's recently highly talked about " talk show conference ", let us review the emotional experience of the former "talk show queen" Siwen and her ex-husband Cheng Lu .
The two went from acquaintance and love, to marriage, to becoming "brothers sleeping in the upper bunk", to the end of divorce and getting along like friends... The relationship is still there, but there is no way to continue living together.
because, inappropriate.
In other words, the man may think it's appropriate, but the woman, at a certain point in time, completely broke down and chose to split up.
Siwen once very sadly reviewed her life in the year before her divorce, and was on the verge of going crazy several times, she said:
"In the past year, it has been really twists and turns. When I was most vulnerable, I hoped to have Cheng Lu by my side and someone to talk to. But during that time, Cheng Lu was the busiest, working in a closed-ended way for several months, and didn’t even have time to make a phone call.
I have surgery myself I went through that time alone. When I was pushed out of the operating room, Cheng Lu came for 20 minutes and said, "You look fine, bye bye if you're all right." He and his father passed away one after another. In the darkest moments of life, I feel extremely lonely. I especially hope to have a close lover to comfort me, even if there is a simple hug, Cheng Lu, as a husband at that time, never stayed by his wife Siwen's side, The retreat is a few months, and no one is seen.
said it harshly, this is a "corpse fraud" husband.
Actually, girls' requirements are really not high.
Even if it is a cup of warm water in front of the hospital bed;
Even if it is a simple and powerful hug;
Even if it is a warm sentence: "Don't be afraid, I am here!" Speaking from the heart, or just sitting quietly together without saying anything, as long as the heart is together, it is worth thousands of words.
However, Cheng Lu didn't do it.
So, she was disappointed, she was lost, she was disheartened, and she resolutely separated.
I don't know that Cheng Lu is looking forward to remarrying Siwen as the netizens are talking about, But from a girl's personal point of view, it is fortunate to stop the loss in time, there is no long heartbreak and internal friction, let go and let go former teammates.
As a netizen said, there is no fragrant grass anywhere in the world, so why hang this grass? Beautiful and fragrant alone!
couldn't agree more.
especially saw that Cheng Lu was in a certain "Talk Show Conference", and he joked with a little self-satisfaction:
"Practice arguing every day, I have already quarreled very professionally, as long as I have a fight with Siwen, I will tell her, you Are you sure? The other party argues friends?"
Then, he still won the fight. . .
makes some small bickering, small quarrels and small emotions between husband and wife trivial, and it is difficult to avoid incidents when it is easily pulled into the atmosphere and position of the debate.
To manage a successful marriage, one should not be too obsessed with right and wrong, but should have more tolerance and kindness.
What is the most taboo between husband and wife? Probably inseparable from the public and private, and infinitely interspersed with bad emotions between public affairs and private affairs, it will make people even more at a loss.
everything is on the line, the warmth in marriage is fading little by little, and the mutual support between the two gradually turns into mutual hatred and mutual hatred. No one sees who is not pleasing to the eye. The other party said one more sentence, even if he said no, he was too lazy to speak!
Siwen once said:
"People are lonely in the end, and loneliness is a normal state. Marriage will not completely change this kind of loneliness. Even when life is very difficult, you must have the awareness to carry it by yourself. No matter if he is you Boyfriend too, oldYe Hao, if you help and support you, you should be grateful. "
I understand the truth, it seems right for a girl to be independent, but since she has become a lover, since she is married, she must have the self-consciousness of pampering herself and the other party, and even more so, "I deserve it!" If you don't feel worthy, why would you find a boyfriend and a husband? Share the rent, utilities?
Running a marriage is nothing but the word "heart". Hold high and let the other party fully feel, "I'm here!
remembers that there was a very popular tear-jerking advertisement in South Korea called "30 Days Promise", which is about a pair of two people who have met and fell in love with each other. Can't feel each other's love.
everything is right, but life is too dull, so they decide to divorce.
What should I do at this time?
"Can you hug me? can you kiss me Can you hold my hand? "This is the request of the heroine for 30 days.
, so the hero and heroine started from awkward hugs, awkward kisses, and daily "I love you", and slowly opened up again and became more intimate.
30 days, the two It's like returning to first love. The male protagonist remembers the vows he made when he proposed, as well as the promise of love, and the initial heartbeat.
So you see, the heartbeat between men and women, or the heartbeat again, is actually very simple.
is not How rich you are, it's not how much you can make money, or how beautiful and independent I am, but the interaction between two people, fit, comfort, and love.
Liao Yimei once wrote in "Softness" : "Everyone is lonely. In our life, it is not uncommon to encounter love and sex, but to encounter understanding is rare. "
Yes, it is rare to understand, and with understanding, will you be able to understand from the heart, be tolerant, caring, caring, and put yourself in each other's shoes, as well as empathy...
Marriage is not easy, just do it and cherish it.
And back to Siwen and Cheng Lu, as a non-professional viewer of variety shows, I personally think that it is better not to remarry, everyone should walk the path under their feet, and walk the right path that should be taken at this moment. It’s all important. What about
’s next stop? Let’s follow the fate.
author: 姁ran
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