Does Jerry Yan have a girl he likes?
Recently, in a romance show, Jerry Yan revealed that he had a girl that he was attracted to. He also said that he had never seen such a lively girl, and that girl was particularly concerned about him.
In response to this, netizens speculated: Could it be a foreplay for the official announcement of the relationship? Who is the girl Yan Chengxu is talking about?
Some people think it is Vivian Hsu, because the two have collaborated in "Summer Flower", and Vivian Hsu's personality is carefree and lively. However, after thinking about it, I feel that the two are 21 years apart, which seems unlikely.
But no matter what, everyone hopes that Yan Chengxu will find the girl he likes and start a family soon.
After all, those who know Jerry Yan feel sorry for him.
His most well-known relationship is the one with Lin Chiling. During that time, all fans really hoped that the two could get married.
Unfortunately, the two still broke up. Lin Chiling married someone else, and now Jerry Yan is still single, which is really a pity.
But looking back at Jerry Yan’s family of origin and his own personality, it is inevitable that he and Lin Chiling will break up.
Yan Chengxu's childhood was extremely lacking in love. His family was very poor. The old refrigerator at home always leaked electricity, and the cement on the ceiling would fall off at any time. When he got sick, he didn't dare to go to the doctor because he had no money.
His parents neglected his growth in order to make a living, so "being loved" has become a very important but luxurious word for him.
When he was a child, Yan Chengxu liked to be sick, because only when he was sick could his busy parents stop and take care of him. "I cherish the feeling of having a high fever. Only then will you know that someone cares about you."
When he was 12 years old, his father passed away, and the family became even poorer. His mother was a tailor, making clothes in front of the wall every day, earning hard-earned money every stitch. It was not easy for him to see his mother, who was only in the fifth grade of elementary school. He helps his mother support the family by working part-time.
He worked as a clerk in a clothing store, a bartender, a waiter in a restaurant, and he also worked as a hard worker moving bricks on a construction site.
He once recalled the embarrassing days at that time: whenever school was on vacation, other students would wear oily hair and ride motorcycles to go out to play, but he was the only one still wearing the old school uniform and preparing to go out to work.
The embarrassment at home made him unable to care about food and clothing. He had not eaten fresh fruit for a long time.
grew up in a lack of love. From a young age, he was forced to face the society with strength. When he was working, he had to work hard to keep his job.
He did not gain the ability to love others in his native family, and he also lacked the ability to love himself, which formed his avoidant attachment personality.
The host asked him, what is the ideal intimate relationship like?
He said that he hoped that the other party would face the sea and let me hide in her world.
The word "hiding" is basically the background of all avoidant attachments in close relationships. They are sensitive, have low self-esteem, lack strength and self-identity, often have low self-evaluation, long to be loved, and feel that love is too far away from them. At the same time, he is not good at expressing love.
Yan Chengxu is like this, he can't express love, and the same is true for his mother, "Sometimes I will lose my temper with my mother at home because she is afraid of spending money and not going to the doctor. I will lose my temper because I really don't know how to use it. How can I tell her that I am really worried about your health? It will make me sad if you do this, but I can't say it out loud. Some children may act like a spoiled child with their mothers, but I feel that I am more like an older brother. I just Will use his shoulders to carry her world self-righteously. "
And when he was with Lin Chiling, his personality characteristics undoubtedly caused a lot of damage to the relationship. He did not know how to express love and would always say it unconsciously. When he said hurtful words, he was obviously thinking of "I love you" at the time, but he couldn't say the words. As he wrote in the book: "The prince was fighting, and there were bullets and bullets outside. He decided to flee and meet the princess at her place." When he got to her, he didn't even know how to hold her. "
His pessimism and low self-esteem put him in a state of retreat when facing most relationships, and he always loved to escape.
Avoidant attachment personality, they also have a characteristic, that is, learned helplessness, and they are always being asked for and used in relationships. In a previous interview, Yan Chengxu also talked about his own experience: "As long as they are friends, they Tell me that they have no money. If I had a hundred yuan, I would use all the money to help my friends around me. I would make my life difficult. I used to be like this. I have a lot of money. My friends borrowed all my money. Some people disappeared after they borrowed money from me. To be honest, the total amount of money I lent should be tens of millions. In fact, I don’t know what to do. I always feel like borrowing money from others. Just help others. ”
If your partner is also avoidant, then your intimate relationship will definitely start in hell. If you are brave, or you really want to continue this relationship, how can you carry it through to the end? ?
Then you have to understand what the avoidant type pursues in a relationship?
means being accepted. This kind of acceptance is not bottomless tolerance and dedication, but recognition, because they really have low self-esteem and are very timid. When they want to get closer, they are timid and think again after taking a step. Such a person is very conflicted when he tries to advance the relationship, so he needs to be recognized in the relationship, and recognition is his driving force.
You must have a stable inner world, strong and calm, which can cover his inferiority, sensitivity, and cowardice. Falling in love between two people is an emotional experience in itself. Feeling love and understanding love in life.
Then in the process of feeling love, facing such an avoidant personality is undoubtedly a growth experience. What is tested is your communication ability and ability to manage relationships. Welcome to follow Xingzhi to learn high EQ communication, look at personality, and talk about human nature. , see people’s hearts. Does Jerry Yan have a girl he likes? Recently, in a romance show, Jerry Yan revealed that he had a girl that he was attracted to. He also said that he had never seen such a lively girl, and that girl was particularly concerned about him. In response to this, netizens speculated: Could it be a foreplay for the official announcement of the relationship? Who is the girl Yan Chengxu is talking about? Some people think it is Vivian Hsu, because the two have collaborated in "Summer Flower", and Vivian Hsu's personality is carefree and lively. However, after thinking about it, I feel that the two are 21 years apart, which seems unlikely. But no matter what, everyone hopes that Yan Chengxu will find the girl he likes and start a family soon. After all, those who know Jerry Yan feel sorry for him. His most well-known relationship is the one with Lin Chiling. During that time, all fans really hoped that the two could get married. Unfortunately, the two still broke up. Lin Chiling married someone else, and now Jerry Yan is still single, which is really a pity. But looking back at Jerry Yan’s family of origin and his own personality, it is inevitable that he and Lin Chiling will break up. Yan Chengxu's childhood was extremely lacking in love. His family was very poor. The old refrigerator at home always leaked electricity, and the cement on the ceiling would fall off at any time. When he got sick, he didn't dare to go to the doctor because he had no money. His parents neglected his growth in order to make a living, so "being loved" has become a very important but luxurious word for him. When he was a child, Yan Chengxu liked to be sick, because only when he was sick could his busy parents stop and take care of him. "I cherish the feeling of having a high fever. Only then will you know that someone cares about you." When he was 12 years old, his father passed away, and the family became even poorer. His mother was a tailor, making clothes in front of the wall every day, earning hard-earned money every stitch. It was not easy for him to see his mother, who was only in the fifth grade of elementary school. He helps his mother support the family by working part-time. He worked as a clerk in a clothing store, a bartender, a waiter in a restaurant, and he also worked as a hard worker moving bricks on a construction site. He once recalled the embarrassing days at that time: whenever school was on vacation, other students would wear oily hair and ride motorcycles to go out to play, but he was the only one still wearing the old school uniform and preparing to go out to work. The embarrassment at home made him unable to care about food and clothing. He had not eaten fresh fruit for a long time. grew up in a lack of love. From a young age, he was forced to face the society with strength. When he was working, he had to work hard to keep his job. He did not gain the ability to love others in his native family, and he also lacked the ability to love himself, which formed his avoidant attachment personality. The host asked him, what is the ideal intimate relationship like? He said that he hoped that the other party would face the sea and let me hide in her world. The word "hiding" is basically the background of all avoidant attachments in close relationships. They are sensitive, have low self-esteem, lack strength and self-identity, often have low self-evaluation, long to be loved, and feel that love is too far away from them. At the same time, he is not good at expressing love. Yan Chengxu is like this, he can't express love, and the same is true for his mother, "Sometimes I will lose my temper with my mother at home because she is afraid of spending money and not going to the doctor. I will lose my temper because I really don't know how to use it. How can I tell her that I am really worried about your health? It will make me sad if you do this, but I can't say it out loud. Some children may act like a spoiled child with their mothers, but I feel that I am more like an older brother. I just Will use his shoulders to carry her world self-righteously. " And when he was with Lin Chiling, his personality characteristics undoubtedly caused a lot of damage to the relationship. He did not know how to express love and would always say it unconsciously. When he said hurtful words, he was obviously thinking of "I love you" at the time, but he couldn't say the words. As he wrote in the book: "The prince was fighting, and there were bullets and bullets outside. He decided to flee and meet the princess at her place." When he got to her, he didn't even know how to hold her. " His pessimism and low self-esteem put him in a state of retreat when facing most relationships, and he always loved to escape. Avoidant attachment personality, they also have a characteristic, that is, learned helplessness, and they are always being asked for and used in relationships. In a previous interview, Yan Chengxu also talked about his own experience: "As long as they are friends, they Tell me that they have no money. If I had a hundred yuan, I would use all the money to help my friends around me. I would make my life difficult. I used to be like this. I have a lot of money. My friends borrowed all my money. Some people disappeared after they borrowed money from me. To be honest, the total amount of money I lent should be tens of millions. In fact, I don’t know what to do. I always feel like borrowing money from others. Just help others. ” If your partner is also avoidant, then your intimate relationship will definitely start in hell. If you are brave, or you really want to continue this relationship, how can you carry it through to the end? ? Then you have to understand what the avoidant type pursues in a relationship? means being accepted. This kind of acceptance is not bottomless tolerance and dedication, but recognition, because they really have low self-esteem and are very timid. When they want to get closer, they are timid and think again after taking a step. Such a person is very conflicted when he tries to advance the relationship, so he needs to be recognized in the relationship, and recognition is his driving force. You must have a stable inner world, strong and calm, which can cover his inferiority, sensitivity, and cowardice. Falling in love between two people is an emotional experience in itself. Feeling love and understanding love in life. Then in the process of feeling love, facing such an avoidant personality is undoubtedly a growth experience. What is tested is your communication ability and ability to manage relationships. Welcome to follow Xingzhi to learn high EQ communication, look at personality, and talk about human nature. , see people’s hearts.
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