The greatest love in the world is maternal love, but each mother loves her child in a different way. Some mothers' love makes people accept it happily, while some mothers' love makes people suffocate and want to escape.
Episode 21 of "The Days of Chasing the Light" is about two kinds of maternal love and two ways of education. After watching this episode, I feel complicated and write this article.
After a physical examination, he saw through a well-planned "lie"
Gao Yuan wanted to be a pilot since he was a child, flying freely under the blue sky, being in the vast universe, overlooking the mountains and seas, is his life Biggest wish.
When my elder brother was here, he inherited the mantle of his parents and coaxed them to be happy. His parents would not put pressure on him to do whatever he wanted, and his elder brother would support him, making him live a carefree life.
After his brother left, he was at a loss.
I don't know whether to take over my brother's responsibilities as a doctor and make my parents happy, or continue my dream of flying and become a pilot.
Parents are both doctors, and have been dealing with medicine all their lives. All their relationships and network resources are in the medical system. Of course, they hope that their children can avoid detours, follow behind their parents, and live this life easily and safely.
Gao Yuan hesitated for a long time, and finally chose Huaqing, intending to inherit his brother's responsibility and become a doctor.
The moment Gao's mother learned that her son was going to become a doctor, Gao's mother was very happy. Even her depression was alleviated.
Father Gao saw his son's unhappiness and insincere words, but he had no choice. On the one hand, his wife hadn't closed his eyes for many days, and finally had a good time. He didn't want to interrupt, and on the other hand, his young, energetic and depressed son In the end, he chose to ignore it, thinking that it was his son's choice, and he made a fuss with his wife just to make the family more harmonious.
Ever since the eldest son left, Gao's mother has been sad and has nowhere to rest her heart. Now the youngest son has finally opened up, knowing that it is not easy to understand his parents, how can he live up to it?
Looking at his mother's smile and his father's relief, Gao Yuan suddenly didn't know how to face it, because there was still a voice in his heart asking him to take the pilot test.
The two voices are even intertwined and torn in his heart. He is in the midst and doesn't know how to choose.
When it comes to medicine, he is at a loss, afraid, and even resistant.
Speaking of the plane, his whole body is full of light, which makes people can't help approaching.
Until Ren Zhen took the registration form and Mr. Hao explained that there were only two days left, he finally made up his mind to give himself a chance to give it a try.
He said to himself, to his parents, multiple choices, multiple paths.
But only he knows, this is not multiple choices, but the only choice in his mind.
Gao Yuan told the teacher not to tell his parents. After all, there are still a lot of medical examinations for the pilot test. Once he fails, it will easily lead to misunderstanding.
What kind of misunderstanding is it? It’s just that he is afraid that his parents will stand up against him and let him die halfway. He wants to speak with facts. Aerospace, there is no conflict, and there is no reason for his parents to reject his choice.
I just didn’t expect it. There was an accident. During the medical examination, my eyesight was not up to standard. When I returned from the medical examination, I just missed the car. After finally getting in the car, the car broke down again. Sister Ming was acting, and when the two returned home, they were faced with four anxious and worried parents and teachers standing in a row, staring at them with death, letting them both know the truth of the matter.
I can't hide it even if I want to.
At the same time as supporting Ren Zhen, Ren's mother reminded her of her mistakes, making Ren Zhen aware of her shortcomings.
Whether it's the mother of Ren or the Gao family, at the moment when the six of them face each other, there is no immediate quarrel, so that the child can't get off the stage, which is not bad.
just go back to each house, each looking for their own mother.
Ren Zhen and Ren's mother went home together. Ren Zhen told Ren's mother about the situation of Gao Yuan and Gao's family along the way. Ren's mother expressed understanding and sympathy for this, but she still had to say what should be said. She didn't want her daughter to keep making mistakes .
Mother Ren said this:
What happened today, mom won't talk about you, mom knows, you are a child who loves to help others, and mom supports this.
However, we have to have a degree in everything we do. If something goes wrong, who can take responsibility? Can you? can i
Besides, the most important thing for you now is to study. You went out for a day today, did you delay another day? The three sentences
are progressive.
Ren Zhen is now repeating his third year of high school. He looks seventeen or eighteen years old. He is in the rebellious period of youth. He is the age at which he will object to anything he says. If he says something bad, it may lead to bad results.
If you really spread this matter out, Ren Zhen is very responsible.
First, she gave Gao Yuan the registration form.
Secondly, she persuaded Gao Yuan to go for the medical examination to be a pilot.
In the end, she ran to Gao's family, deceived Gao's parents with "white lies", and took Gao Yuan away.
When nothing happens, hello, hello, everyone, but once something happens, this matter will be found out, so Ren Zhen, as the "mastermind" of this matter, cannot escape.
If Ren's mother said the next two sentences as soon as she came up, Ren Zhen would definitely not listen to it, thinking that she was right and did a great good deed out of the right way, not only could not convince her, but might also cause rebellious psychology, I don't know where I went wrong.
But when Mother Ren came up, she affirmed, affirmed her righteousness, affirmed her behavior, supported Ren Zhen, and made Ren Zhen feel empathetic with Ren's mother all of a sudden, and felt relaxed all at once.
Just when Ren Zhen was relaxing, Mother Ren changed the subject and talked about the business, letting her understand what was wrong with this matter, and at the same time calling out her focus.
After this incident, Ren Zhen will definitely reflect on her mother's words, her own behavior, and the consequences of this incident. There will be such things in the future. Even if she doesn't tell the person involved, she will tell her mother. After all, her mother will Analyze for her from her point of view, consider for her from her point of view.
Ren's mother gets along with Ren Zhen, not only like a mother and daughter, but also like friends, they don't yell at each other, and everything they do is discussed, because of this way of getting along, the atmosphere at home is very harmonious, and No matter what happened to Ren Zhen, he would tell his mother that Ren's mother knew her daughter's thoughts and took corresponding measures to avoid a lot of troubles in adolescence. Under Ren's mother's deliberate guidance, Ren Zhen was more sunny, more righteous, and more Excellent, more courage to face difficulties.
because she believed that no matter what she did, her mother was responsible for it.
The reason why Ren Zhen dared to repeat the exam and take the Huaqing exam was because of the confidence her mother gave her, which made her dare to move forward.
During the three-class review, Gao's mother blamed Gao Yuan, and asked the teacher to ask him to be responsible, forcing Ren Zhen to retire.
Unlike the harmony between Ren Zhen and Ren's mother, Gao's parents judged Gao Yuan three times.
Coming home so late, I was worried all the way, finally got home, met my parents, I thought I finally found support, but I didn't expect to wait for comfort, but to blame instead.
Gao's mother didn't ask Gao Yuan what he went through, and didn't comfort him. She just wanted to hold him accountable, saying what he had done for him, and what he had paid for him. As a result, he suddenly changed his volunteer and ran out secretly. She did something big without saying a word, which made her feel so embarrassed.
Mother Gao really doesn't know Gao Yuan's thoughts?
Gao Yuan told Gao's mother many times that he wanted to take the pilot test, but Gao's mother said that "study is the most important thing" and Gao Yuan was not allowed to go.
Every time Gao Yuan opened his mouth, Gao's mother would crackle and output. In the end, Gao Yuan had no choice but to choose to compromise or remain silent.
Besides, Gao Yuan didn't ask his parents to inquire about him or ask for help for him. It was obvious that the parents wanted to show off their son, but in the end they put everything on Gao Yuan.
Ever since being rejected by his parents, Gao Yuan hardly smiled at home, and his whole person returned to the gloomy past. Gao's father was busy with work, and Gao's mother was busy looking for relationships, so he didn't realize the change in his son.
may have realized it, but didn't take it seriously.
Just as Gao's mother said: Your father and I are both doctors, and our relationship is in the medical system. If you want to go this way in the future, it may be very smooth, and maybe we can help you.
Are you familiar with this sentence?
Indeed, isn't this what Wu's mother said to Wu Kai?
Wu's mother considers herself an accountant and has dealt with accountants all her life. .
Gaomu and Renmu have the same effect.
are all doing their own rights under the pretext of being good for their son.
Hearing her son's obsession with pilots, Gao's mother was very angry, and directly said a very hurtful sentence, why don't you learn from your brother?
The elder brother is the Ni Lin in Gao Yuan's heart, it is the biggest pain in his heart, it is because his elder brother is excellent and his parents like him, which puts him under pressure. When his elder brother left, he wanted to take over the responsibility of his elder brother and coax his parents, but found that, No matter what he does, he doesn't like medicine. No matter how hard he tries, he can't catch up with his brother and can't coax his parents.
Gao's mother regretted it after she finished speaking, but she didn't apologize, as if she couldn't see the sadness and helplessness in Gao Yuan's eyes.
This kind of mother imposes all her good and bad things on her son, no matter whether he is willing or not, whether he likes it or not, and whether he is interested or not, she forces him to do it. This kind of love is too suffocating.
Gao's mother couldn't understand her son, so she went to see Teacher Hao again. She wanted the teacher to persuade Gao Yuan with her, as if Gao Yuan's choice of a pilot was something heinous, and what she said was not polite, as if standing on the moral high ground, I thought I was very right.
also repeatedly emphasized that this matter was Ren Zhen's fault, and it was Ren Zhen who led Gao Yuan to the side, which made Gao Yuan so rebellious.
Seeing this, I actually really hate Gao Mu.
always thinks that he is superior and won't admit when he did something wrong, instead he puts everything on Ren Zhen.
After Gao Feng's death, Gao's mother suffered from depression. She was unhappy at home every day and didn't care about Gao Yuan. Gao Yuan took a year off from school and returned to school like a wandering ghost. He had no idea about anything, but it was Ren Zhen who led him out of his brother's psychological shadow bit by bit, making him smile and have a goal in his heart.
It can be said that without Ren Zhen, Gao Yuan might have been immersed in the shadow of his brother's death all his life and couldn't extricate himself.
Gao Yuan loves Ren Zhen, and Ren Zhen also likes Gao Yuan.
But they did not delay their studies, but instead encouraged, supported and helped each other, chasing after each other, checking for omissions and making up for gaps, so that their grades improved by leaps and bounds.
She found Ren Zhen and asked Ren Zhen to stay away from Gaoyuan, so as not to delay her son's future.
Originally, Mr. Li's proposal to keep the two of them within ten meters was already embarrassing for them, but Gao's mother became even more ruthless and directly asked Ren Zhen not to associate with Gao Yuan.
Ren Zhen didn't do anything wrong, and she didn't have any evil intentions. She just wanted to study hard, but she was bullied like this. As an arrogant girl, how could she post back?
So Ren Zhen no longer talked to Gao Yuan, nor did he study with Gao Yuan anymore.
Gao's mother thought that she had done a good deed by breaking up a pair of mandarin ducks and helping Gao Yuan, but she didn't know that she would lose a son who was filial to her by doing so.
Gao Yuan went back to the past again. There was no smile on his face, no vitality in his body, and his whole body was lifeless. Apart from studying, he still studied, and he used silence to fight Gao's mother.
The originally harmonious family has become gloomy and restless.
Gao's mother never understands children and Gaoyuan, she has to do it for your own good, it's too suffocating.
Mother Gao is a doctor who understands the medical system and wants to give convenience to her son so that he will avoid detours in the future, but Gao Yuan doesn't like it. The future is Gao Yuan. Mother Gao can only help him for a while, so can she help him? i?
If you miss it once, you will regret it all your life.
A child is an independent individual and cannot be regarded as his own property. Gao Yuan is eighteen years old, an adult, and can be responsible for his own future. He has independent thinking and the ability to handle things.
Mother Gao controlled him in such a way that she wanted to push him further and further away.
Mother's way of education is too important for children
Ren mother educates children, first affirm, then point out mistakes, and finally explain the problem, let Ren Zhen accept it readily, and she will never interfere with children's right to choose, Whatever she wanted to do, she supported her decision wholeheartedly. Ren Zhen became friends with her mother and told her everything. The mother and daughter were harmonious and happy.
Gao's mother regards the child as her own property and forces him to follow her own way. The sentence "for his own good" explains everything, but in the end she pushes her son further and further away.
Two mothers, two ways, two endings, it can be seen that the mother's education method is too important for children.
Respect the child's decision, but the child is grateful to the mother, and opposes the decision to suppress the child everywhere, which brings endless troubles.
If it were you, would you choose Ren Mu or Gao Mu?
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