t give up your personal development just because you enter a relationship, and never give up your ability to leave at any time. People come into this world to experience. Getting married and having children is an experience for you. If you are willing to experience it, even if you fail in the end, you have the ability to bear the consequences. You can quit, but you will definitely suffer losses, but as long as you quit, you can still at least maintain your personal life, so why not experience it.
Fu Litai: If we want a happy marriage, what we have to do is learn and look for the answers behind the problems in marriage. When we have the answers and the ability to solve problems, the marriage will be happy.
Jiupai News: As a marriage lawyer, I have seen too many unhappy marriages. What is your view on marriage?
Zheng Mengting: Many people are curious about this question, and our customers will also ask it. In fact, many marriage lawyers in our law firm have families and children. In fact, I think they live quite happily and have a very positive attitude towards marriage. After you have read so many cases, you can map the problems that occur to others to yourself to avoid such problems from happening, and you can handle them better yourself.
In addition, I would like to explain that many people have misunderstandings about marriage lawyers and equate marriage lawyers with divorce lawyers. In fact, matrimonial lawyers pay more attention to listening to their clients and finding out the problems in the relationship. There are also many people who think that lawyers are here to judge them, or just to litigate. We also hope that through this type of live broadcast, everyone will have a new concept and understanding of matrimonial lawyers. If you face marital problems in the future, whether you want to divorce or adjust your marital relationship, you can actually go to a professional marriage lawyer for help.
On November 12, a Wuhan law firm organized 60 divorce lawyers to watch video clips of "Goodbye Lover 4" and used the show's guests as typical cases to study, sparking heated discussions. In response to calls from netizens, on November 14, the law firm formed a marriage lawyer observation group to watch "Goodbye Lover 4" live and answer netizens' questions in real time. The first time it was broadcast, it received over 500,000 views.
On that day, nine news reporters came to the live broadcast and watched the program with six marriage lawyers. During the live broadcast, many netizens asked about issues such as pre-marital property protection and child custody, and the team of lawyers also answered them one by one. After the live broadcast, the reporter had a conversation with six marriage lawyers, covering topics ranging from marriage and love variety shows to marital difficulties and personal growth. The following is the conversation, with some excerpts.
Jiupai News: Since "Goodbye Lover 4" became popular, Yang Zi was the first to gain popularity. Why did subsequent discussions focus on Mai Lin?
Fu Litai: Because she looks so much like ordinary people, she represents most ordinary people.
Liu Jiaguang: Yang Zi and Mai Lin, one represents the male perspective and the other represents the female perspective.
Ruan Chengjia: Mai Lin is really typical. The marriage parties we usually encounter are so entangled. We watched this program to deepen our acceptance, understanding and resonance with such customers.
Jiupai News: Some netizens said that they feel that Mai Lin’s problem is not a marriage problem, but a personal problem. What do you think?
Fu Litai: If you want to have a smooth marriage, you must first straighten yourself out, including spiritually, ideologically, career-wise, and emotionally. You must first go through your own setbacks. . You can live a good marriage only after it is over, because marriage is essentially about the relationship.
Jiupai News: Judging from your experience, what kind of development trend do you think the marriage of Mai Lin and Li Xingliang will have?
Everyone: I don’t think there will be a divorce.
Zheng Mengting: I feel that Li Xingliang's emotional dependence on Mai Lin is actually very heavy. Mai Lin should be more than just a lover to him, she has made up for his family affection. Both of them love each other very much and cherish this marriage. We need to explore whether there is something wrong with the way Li Xingliang and Mai Lin get along, and find out the reasons behind it. If both parties are willing to adjust and solve it, it can still be solved. The most important thing is that they are willing to change. If they are unwilling to change, they just think that I have feelings for you, but I am very painful when we get along, and I have no way to solve it. The two of them may only continue to suffer like this, mutually Continue the torture.
Nine Pai News: How does the plot of "Goodbye Lover 4" compare with the cases handled daily?
Everyone: This variety show really reflects the situations we often encounter.
Jiupai News: In the past, 60 lawyers watched it together. Why did we choose the format of a 6-person observation group today?
Shu Ying: I really can’t sit down, and there are so many people that I’m afraid of disturbing everyone. 3 people is too few, 6 people is just right. Moreover, our six marriage lawyers each have their own characteristics. First of all, there is a male lawyer as the representative. He may look at the issue from a male perspective. Several other lawyers are sharp, professional, or have strong control over the situation. They combine to give everyone a different perspective.
Fu Litai: We will continue to broadcast in the future, maintaining the format of a 6-person observation group, but will have different lawyers come to meet with you.
Jiupai News: Do marriage lawyers also provide some psychological counseling services?
Everyone: Yes
Liu Jiaguang: When we deal with marriage and family cases, the first requirement is to understand people and understand human nature. Because we are dealing with marriage and family relationships, which are not just laws, but a combination of emotions, reason, and law, we will have higher requirements for controlling human nature.
Zheng Mengting: Many people think that marriage cases are very simple, and the terms of marriage are very simple, just go to a court and go through the procedures. But in fact, the legal services the client needs are not just a court hearing. Real problems are too complex and multifaceted. Marriage cases are the most difficult to resolve and the most difficult to judge.
In addition, most marriage clients come to lawyers because they don’t know how to solve marriage problems. The only solution they can think of is divorce. But in fact, there are many customers who just need professionals to provide them with solutions to their problems. In fact, this marriage can still be maintained. Among the many clients we serve, a large proportion of them are reconciled.
Nine Pai News: What do you think of the fear of marriage among some young people?
Liu Jiaguang: A large part of young people’s fear of marriage comes from work pressure and life pressure. It is financial concerns that prevent them from getting married.
Fu Litai: Looking at both sides of this issue, if two people are suitable, of course we support marriage. That is, when the situation is evenly matched, 1+1 is definitely greater than 2.
Ruan Chengjia: In fact, people always have the need for emotional value. Rather than saying that people do not need marriage, it is better to say that they are afraid of marriage because they are afraid that this marriage will not get the desired emotional value or will be hurt. I am afraid of meeting someone who is not so suitable, or I am afraid of bearing the cost of trial and error.
Jiupai News: Do you have anything to say to everyone on the issue of marriage?
Fu Litai: I would like to give you a heart-warming advice, that is, be brave. Life is nothing more than an experience. The cost of trial and error in life is actually not as high as we think. Just be brave enough to experience it. If it doesn't suit you, be brave enough to say no. It cannot be said that I have not experienced it, and I have given up all the opportunities that I could have experienced.
Liu Jiaguang: Marriage is free.
Zheng Mengting: Don’t give up your personal development just because you enter a relationship, and never give up your ability to leave at any time. People come into this world to experience. Getting married and having children is an experience for you. If you are willing to experience it, even if you fail in the end, you have the ability to bear the consequences. You can quit, but you will definitely suffer losses, but as long as you quit, you can still at least maintain your personal life, so why not experience it.
Fu Litai: If we want a happy marriage, what we have to do is learn and look for the answers behind the problems in marriage. When we have the answers and the ability to solve problems, the marriage will be happy.
Jiupai News: As a marriage lawyer, I have seen too many unhappy marriages. What is your view on marriage?
Zheng Mengting: Many people are curious about this question, and our customers will also ask it. In fact, many marriage lawyers in our law firm have families and children. In fact, I think they live quite happily and have a very positive attitude towards marriage. After you have read so many cases, you can map the problems that occur to others to yourself to avoid such problems from happening, and you can handle them better yourself.
In addition, I would like to explain that many people have misunderstandings about marriage lawyers and equate marriage lawyers with divorce lawyers. In fact, matrimonial lawyers pay more attention to listening to their clients and finding out the problems in the relationship. There are also many people who think that lawyers are here to judge them, or just to litigate. We also hope that through this type of live broadcast, everyone will have a new concept and understanding of matrimonial lawyers. If you face marital problems in the future, whether you want to divorce or adjust your marital relationship, you can actually go to a professional marriage lawyer for help.
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Editor Zeng Jinqiu
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