In Goodbye Lover, Li Xingliang is too cowardly.
was beaten black and blue by Mai Mai, but he refused to fight back.
The test of marriage among middle-aged people is not wealth, status, IQ, or EQ. But
- conscience.
Maimai has already taken Li Xingliang's company, money, and copyright income into his arms.
also asked Li Xingliang in the program:
After divorce, can the children and money all belong to him?
is so greedy to ask this on the show!
Is this the rhythm of letting Li Xingliang go out of the house as a coward?
The marriage of middle-aged people tests their conscience.
Is Maimai so anxious to get divorced because the Qingtuan balls bought for him by Li Xingliang actually had red bean paste filling?
Is it still my performance of being diligent and thrifty over the years? Are you too tired?
Or is it because Li Xingliang has encountered a bottleneck in his career and can only get out, making it difficult to continue?
In addition to the Big Five personalities, psychology also includes the Dark Triad, which includes Machiavellianism, psychopathy, and narcissism. There are only three words that describe the characteristics of the Dark Triad:
Emotional manipulation, callousness and self-centeredness.
Maiimai is the biggest harm to Li Xingliang .
is actually guilt manipulation .
Everyone who knows something about psychology knows this.
Guilt is enough to completely destroy a person.
There is no psychological manipulation of hard work and self-inflicted drama. PUAs like
are often used by small bosses to brainwash their employees.
Use it on your lover, and play with guilt as soon as it comes up.
This is indeed a bit dark.
also keeps emphasizing how many people followed him when he was young.
can definitely live the life of a rich wife with several apartments in Shenzhen at the age of 20.
But she chose Li Xingliang without any feedback and suffered all the way with him.
All these things create Li Xingliang's sense of guilt and achieve the purpose of control.
But Li Xingliang’s cowardice and speechlessness are indeed worrying.
You can definitely attack her!
Do you want her to look in the mirror first and then tell others that she is pursuing you just to marry you? If I marry you, will I definitely give you money to waste? You can find an old man when you are 20 years old, and I can find a rich woman when I am 20 years old!
The essence of human beings is an algorithm of desire.
When someone around you has a bug in their algorithm, it is your duty to wake her up.
When Fan Jinzhong went crazy, it was his father-in-law who killed the pigs who slapped him to wake him up.
Maimai Why is this happening?
I think the unequal ability is the most important reason!
When two people are fighting, they often talk to each other.
In the program, Li Xingliang expressed clearly, was emotionally stable, and had good memory. These are the basic skills of a top student. Mai Mai, on the other hand, has a confused mind, often forgets, is selfish, mean, and self-centered, and definitely doesn't read much.
As the old saying goes, you can still help if you are poor, but you cannot help if you are poor.
Li Xingliang asked for this. no way.
The water in my brain when I got married, and the tears in my eyes after getting married.
Don't hang out with people who are not as good as you, because you will definitely suffer.
The more honest you are, the more inferior she will be;
The more powerful you are, the more sense of crisis she has;
The kinder you are, the more she will plot against you;
Mai Mai is not Fu Seoul , she has no ability to make money.
This is even more fatal, so she must hold everything firmly in her own hands in order to relieve her terrible insecurity.
This is a typical anxious attachment.
Huang Zhizhong said:
Li Xingliang will never be able to solve the problem between him and Maimai, because Maimai doesn't want him to be able to solve it. She has to see her husband break down and give in for her again and again before she can feel that she is the most important and the most important person. Beloved. She wants her husband to live in guilt forever so that she can be satisfied and at ease.
Regarding Li Xingliang, I want to say:
You can have a bodhisattva heart, but the prerequisite is that you must have thunderous means.
Tiger and leopard are very elegant, but don't forget its fangs and claws.
Only when you show your fangs and muscles will you be surrounded by kind and kind people.
Li Xingliang feels a little depressed now that he has been bullied.
It’s actually very distressing,
Finally, Chen Xuan concluded that the five-piece set for love and marriage
for marriage, you must first look at your family background .
Everyone’s family background means intergenerational inheritance. The profound shaping of a person by his family of origin is beyond the reach of hormone-driven love between men and women. Yes, you love him, but in fact, love is the family behind her. What you love is T's parents. What you love is the environment in which she grew up, and her requirements and evaluation standards for your role in this environment.
Children of the cannibal tribe will take cannibalism as a matter of course! This is the power of the original family!
Marriage depends on family background, and marrying a wife depends on the mother-in-law. For example, if Li Xingliang wants to marry Maimai, you should first look at the mother-in-law's personality and way of doing things. There is a high probability that she will be version 1.0 of your wife.
You must clearly understand that you cannot change her, nor can you change her family, nor can you change the environment and Feng Shui in which she grew up. Being prudent and choosing to be cautious rather than overdoing it must be a wise move to be responsible for each other's future.
The second thing is to look at personality.
Character is the manifestation of the native family.
A friend of mine has been married for 10 years and is depressed. Why? My wife is very playful, you know. And he loves her deeply. The child is 5 years old. What do you think we should do? The only option is depression.
is a friend who got divorced. Her husband got venture capital, changed his car and house, and also changed her, marrying a post-90s Internet celebrity.
There is also a friend with strong muscles. His wife has transferred and sold off all the family property. He still asks on WeChat, "Should we leave or not?"
There is also a friend whose husband is extremely erratic. I change jobs every three months, change industries every two years, and start a business every three years. What about her? She slept in the basement with her husband and borrowed money from various places, and her white hair started to grow.
Marriage is the union of two families and the merger and reorganization of two companies. It is a great test of IQ and EQ. Without parental intervention, young people are basically unable to handle it.
The third step is to look at the basis of each other’s feelings.
Marry a red rose. Over time, the red one will turn into a smear of mosquito blood, while the white one will still be “the bright moonlight in front of the bed.”
Marry a white rose, and the white one will become a speck of rice sticky on your clothes. It is red, but it has become a cinnabar mole on the heart.
Whether it is her or not, whether you marry her or not, determines the rest of your life. Love you or not, love her or not, who will love whom more, this choice is full of street wisdom.
I have an entrepreneur friend who particularly dislikes his son-in-law.
But there was no other way. His daughter liked him very much.
So, he put all his assets in his daughter and asked his son-in-law to sign the pre-marital property notarization.
What does it mean? You can enjoy the luxury cars and villas to your heart's content, but if you dare to make my daughter unhappy, I'll tell you to get out and go back to being a loser overnight.
The fourth thing is to see if the other person is kind or not.
Kind people are rare pandas. Especially in front of love.
You used to be the future in my ordinary life, but in the end, you suddenly became a big dream.
She is kind-hearted, reluctant to let you chase her, reluctant to let you be blamed, reluctant to let you buy a house, reluctant to let you suffer.
A pair of kind-hearted people have ordinary happiness.
You must cherish and care for her kindness.
Kindness is the bottom line of love. When this kind of person says goodbye to you, he will never be in a hurry, but let go in despair, smile heart-wrenchingly, and disappear completely.
Finally, leave the rhythm in your own hands.
Always remember that marriage is about satisfying yourself, not about pleasing your parents and family.
Be cautious, rather than indiscriminate.
Go to her home and chat with her parents, friends, and neighbors. This is an alliance between two families, not a game between two people.
Loyalty, optimism, and motivation, but kindness is the bottom line. Without goodness, everything is evil.
Who you marry defines who you are and the direction of your life.
Maimai and Li Xingliang are two wicks stuck together by time and fate.
people, if you lack anything, you will love it! Li Xingliang lacks courage, while Mai Mai is strong-willed. Mai Mai lacks talent, and Li Xingliang is a musical talent who graduated from a famous school. The two wicks supported each other, and finally the clouds opened and the moon shone brightly.
Only by never forgetting your original intention can you achieve success. Husband and wife are destined to be together in the past life, let's keep it and cherish it.
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