Three views of "The First Half of My Life": Xue Zhenzhu's last words before her death revealed Tang Jing's ten years of pain

Xue Zhenzhu is critically ill!

​​In addition to Chen Junsheng and Hepinger, she has met all the people she should have met, and said everything she should have said, Tang Jing also promised her to let go and fulfill He Han and Luo Zijun . Although Xue Zhenzhu passed away, fortunately, she did not leave too many regrets.

​​After Xue Zhenzhu passed away, Luo Zijun found her passbook at home, and unexpectedly found that there was more than 300,000 yuan in savings, which she saved for her two daughters in case of emergencies, Luo Ziqun cried and said: Our mother every time There is not much salary per month. I thought she could have a maximum of 70,000 to 80,000 yuan. Who would have saved so much? You say how frugal she is to save so much. The passbook of

​​shows the greatness of Xue Zhenzhu's mother's love. Many people also fell in love with the role of Xue Zhenzhu because of this drama, and felt that she lived a transparent and open-minded life, could see through marriage and guess people's hearts, and was truly a wise man in life. However, when I reviewed " My First Half of My Life ", I realized that Xue Zhenzhu, who seemed to be open-minded and transparent, just failed to live.

Xue Zhenzhu's view of love

Xue Zhenzhu's husband ran away from home when their two daughters were young. No one knows whether he ran away from home to pursue true love or because of other misery. But his decision to never come back after leaving broke Xue Zhenzhu's heart.

​​Xue Zhenzhu found that a man in marriage is unreliable, because you don't know when he will abandon the family, but she lives alone with two children, and finds that it is too hard for a woman to live without a husband to help her.

​​She has experienced the bitterness of a single woman with a child, so she desperately hopes that when her two daughters grow up and get married, they can marry a rich man. If a man loves her, her daughter's life will be icing on the cake. If a man does not love her, at least her daughter will still be If you have money, you should always have one of money and love.

Xue Zhenzhu knows how to distinguish what kind of man you can rely on and what kind of man is worth marrying, but Xue Zhenzhu's view of love is mainly superficial. Maybe it was because she was poor, so when she judged whether a man was worth relying on, the first thing she looked at was the man's family background and wallet, but she forgot that a man's character and sense of responsibility for the family were the keys to a happy marriage.

It is because of her short-sighted view of love that her two daughters suffered a lot in their marriage.

​​When Luo Ziqun and Bai Guang were in love, Xue Zhenzhu saw Bai Guang's poverty at a glance, so she was very opposed to this marriage. But Luo Ziqun did not marry Bai Guang, and since he had his children, Xue Zhenzhu had to agree to the marriage.

​​Luo Ziqun's life was not good after marriage. Bai Guang was ignorant and lazy. He either lay at home to play games every day, or went out to eat and brag with friends. Lose a lot of money.

​​Luo Ziqun couldn't come up with the money, Xue Zhenzhu could only go to Luo Zijun's house cheeky and let her persuade Chen Junsheng to get some money to help Baiguang. The number of

​​is too many, Chen Junsheng and Luo Zijun are annoyed, and Xue Zhenzhu also feels that it is not the way to go on like this. She persuaded Luo Ziqun and Bai Guang to divorce. Without Bai Guang's drag, Luo Ziqun could not only support the children, but also live better than now. But no matter how Xue Zhenzhu persuaded, Luo Ziqun refused to divorce Bai Guang.

​​Because Luo Ziqun has low self-esteem, just like when Luo Zijun persuaded her that her relationship could not be settled, she cried and said: I understand the reason, but everyone is in the future, and it will be a lifetime.

In Luo Ziqun's eyes, marriage is a future. She felt that although Bai Guang was inexperienced, it was better for her to be a man and have a husband than to be alone. She doesn't have outstanding looks, and she doesn't have a strong education and ability. Can she meet a better person after a divorce? What if the next husband is not as good as Bai Guang? She didn't dare to take risks, she didn't dare to step out of the divorce, she didn't want to be another Xue Zhenzhu.

​​Xue Zhenzhu felt that her daughter was unsatisfactory, so until her death, she still persuaded Luo Ziqun to divorce, but Luo Ziqun ended up with Bai Guang. Because Xue Zhenzhu's view of love tells her that love and money cannot have both, compared to Chen Junsheng who has money but cheats, she would rather choose Bai Guang who has no money but still loves her in her heart.

And Xue Zhenzhu's emotional outlook also ruined Luo Zijun.

​​In Xue Zhenzhu's eyes, once a woman becomes a rich wife, it means she can sit back and relax in this life.Buy, buy, buy, enjoy the quiet life of the years. Therefore, under her influence, Luo Zijun became a full-time wife after marriage. The focus of her daily life revolved around her children and her husband. Her troubles, apart from which shoes and clothes to buy, were to stare at Yingyingyanyan beside Chen Junsheng. , to prevent Chen Junsheng from having second thoughts about his family.

​​Xue Zhenzhu is short-sighted. In her cognition, marriage is the second reincarnation of a woman. If you choose the right person, you will live a happy life. But she forgets that even if the right person is chosen for marriage, time will change that person.

​​What a woman should do in marriage is to maintain her ability to progress and learn, to grow at the same rate as her husband, and to understand that it is not easy to be considerate of her husband, instead of thinking that everything will be all right after getting married, giving up self-growth, and being too lazy to manage the marriage.

​​Xue Zhenzhu takes money too seriously in her marriage. Money is her standard for measuring her son-in-law, so she will look down on Bai Guang, but be kind to Chen Junsheng. Because in her eyes, Chen Junsheng has value.

It was she who did this that made Chen Junsheng look down on Luo Zijun, especially Luo Zijun's family. Because in Chen Junsheng's eyes, Xue Zhenzhu's family are like moths and need to rely on Chen Junsheng to survive. He knew that if he had no money, Xue Zhenzhu would treat him differently. So when Xue Zhenzhu and Luo Ziqun whispered to Chen Junsheng for money, Chen Junsheng had lost respect for Luo Zijun in his heart.

The foundation of marriage is love, attachment and respect. When marriage loses respect, what is happiness?

Xue Zhenzhu's scheming

Xue Zhenzhu's biggest nature is selfishness, and she will do anything to achieve her goals. Bai Guang owes her debts. She knows that Chen Junsheng doesn't want to see her, and she always asks for money. Chen Junsheng may have opinions on Luo Zijun, but in order to maintain Luo Ziqun and Bai Guang's marriage, she still asks for money.

​​She seems to be thinking of her daughter by doing this, but in fact, she is tearing down the east wall to make up the west wall, harming Luo Ziqun and Luo Zijun. Because Bai Guang had decided that Xue Zhenzhu was crying and making trouble while watching Luo Ziqun at home, and would definitely help, that's why he dared to owe debts again and again, and asked Luo Ziqun to find Xue Zhenzhu to find a way.

​​Xue Zhenzhu has no help from the bottom line, and it also makes Chen Junsheng understand that Luo Zijun's family will not have the day to repent, so when he is under great work pressure, he will fall in love with the considerate and gentle Lingling .

If Xue Zhenzhu really has a bottom line in her work and has a positive attitude, Chen Junsheng will not look down on her because of this, and Bai Guang will not be obsessed with it again and again. It was her self-righteous greatness that hurt her two daughters.

​​In addition to treating her son-in-law, Xue Zhenzhu is also scheming about her relationship. In order to choose a high-quality partner, she spends money to attend dance parties, because people who can participate in dance parties are either rich or expensive. She believes that over time, she will always find a partner that meets her requirements.

​​Xue Zhenzhu really lacks love, no. She just hoped to find a partner to live with her. On the one hand, she would relieve her daughter's pressure on supporting her in the future, and on the other hand, she would use her husband's money and resources to help her two daughters.

​​Xue Zhenzhu seems to be doing this for her daughter's good, but she also tells her daughter invisibly that if a woman wants to live a good life in this life, she cannot rely on herself. Only by relying on a man can a woman change her life against the sky.

​​But this kind of thinking is unrealistic. If a woman does not have the advantages, how can she attract high-quality men? If a man finds out that he is just a woman's cash machine, what should a woman do if she refuses to spend money on her?

​​But Xue Zhenzhu didn't consider these, she put the chance to change her fate in choosing a partner. When she met Uncle Cui, Uncle Cui already had someone he liked, but she played some tricks, which caused Uncle Cui to misunderstand the woman, and she successfully won Uncle Cui's heart.

​​Xue Zhenzhu thinks that Uncle Cui is not married, and it is normal for her to stop halfway, and it is not immoral. But she forgot that even if she got something she got by scheming, her conscience would be uneasy. Just like Luo Zijun falling in love with He Han, it is immoral. Many people say that He Han and Tang Jing have broken up, why can't Luo Zijun fall in love with He Han?

But Tang Jing has no more affection for He Han. As Tang Jing's best best friend, if she has a conscience, she should know the proportions, not have any plans for her best friend's boyfriend, and even stay away from He Han. Because keeping a distance from He Han is a respect for Tang Jing.

Too bad Luo Zijun doesn'tShe deserves to be Tang Jing's good best friend, because Tang Jing's position in her heart is far less important than her position in Tang Jing's heart.

​​is replaced by anyone who values ​​love and righteousness, and knows that Luo Zijun should not fall in love with He Han.

​​But Xue Zhenzhu's three views have subverted my cognition. Tang Jing came back from Hong Kong and found that He Han and Luo Zijun were in love with each other. Just when she was betrayed by her boyfriend and best friend and fell into a painful mood, Xue Zhenzhu found Tang Jing and said confidently, "Look at our incompetent women. , is to revolve around the pots and pans, unlike you, who are as good as you, have a smooth life, and have whatever you want.

​​Tang Jing knew that she would go to the Three Treasures Palace without incident, so she told her to speak straight. It means that no matter how good you are, there are things you can't force, so I thought, instead of doing this, you might as well be a good person and fulfill others. Anyone with a discerning eye can see that He Han and Zijun like each other, but they are just across from you, you know?

​​Xue Zhenzhu's remarks are particularly strong and unreasonable. In her eyes, as long as it is in her favor, she can reverse black and white. Ling Ling fell in love with Chen Junsheng, and she made a scene in the company. She said that she was not used to people who are interested in meddling in other people's feelings. But when Luo Zijun was the one who got involved in other people's feelings, she changed her words again, telling Tang Jing not to get in the way between them, but to know how to let go and make things happen.

​​This sentence is like Ling Ling intervened in Luo Zijun's marriage, but said to Luo Zijun: Chen Junsheng doesn't love you anymore, you should be more interesting, quit this marriage gracefully, and fulfill us. I do this for your own good.

obviously got involved in other people's feelings, but she looked sane, as if she was the victim. How similar are Xue Zhenzhu and Ling Ling?

Although Tang Jing and He Han are not married, how can the ten-year relationship be put down?

​​But Xue Zhenzhu has no guilt towards Tang Jing. She condemned Tang Jing from the moral high ground, and encouraged Luo Zijun and He Han to be together. This man, like the lottery ticket, is anonymous. If you grab it, pick it up, or you wait in line, you just take the lottery ticket to claim the prize, it's yours.

​​Xue Zhenzhu's moral bottom line is too shallow, and she has no concept of right and wrong. That's why Tang Jing said: "Auntie, my money and ability didn't fall from the sky, but I got it from my own hard work and hard work for so many years. If your daughter wants to have a good life, she can think about how to rely on herself instead of relying on it." man!

Actually think about it carefully, Tang Jing is right. Luo Zijun has come to this point, relying on men. He relied on Chen Junsheng when he was young, and He Han after the divorce. Has Luo Zijun ever thought that without Tang Jing, He Han would not even bother to know her, let alone fall in love with her.

losing Tang Jing as a friend is her biggest loss.

Xue Zhenzhu's last words before her critical illness

When Xue Zhenzhu was critically ill, Luo Zijun and Luo Ziqun stayed by Xue Zhenzhu's side. Not long after, He Han and Bai Guang also came.

​​Xue Zhenzhu said to He Han weakly: If Junjun dare not say, I will say it for her. She likes you, loves you, I will give you the rest of her life, you have to take good care of her for me, otherwise, I will find you even if I become a ghost.

​​He Han nodded and agreed to her words. Xue Zhenzhu said to Luo Zijun again: Junjun, you are doing very well now. If you dare to love and hate again, you will surpass your mother.

​​At this moment, Tang Jing appeared. She said to Xue Zhenzhu with red eyes: Auntie, Chen Junsheng told me that you are ill, and Junsheng went to pick up Ping'er, he will come in a while.

​​Before Tang Jing came, these people were still matching He Han and Luo Zijun, but Tang Jing didn't care, instead she tried her best to do what she should do as Luo Zijun's best friend. When Tang Jing said this, I really felt bad for her. She and Luo Zijun have been best friends for many years. This deep friendship is even better than that of her own sisters. Although Luo Zijun fell in love with He Han, Tang Jing couldn't accept this fact, and she couldn't get along with Luo Zijun like before pretending to be nothing. The friendship is not to be broken.

​​Xue Zhenzhu is critically ill, and Luo Zijun didn't notify Tang Jing, which is really chilling. Maybe Luo Zijun thought Tang Jing didn't forgive himShe, so she didn't want to disturb Tang Jing, but she did it, it just showed that Tang Jing didn't have such a heavy weight in her heart. If she took Tang Jing as her best friend, even if Tang Jing couldn't forgive her, she should call Tang Jing herself. To make a choice, at least whether to come or not, Tang Jing will not regret not knowing that Xue Zhenzhu is critically ill.

​​Fortunately, Chen Junsheng is more sophisticated than Luo Zijun, and he knows how to behave better. He didn't want Tang Jing to leave regrets, and he believed that Tang Jing would go, so he informed her.

I think, if Chen Junsheng hadn't informed her, maybe Tang Jing would hate Luo Zijun even more, because Luo Zijun was ruthless, stole her boyfriend, and never treated her as a friend.

​​Xue Zhenzhu saw Tang Jing coming and said to Tang Jing: You came just right, thank you for coming to see me at this time. I envy you so much, it would be great if I had a daughter like you. Are there many men like He Han around you? Are they chasing you again? Let me tell you, this one won't work, let's find another one.

​​Xue Zhenzhu's words have two meanings. The first meaning is that Tang Jing is so good that she should not be hanged on a tree. Without He Han, maybe there will be someone better than He Han waiting for her. , she should cast a wide net, catch more fish, and choose the best. The second meaning of

​​is that it is a doomed fact that He Han does not love Tang Jing. Even if Tang Jing does not admit it, it cannot change this fact. Since He Han no longer loves Tang Jing, she hopes that Tang Jing will complete He Han and Zijun, so that Zijun and He Han will not feel guilty towards Tang Jing.

Tang Jing is so smart. She has been in the workplace for a long time, and she has long understood the mystery of observing words and listening to other people's words. Now that the boat is done, in order to let Xue Zhenzhu go with peace of mind, Tang Jing lied: I have already looked for it again, don't worry.

​​Xue Zhenzhu was stunned for a moment, then burst into tears and said, "Oh, Tang Jing, why are you so good? We Junjun have a friend like you, which is really a blessing that has been cultivated in several lifetimes.

​​Xue Zhenzhu was stunned because she thought Tang Jing would fight to the end for He Han and Luo Zijun, or break with Luo Zijun in front of her hospital bed. She thought of all kinds of bad endings, but she didn't expect Tang Jing to agree Complete He Han and Luo Zijun. At that moment, she was ashamed and moved, tears were drawn from the corners of her eyes, and she cried out with her mouth open.

Xue Zhenzhu underestimated Tang Jing's loyalty and character. At this moment, she felt ashamed that she had troubled Tang Jing. At that time, she was so confident and righteous, but now it seems that Tang Jing has enough self-cultivation. Just don't know her in general.

​​What moved her was that Luo Zijun didn't have friends, and it was a blessing for Luo Zijun to meet Tang Jing. Tang Jing came to see her. What she said to Tang Jing was mixed with selfishness, but Tang Jing's answer made her ashamed. She suddenly felt sorry for Tang Jing, if Luo Zijun didn't fall in love with He Han, maybe Tang Jing would be as close as her daughter. . It's a pity that good luck makes people, Tang Jing has to bear all this alone.

​​After Xue Zhenzhu passed away, Luo Zijun stood in the aisle crying, and He Han was by his side in distress. Tang Jing always regarded Xue Zhenzhu as her family. She was also very sad when Xue Zhenzhu died, but unfortunately there was no one around her to comfort her. At that moment, Tang Jing's fragile heart had to be strong, because if she was not strong, who would protect her?

​​At this time, I feel sorry for Tang Jing. She is so kind and soft, but no one sees her goodness. They all felt that Tang Jing was invincible and very strong. But who doesn't want to be pampered? No one wants to be strong, but no one holds an umbrella after too much rain, so they have to make themselves strong.

The death of Xue Zhenzhu has made me see through the truth of the lack of human affection.

The so-called good people are just used to call people who are useful to themselves, there is no one who is useful to everyone. Because for the interests of one person, it may violate the interests of another person.

Xue Zhenzhu hurt Tang Jing for Luo Zijun's benefit, and He Han's choice also disappointed Tang Jing. However, I still hope that Tang Jing, after experiencing these things, can still maintain her original intention to be herself, see the world with a pure heart, live life with a joyful heart, generate affection with a normal heart, and remove obstacles with a soft heart. Today, walking alone, he turned into a butterfly and flew away. Walk from the heart, there is always beauty waiting for you.