The birth of a new life was originally a very happy thing.
Many parents will prepare the items their children want to welcome their children.
Some parents even take a family photo after the child is born to show happiness and joy.
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However, in the TV series " Dear Life ", a pair of parents went missing shortly after giving birth.
Neither of the parents wanted children, and they owed the hospital 30,000 yuan for medical bills and slipped away.
When a child is born, parents still look forward to it.
However, when they knew that the child might have some kind of disease and could not get effective treatment, the parents decided to give up the child.
They left the child in the hospital and left.
Morally and legally, the actions of a child's parents are unlawful and unreasonable.
However, from their exodus, we see the pain of a family whose child was born with a disability.
Even well-off families may not accept a child born with a flaw.
It's something parents don't want to have to endure this pain at such a young age.
And for those families with financial difficulties, the birth of a disabled child may only increase the pressure of the family experience.
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As a woman, she was pregnant and gave birth to a child in October, who would want to have a child?
However, when you face a child who is not very healthy, the child may be in danger at any time, or the child's birth defect will accompany the child for a lifetime, they may really not know what to do.
To treat children, medical expenses are a bottomless pit, and they are often willing to pay if the family is in good condition.
Those with poor family status may not be so lucky.
They have to work hard for their children, and at the same time they have to work hard to make money for their children's medical expenses.
Facing the dual pressure of economy and spirit, some of them will choose to give up, and some of them will still bear it silently.
all say that there is no filial son before the bed for a long time. When the child is sick, many parents may try their best to save the child, but perhaps only they can understand the pain in their hearts.
If one day they can't afford it, maybe there will be a flash in their hearts - want to give up, I think there will probably be some.
The child is innocent, and the parents' approach in "Dear Life" is not worth advocating.
Now that you have decided to have a baby, you need to do your due diligence as a parent.
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The escape of the parents has brought us to think about the problems some families may face.
Although medical conditions are good now, risks still exist.
Faced with risks, in addition to timely prevention and maintaining good living habits, it is also necessary to understand fertility knowledge in advance, and strive to prevent problems before they occur.
But no one can guarantee what the child will be like when he is born.
Some of the problems are found during the inspection, and the parents are even more worried. The parents in
"Dear Life" were one of those parents who had been told that something might be wrong with their child. But they still had children.
However, they didn't stick with it and got away.
Although they knew that the child's indicators were normal, they came back and asked for the child. But their behavior still arouses our thinking, and also pokes the hearts of many families in the face of childbirth.
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When almost every mother gives birth to a child, perhaps the most worrying thing is the safety of herself and her child, and then the health of the child.
When it comes time to have a baby, there are often situations where we can't do anything about it. Worry also becomes a little redundant.
Therefore, the unhealthy children have become a hidden pain in the hearts of many parents.
It's not that they don't want healthy kids, it's that they try hard and don't seem to get the results they want.
From the worry before having a baby to the pressure after having a baby, it seems that every family has to experience it.
can be parents, you just have to suffer in silence. If you can't bear it if you shout, someone may say: If you can't bear it, don't give birth.
How can there be mothers who don't want children, most parents are kind, they can do everything for their children, even if they lose their lives, they will do their best.
Of course, it does not rule out a few who don't want to take responsibility and only give birth but not raise.
Once parents decide to go all out, they tend to bite the bullet. But in fact, they also have moments of fear and overwhelm.
The pain and pain in their hearts, only they know best.
Not long ago, a friend's sister-in-law just gave birth to her second child. Because she is an advanced mother, there are many things to pay attention to.
They gave birth to a boy for the first time, they wanted a daughter, and they planned to give birth when they were pregnant.
In the early stage, because of physical discomfort, the doctor advised her to rest in bed. My sister-in-law had to quit her job to save her children.
But even so, the child was born prematurely and lived in the incubator for nearly half a month, costing more than 20,000 yuan.
For ordinary families, more than 20,000 is not a lot. This may be their half-year salary.
But this is the reality, as parents, raising children is our responsibility, we cannot shirk.
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Some people say: the problems that money can solve are not problems.
But for most ordinary people, the problem that money can solve is the problem.
Because of excessive medical expenses, a family is often overwhelmed, and it is even possible to go from rich to poor.
Once the child is born, parents have the responsibility and obligation to do what they should do, but once there are economic problems, the parents may feel miserable inside. There is still a part of
, which may be a problem that money cannot solve.
Some children are born with diseases. Even if parents spend most of their life savings, they may only prolong their lives, but cannot guarantee that they can have a normal life.
Children cannot live and study like ordinary people. This is the last thing parents want to see, but parents still have to bear it, because it is their own children.
Even if you hug them and cry, stay by your side.
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Whether it is a lack of economic conditions or a congenital disease, one of them will become a family pain when giving birth.
I only hope that every pair of parents can give birth to a healthy baby. I also hope that parents can learn more about fertility before giving birth and avoid some risks as much as possible.
"Dear Life" made me understand the value of life, every child is lovely, I hope they can be treated kindly and loved.
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