Why are four siblings born with different fates - revealing the main theme of family education in "Journey to Heaven"

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's " Tianlun Journey " is a healing drama released in 2009, with a Douban score of 8.6 and rave reviews. Although

has a happy ending, it is solidly a movie that made everyone cry.

why?

for real!

because that's exactly what each of us is going through now or in the future!

This day was supposed to be a family reunion day, but because all four children were busy with work at the same time, they couldn't go home.

's protagonist, Frank, who lost his wife, is even more lonely at this time. He just wants to see more of his children in his lifetime.

's map of "Family Journey"

That's why this family trip across the United States, from New York to Chicago , from Denver to Las Vegas , Frank from happiness to depression, from Proud to disappointment. From the perspective of an old father,

has experienced the slap in the face from ideal to reality, and then to the untimely death of the most important young son, David...

At this moment, I have already burst into tears. .....

Fortunately, Frank and the kid reconciled.

Sure enough, love and understanding are the main themes of the family.

Frank is the absolute protagonist in the film. He may be our father, or we may be ourselves.

Stills of Tianlun's Journey----Waiting for the eldest son to come home

The questions he asked his children are the same questions we have been asked, or we are experiencing.

"Why do children lie to me? Why do they like to report good news instead of bad news? Why do they look for their mother when their mother is here, and they still look for their mother when their father is here?"

In this film, the director also hinted at the answer many times.

From the children's point of view, children think that the father is too strict and good at preaching, while the mother is understanding and good at listening. Children feel that they have grown up and can solve problems by themselves. The so-called "reporting good news but not bad news" just doesn't want their father to worry.

From the father's point of view, regrets that he didn't have time to spend with his children when he was young. He hopes that the children still need him as they did when they were young, and hope that the children can live a better life.

In a family, among the two parents, one always sings the red face and the other sings the the white face . In this combination, there is actually no right or wrong.

Because in a family, only love and understanding are the main themes. Home is not a place to tell right or wrong, home is a place to tell love.

Now that I'm a parent too, watch this movie again, and think a lot more. The four brothers and sisters

grew up in the same family education environment, but they embarked on different life paths as adults. Is

parental bias? Raise them like this? I'm sure not.

Instead, the parents gave their four children the same love and the same education.

The mother can accept her eldest daughter's career success and her marriage failure; she can also understand the work and free life of the eldest son's band drummer; she is also tolerant of her youngest daughter's unmarried pregnancy and same-sex love; she also understands being a painter life is not easy for the youngest son.

I think that the external environment and family education are important, but the inner character is even more important. The so-called character determines the destiny. I have a deep understanding of this film.

As the audience, what kind of child are you/I? Which type of child would you prefer? you want your child to beWhat kind of character and life?

First, let's get to know a father like Frank, what is his personality like? How does he get on with his children? What about the personalities of the four children? I believe you will naturally have your own answer in your heart.

Frank is doing the PVC coating work on the wires (to protect the wires from weather changes). 1000 miles of wire coating can be produced a week without interruption, and the mechanical coating work is repeated without interruption...

The scenery along the journey of the family

The scenery of the journey throughout the film, and between the children The background of the call is almost all pictures of wires and poles. The ingenious design of

not only reflects the director's delicate characterization, but also reminds the audience that the father's work is hard, helpless, and the value it brings, even more pain.

is the meager salary brought by this tedious and boring job, which allows him to raise four children.

The heartache during this period was felt when Frank told about his work on the train;

felt it in a lot of wire scenes in the film;

Especially the doctor told him that because of the nature of your work, it brought lung fibers It is even more deeply felt when the has become more and more serious.

It can be seen from this that Frank is a traditional good man who cares for the family; at the same time, he is a strong, stubborn and strict father figure.

's busy work has also created a gap between him and the children, so that his impression of the children is still in his childhood more than ten years ago.

As everyone knows, the children have grown up quietly.

(there are many times in the film where the father sees several children for the first time, always happy when they were young) such a delicate design is really nice

but Frank still asks the children to grow up in the way they want. Thus, the spear and the shield came into being!

Obviously, from the children's point of view:

The father's high expectations have brought invisible pressure to the children, but children with different personalities suffer from different degrees of pressure and choose different ways to deal with it.

, as the youngest son of David, has the deepest experience.

's younger son's character is the kind of obedient, sensible, and affectionate filial piety.

He is an excellent child in the eyes of other parents, with an extraordinary talent for painting, and became a painter when he became an adult.

At the same time, his character is introverted, melancholy, vulnerable, and self-respecting idealist.

In Frank's memories, David loved painting as a child, painting on walls, and when he grew up, he wanted to be a freelance painter.

Stills of Tian Lun's Journey-----the younger son David was a child

and his father sternly corrected his son's dream: to be a painter, a painter can change the world!

The father, regardless of his son's interests and aspirations, imprisoned his son's dreams.

He arbitrarily believes that children should listen to him when they are young.

Indeed, the son is still a child.

David had to obey his father: I'll try.

It can be seen from his paintings in his early years that he saw his father's efforts for him, and at the same time he was grateful for his strict education; his expectations.

As you can imagine, his father brought a lot of pressure to David! And he chose to undertake it himself and rarely communicated with his father.

David is also an idealist, not flattering, not following the crowd, his paintings are veryHe has a personality, but he is not popular in the market, cannot sell, and lives in poverty and hardship.

And the death of his mother became the last straw that broke him. His mother was his emotional outlet and the only one who listened to his heart.

After the death of his mother, his spiritual support also collapsed, and there is nowhere to release the pressure. In a depressed state, he became addicted to drugs, which led to the death of a drug overdose in a foreign country.

Stills of Tianlun's Journey ----- When the youngest son David became an adult,

asked his father for a dream from him, and the father only saw the vicissitudes and melancholy of the young son's face when he became an adult. When he was about to leave, he was still comforting his father, "It's not your fault, Dad." It can be seen that he is a man who resists everything by himself.

In the end, his young life came to an abrupt end, it was a pity, a sigh, and a pity.

he is a painter, a talent, better than most of us;

he can have other better choices, he can have a better life;

he can communicate better with his father or siblings, can have More channels to vent his emotions;

he chose to use drugs to anesthetize himself and escape from reality. Such behavior is a bit cowardly, and one slip will lead to the death of life, and his psychological endurance is still a bit poor.

Facing the same pressure from his father, the eldest son Robert is more open-minded and open-minded.

Robert's personality is a cheerful, outgoing impatient.

He is content with the status quo, content with his current life. He is very clear about his position, knows what he wants, likes to earn money while traveling, and lives a happy life.

stills of a family trip---- youngest son Robert

However, the father felt disappointed when the eldest son, the conductor he expected, played the drums in obscurity in the orchestra, although he vigorously denied it in his words.

He wanted his son to continue his studies, but the eldest son refused;

He hoped that his son would quit smoking, but the eldest son refuted his father's smoking more when he used to work.

But when his father affirmed him a little bit about his drumming work, he was very satisfied, and suddenly he felt distressed about the hardships of his father's long journey, and he did not fulfill his responsibilities as a son...

The most accomplished child is The eldest daughter Amy.

Amy's character is a person who is very assertive and has strong leadership ability;

she is a new-age woman who is financially independent and spiritually independent, and is an elite in the advertising industry; is also a strong career woman ;

is also the eldest sister who has the idea among the four siblings.

Stills of Tian Lun's Journey-----the eldest daughter Amy

From the perspective of the eldest daughter:

She has a good career, and her marriage is unfortunate, so she will divorce and find another good man instead of crying.

She believes that she is also capable of handling children's education and marital problems. I don't want my father to worry about all this.

But in the eyes of fathers, their children are always children and need to rely on themselves.

Even if the child grows up, it may not bring substantial help sometimes, but the father just likes the feeling of being needed and depended on.

's younger daughter's personality is also open-minded, beautiful and generous; her personality is more free and easy; she cares about her family and her own feelings.

Stills of Tian Lun's Journey-----The youngest daughter Rosie

is a waiter in a bar, but she hides it from her father and falsely claims that she is engaged in dance performance. But it is undeniable that she has a responsibility and responsibility. Although she has a child out of wedlock, she also has the courage to take on the responsibility of being a mother.

Frank found him in the details of his children's livestheir concealment and deception.

Father no longer wants to stay at his children's house for a few more days. This time, he offered to say that he is tired and wants to go home, so he will be back tomorrow.

Stills of Tianlun's Journey----The real reason for Frank's journey

is that his father was really tired and disappointed. The children's lies knocked him down again and again, and he felt that he was not needed!

Therefore, in a family, what is needed more is love and understanding.

So the director designed such a scene to resolve the contradiction:

Tianlun's journey stills----Frank's dream

Frank fell into a coma due to a sudden illness and fell into a dream, back ten years ago, his children were still children sitting around Around, there was an in-depth exchange and communication between the family members.

Nicely designed here!

not only avoids the embarrassing picture of arguing between children and fathers in adulthood, but also allows the sensitive topics of the family to be spoken through the mouths of children, which does not feel so bloody. Director

also seems to imply that parents should communicate with their children sincerely and effectively from an early age, so that the family relationship will be more harmonious when they grow up.

This is the love between family members. It is the love that is most incessant and unreasonable. It is a love that needs understanding and tolerance.

In the process of watching the movie, there is one place that made me cry the most:

Tianlun's journey stills----only the love of his wife can calm his grief and anger I calmed down, so I went to the public phone booth to make a call to the landline at home, an unanswered call... Until the recording of his wife's message rang, Frank calmed down immediately, and I burst into tears. ......

once again interprets the deep love between parents!

How important is love in a family!

It can be subtly planted in the hearts of children and accompany them to grow up slowly!

Following in the footsteps of their fathers, we can easily see that although the children lied to their fathers, the four children love their fathers and mothers the same. In this regard, their family education is successful.

In the process of watching the movie, there is one thing that surprised me the most: After

was discharged from the hospital, his father received a letter from the New York landlord. The letter was written by my father: "David, can you go home for Christmas? The signature is to love your father."

To be honest, I kept guessing while watching the movie that this lovely old man was on the letter. What was written?

I guessed that it was full of my father's thoughts and my current situation, but the fact is that there is only one sentence.

However, after careful scrutiny, this is also in line with Frank's character, not good at words, simple and domineering.

also attached a Christmas photo of a family of five with no father in it!

This blows my mind, Director, you are so good!

Tianlun's journey stills----Christmas photos in the absence of father

The director subtly presents these delicate truths.

So I found that, whether in movies or in reality, our growth paths in life are always surprisingly similar.

In the early years, because his father was very busy with work, he was so busy that he didn't have time to go home for the holidays.

I come home once a year, with the stubble all over my face, I can't always recognize my father coming back, so I hid behind my mother's legs and stood blankly, staring quietly in the dim light. Dare to approach, do not let him hug. Until my father took out the candy...

Time passed and my father was old. As an adult, I can't go home for reunion due to work or various reasons. This life is somewhat ironic.

If time can go back, I hope parents in the world canThe requirements for children can be less, children can walk their own way, as long as they are happy, parents should be content.

If parents could understand a truth earlier, that is, "Most children are ordinary people when they grow up, and they all live ordinary people's lives", then the children will definitely have less pressure to grow up, and maybe they will not be like David. The same, living so tired.

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