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Will you definitely have a bad life if you marry a Phoenix man?
You have to see whether he has the consciousness and dares to admit that he is a "Phoenix Man".
"Alley People" is currently on the air. Zhuang Chaoying, played by Guo Xiaodong, is really annoying. Before he got married, his salary was given to his parents, and after he got married, his salary was returned to his parents. He and Huang Ling were in separate responsibilities. Yes, but part of his salary will always be given to his parents. Are you really honoring your parents? Most of them are used by parents to subsidize their younger sons.
He is the eldest son, but the eldest son should not become the "blood bag" of his parents, not to mention that he has his own family.
There is a topic that cannot be discussed between Zhuang Chaoying and Huang Ling, and that is his vampire parents.
Zhuang Chaoying was so cowardly that Huang Ling suffered a lot of grievances after marrying him.
Even off-screen Guo Xiaodong's wife Cheng Lisa was so angry when she was watching the drama. She directly shouted to Guo Xiaodong, "You usually quarrel with me like this, Zhuang Chaoying, you must apologize to Huang Ling today, Guo Xiaodong, You must apologize to me today.
It seems that Guo Xiaodong plays Zhuang Chaoying in his true colors.
Guo Xiaodong is much better than Zhuang Chaoying in the movie. He even apologized to Cheng Lisha seriously and posted a blog post "Confessions of a Phoenix Man":
He said that there are many Phoenix men around him, and Zhuang Chaoying belongs to the Phoenix men. "Excellent", hateful, useless, ignorant, and stupid. Such a good family almost broke up because of Zhuang Chaoying.
In the TV series, Zhuang Chaoying did not regret it. He even hated Huang Ling because Huang Ling made him known as "unfilial". His marriage to Huang Ling seemed to be harmonious, but in fact they seemed to be inseparable. He didn't feel that Huang Ling had suffered much, and he didn't put his wife on the top of his heart like Lin Gong did, and he didn't stand in front of Huang Ling when Huang Ling had a conflict with her parents-in-law. Huang Ling has been married to Zhuang Chaoying for most of her life. She has always lived her life with "forbearance". This kind of marriage is really frustrating.
Guo Xiaodong said bluntly that he also saw his past self in the character Zhuang Chaoying. He was once so ignorant and incomprehensible. He hoped that Cheng Lisha would be like him, doing everything in an all-round way. He wanted to be a good person and satisfy everyone. , but the result is always the opposite. Not only does it hurt the people around you, it also makes you miserable and injured all over your body.
This is the flaw of Phoenix Man.
You want to do everything well for the sake of face, but you can't do anything well.
People sometimes have to make choices and clear boundaries. You have to learn to jump out of your original thinking.
Guo Xiaodong lamented that he and Cheng Lisha have been married for seventeen years and he will work hard to make his marriage a good one. Playing Zhuang Chaoying in "Alley People" also taught him how to manage his marriage better. He said this was the confession of a Phoenix man himself.
In fact, in real life, few men dare to admit that they are a Phoenix man.
They will feel that the words "Phoenix Man" label themselves and are an insult to themselves.
Precisely because he dared not face the truth and kept escaping, it was difficult for the "Phoenix Man" to manage his marriage well and caused his family to suffer too much.
When it comes to the topic of "Phoenix Man", I found that there are still very few netizens who will talk to the blood-sucking parents of Phoenix Man.They will feel that since their parents have provided for themselves and finally become successful, shouldn't they be able to support their families in return?
should be, but there should be a hierarchy.
For example, if the younger siblings are still in school and the family is really struggling, you can do your best to help the family; but if the younger siblings are already working and the family is not in such a hurry, it is still a bit unreasonable to go after the eldest child. .
Zhuang Chaoying in "Alley People" is not a college student yet. He is a technical secondary school student. He is the eldest son. He works early and his salary is given to his parents before marriage. There is no problem. But they are all married, and his younger brother has already started a family and has a job. He should be independent, and his parents also have pensions. At this time, he should not give money to his parents. The reason why his parents took money from him as a matter of course was for their own selfish reasons. They favored their younger son.
As a parent, is it natural to squeeze and exploit another child?
Have you ever thought about your children? They are also your children. How can you be so partial?
Unlike Zhuang Chaoying, Lin Gong was a student of Jiaotong University. College students in that era were very valuable. The forest worker also sent money to his younger siblings after he started working, but after his younger siblings started working, he didn't send much money because he prioritized the small family. Moreover, Lin Gong's younger brothers and sisters were very grateful and helped Dongzhe a lot later.
Some "Phoenix men" wronged themselves, their wives and children, and acted as the "blood bag" of their original family. He will not be thanked by his original family, and he may even be scolded one day if he doesn't confess.
Why? People still have to think about themselves and focus on themselves first before talking about anything else.
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If you marry a Phoenix man, it will not be easy to have a good marriage, and you will definitely encounter a lot of troubles. This is also everyone’s experience about marriage. Never marry a phoenix man. Once you marry, you will most likely be inseparable from his family and you will be mad after the marriage.
But if you are a Phoenix man like Guo Xiaodong who is relatively self-aware and knows how to reflect, your marriage may go well.
You have to dare to admit that you are a "Phoenix Man", and don't think it is an insult to yourself. You have to dare to face the problems that exist in your original family, and then solve them one by one and draw the corresponding boundaries. What is the most important thing? You must be of the same mind as your wife and don't let her feel wronged.
In fact, no matter whether you are a Phoenix man or not, if you want to live a good life, you must be separated from your original family.
Many conflicts in marriage are caused by unclear boundaries. Even if some men are not Phoenix men, their parents still want to get involved in the affairs of the young couple. Especially after having younger children, because it involves raising children and possibly living under the same roof, there will be more conflicts and disputes. What to do with
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Don’t run away, solve problems when they arise, look at problems objectively and fairly from the perspective of others, and whoever has the problem will solve it.
Don't be afraid of hurting your parents' hearts. Sometimes your parents' ideas may not be right, and you can't break your wife's heart because of your parents.
There is indeed no model for marriage. It has only one road, and it is a single-plank bridge, and that is love. You must be of one mind with your wife and use this as the basis to resolve all family conflicts, and they will be solved easily. And I believe your wife will also see the efforts you have put in. Your relationship is very deep and your family will not fall apart.
A man who dares to admit that he is a "Phoenix Man" may still be saved.
If you are a particularly stubborn person, not taking responsibility or solving the problem will only make you feel wronged. If you feel that it is not worth it, don't let yourself give in.
If you want to live well in a marriage, you have to save yourself.
end.
Today’s topic: Is Phoenix Man an insult to a man?
Author: yibao, original emotional author, millions of emotional bloggers, marriage and family counselors, writes warm emotional things in this world through personal practice. 01 Will you definitely have a bad life if you marry a Phoenix man? You have to see whether he has the consciousness and dares to admit that he is a "Phoenix Man". "Alley People" is currently on the air. Zhuang Chaoying, played by Guo Xiaodong, is really annoying. Before he got married, his salary was given to his parents, and after he got married, his salary was returned to his parents. He and Huang Ling were in separate responsibilities. Yes, but part of his salary will always be given to his parents. Are you really honoring your parents? Most of them are used by parents to subsidize their younger sons. He is the eldest son, but the eldest son should not become the "blood bag" of his parents, not to mention that he has his own family. There is a topic that cannot be discussed between Zhuang Chaoying and Huang Ling, and that is his vampire parents. Zhuang Chaoying was so cowardly that Huang Ling suffered a lot of grievances after marrying him. Even off-screen Guo Xiaodong's wife Cheng Lisa was so angry when she was watching the drama. She directly shouted to Guo Xiaodong, "You usually quarrel with me like this, Zhuang Chaoying, you must apologize to Huang Ling today, Guo Xiaodong, You must apologize to me today. It seems that Guo Xiaodong plays Zhuang Chaoying in his true colors. Guo Xiaodong is much better than Zhuang Chaoying in the movie. He even apologized to Cheng Lisha seriously and posted a blog post "Confessions of a Phoenix Man": He said that there are many Phoenix men around him, and Zhuang Chaoying belongs to the Phoenix men. "Excellent", hateful, useless, ignorant, and stupid. Such a good family almost broke up because of Zhuang Chaoying. In the TV series, Zhuang Chaoying did not regret it. He even hated Huang Ling because Huang Ling made him known as "unfilial". His marriage to Huang Ling seemed to be harmonious, but in fact they seemed to be inseparable. He didn't feel that Huang Ling had suffered much, and he didn't put his wife on the top of his heart like Lin Gong did, and he didn't stand in front of Huang Ling when Huang Ling had a conflict with her parents-in-law. Huang Ling has been married to Zhuang Chaoying for most of her life. She has always lived her life with "forbearance". This kind of marriage is really frustrating. Guo Xiaodong said bluntly that he also saw his past self in the character Zhuang Chaoying. He was once so ignorant and incomprehensible. He hoped that Cheng Lisha would be like him, doing everything in an all-round way. He wanted to be a good person and satisfy everyone. , but the result is always the opposite. Not only does it hurt the people around you, it also makes you miserable and injured all over your body. This is the flaw of Phoenix Man. You want to do everything well for the sake of face, but you can't do anything well. People sometimes have to make choices and clear boundaries. You have to learn to jump out of your original thinking. Guo Xiaodong lamented that he and Cheng Lisha have been married for seventeen years and he will work hard to make his marriage a good one. Playing Zhuang Chaoying in "Alley People" also taught him how to manage his marriage better. He said this was the confession of a Phoenix man himself. In fact, in real life, few men dare to admit that they are a Phoenix man. They will feel that the words "Phoenix Man" label themselves and are an insult to themselves. Precisely because he dared not face the truth and kept escaping, it was difficult for the "Phoenix Man" to manage his marriage well and caused his family to suffer too much. When it comes to the topic of "Phoenix Man", I found that there are still very few netizens who will talk to the blood-sucking parents of Phoenix Man.They will feel that since their parents have provided for themselves and finally become successful, shouldn't they be able to support their families in return? should be, but there should be a hierarchy. For example, if the younger siblings are still in school and the family is really struggling, you can do your best to help the family; but if the younger siblings are already working and the family is not in such a hurry, it is still a bit unreasonable to go after the eldest child. . Zhuang Chaoying in "Alley People" is not a college student yet. He is a technical secondary school student. He is the eldest son. He works early and his salary is given to his parents before marriage. There is no problem. But they are all married, and his younger brother has already started a family and has a job. He should be independent, and his parents also have pensions. At this time, he should not give money to his parents. The reason why his parents took money from him as a matter of course was for their own selfish reasons. They favored their younger son. As a parent, is it natural to squeeze and exploit another child? Have you ever thought about your children? They are also your children. How can you be so partial? Unlike Zhuang Chaoying, Lin Gong was a student of Jiaotong University. College students in that era were very valuable. The forest worker also sent money to his younger siblings after he started working, but after his younger siblings started working, he didn't send much money because he prioritized the small family. Moreover, Lin Gong's younger brothers and sisters were very grateful and helped Dongzhe a lot later. Some "Phoenix men" wronged themselves, their wives and children, and acted as the "blood bag" of their original family. He will not be thanked by his original family, and he may even be scolded one day if he doesn't confess. Why? People still have to think about themselves and focus on themselves first before talking about anything else. 02 If you marry a Phoenix man, it will not be easy to have a good marriage, and you will definitely encounter a lot of troubles. This is also everyone’s experience about marriage. Never marry a phoenix man. Once you marry, you will most likely be inseparable from his family and you will be mad after the marriage. But if you are a Phoenix man like Guo Xiaodong who is relatively self-aware and knows how to reflect, your marriage may go well. You have to dare to admit that you are a "Phoenix Man", and don't think it is an insult to yourself. You have to dare to face the problems that exist in your original family, and then solve them one by one and draw the corresponding boundaries. What is the most important thing? You must be of the same mind as your wife and don't let her feel wronged. In fact, no matter whether you are a Phoenix man or not, if you want to live a good life, you must be separated from your original family. Many conflicts in marriage are caused by unclear boundaries. Even if some men are not Phoenix men, their parents still want to get involved in the affairs of the young couple. Especially after having younger children, because it involves raising children and possibly living under the same roof, there will be more conflicts and disputes. What to do with ? Don’t run away, solve problems when they arise, look at problems objectively and fairly from the perspective of others, and whoever has the problem will solve it. Don't be afraid of hurting your parents' hearts. Sometimes your parents' ideas may not be right, and you can't break your wife's heart because of your parents. There is indeed no model for marriage. It has only one road, and it is a single-plank bridge, and that is love. You must be of one mind with your wife and use this as the basis to resolve all family conflicts, and they will be solved easily. And I believe your wife will also see the efforts you have put in. Your relationship is very deep and your family will not fall apart. A man who dares to admit that he is a "Phoenix Man" may still be saved. If you are a particularly stubborn person, not taking responsibility or solving the problem will only make you feel wronged. If you feel that it is not worth it, don't let yourself give in. If you want to live well in a marriage, you have to save yourself. end. Today’s topic: Is Phoenix Man an insult to a man? Author: yibao, original emotional author, millions of emotional bloggers, marriage and family counselors, writes warm emotional things in this world through personal practice.
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