※ Author 丨 June Anxia
※ Source of the picture丨The TV series "The Legend of Zhen Huan"
After Nian Gengyao returned to Beijing, Hua Fei became complacent and became more and more powerful.
arrogant, she actually made fun of An Lingrong and Zhen Huan as singers in front of the emperor, and humiliated them severely.
Forced by the power, the sisters have been forbearing, and silently returned to Zhen Huan Palace. It was not until Zhou Ninghai, who gave the reward, left, that Zhen Huan spoke, making An Lingrong cry if she wanted to.
And An Lingrong couldn't hold it anymore, she burst into tears and roared loudly: "We are not singing and performing arts, why does she abuse us like this. What jade pendant, Lao Shizi, do you think we are singers? And a reward."
even said, throwing away the reward sent by Hua Fei.
But the difference is that Zhen Huan, who heard this, did not express her anger with righteous indignation, but calmly poured An Lingrong a glass of water and comforted her to stop crying.
With this wave of relaxation, An Lingrong eased a little. She turned to Zhen Huan to express her apology and gratitude, saying that she had implicated her, and that if she hadn't been there, she didn't know how she would have been humiliated.
But Zhen Huan didn't care whether she was humiliated, and she didn't care whether An Lingrong reciprocated.
The humiliation of the night was a trifle. Zhen Huan attaches great importance to why the two have been humiliated, and how they have managed to protect themselves and save themselves in the dilemma.
Therefore, after An Lingrong finished speaking, Zhen Huan's face was calm and there was no mood swing at all. Rather, it was analyzed with An Lingrong that Concubine Hua dared to do this because Nian Gengyao was heavily used.
Hearing An Lingrong here, she seemed to grab a life-saving straw. She said expectantly, "I only hope that Nian Gengyao can leave Beijing soon, and Concubine Hua will be less complacent." Simple. In her few words, she pointed out the crux of the matter: Concubine Hua had an old relationship with the emperor, and more importantly, no matter where Nian Gengyao was, Concubine Hua was equally favored.
At this point, the exchange and analysis of the two people after being humiliated is over. I have to sigh again, Zhen Huan is a real cow.
In the same situation, An Lingrong cried and became angry, and his thoughts surfaced; Zhen Huan was calm and calm, and could dig out the reasons behind. The pattern gap between the two sides of
is evident.
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Regarding "what is the pattern " , I saw a very good explanation:
When viewed vertically, the pattern is the vision; when viewed horizontally, the pattern is the mind;
Zhen Huan's pattern is actually highlighted in these four points:
On the horizon: Zhen Huan's attention is wider. An Lingrong only paid attention to Concubine Hua's humiliation, but Zhen Huan was able to notice all the relevant figures in this incident, such as the influence of Nian Gengyao and the difficulty of the emperor's indulgence. And, from this to that, to infer what happened later.
on mind: Zhen Huan is more open-minded than An Lingrong. was humiliated, isn't Zhen Huan angry or sad? Of course it will. But she knows how to control and dissolve emotions, so she can quickly turn the page and let things pass. is not like An Lingrong, he is holding back a lot of energy, only waiting for the outsider to leave and crying.
On behavior: Zhen Huan is more thorough than An Lingrong. We can see that An Lingrong has been sinking since he came back.immersed in his own grief. Even Zhou Ninghai didn't say a word when he sent the reward.
But Zhen Huan didn't. Although she is also in the whirlpool, she will still take care of the overall situation. When Zhou Ninghai gave the reward and left, she thanked her politely, at least to make a good face. When An Lingrong was crying, she could also say something to comfort her, instead of sighing on her own.
Last point, on mentality: Zhen Huan is more calm in dealing with things. She is not swayed by emotions, she has a positive attitude and calmly analyzes the whole story.
Therefore, it seems that there is really an insurmountable gap between Zhen Huan and An Lingrong. There is a saying in
: "No matter how big a pancake is, it's no bigger than the pan that bakes it."
Zhen Huan's victory is said to be based on emotional intelligence, means, emotional blessings, etc... But in the final analysis, it is actually the winning pattern.
and the reason why An Lingrong failed is also obvious. Inferiority is just an appearance, her whole life was actually lost to the pattern.
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So, why is there such a big gap between Zhen Huan and An Lingrong in ?
paraphrases the words of a writer: The books he has read, the journeys he has traveled, the people he has met, and the suffering he has endured will all affect a person's pattern.
In the above aspects, most of Zhen Huan's experience is better than that of An Lingrong.
The first point is reading. explained this very clearly in the play. Zhen Huan has read poetry and books, and even understands historical books and national policies. But Anling Rong was a hundred and eight thousand miles away.
Reading can make people full of thoughts and wisdom, so they can deal with things more transparently and soberly. is no exaggeration to say that on the basis of cognition, Zhen Huan has already won at the starting line.
followed by the road traveled. This point of does not only refer to the distance, but also refers to a person's knowledge and vision. The wider the 's vision, the larger the pattern of people.
Zhen Huan was born in the prosperous Beijing, where she can see all kinds of novelties. In addition, as the capital of the country, the capital gathers the most cutting-edge and rich information, and Zhen Huan can learn all kinds of information at the doorstep of her home.
But An Lingrong, who grew up in a remote county town, is bound to lag in information. In addition, An Lingrong's mother was not favored, so she could only revolve around her blind mother and embroidery under her father's censure all day long. Naturally, there is not much insight.
The third point is the people who have seen it. The is easy to understand, it is the connections and circles. Zhen Huan's father had a high official position, and the capital was also known as Liu Yunji. The people she has been in contact with since childhood are relatively high-level. This enables her to learn more wisdom in dealing with the world.
But An Lingrong's father was only a county magistrate with limited financial and material resources. Even if he made friends with local wealthy businessmen and officials, his level was very different from the Zhen family. Compared with Zhen Huan, 's network resources and people's quality pale in comparison.
In the end, there is suffering. Zhen Huan actually didn't suffer much before entering the palace. has loving parents, friendly sisters, and a harmonious family. She grew up in happiness and lived a smooth life.
So, at this point, she cannot be said to be stronger than An Lingrong. It can only be luckier than her, and can have enough love to resolve the later grief and pain.
But An Lingrong is different. Father doesn't care, mother doesn't care, plus there are many mean stepmothers, An Lingrong's life at home can be described as extremely miserable.
Some people may be confused. It is not often said that "suffering makes the situation bigger", why is it the other way around here?
In fact, the reason is very simple, suffering does not directly affect the pattern of people. What really matters is a person's mentality in the face of suffering.
has a well-known ABC theory: A stands for the antecedent, B for the perception of the event, and C for the consequence of the event.
People always want to change C by changing A, but forget that there is a B in the middle. But in fact, what really affects our emotions is B, which is our attitude towards events.
Our life is full of ups and downs, and it's hard for us to control what happens to us.
But we can control our state of mind, adjust our emotions and revise our attitude to make ourselves relatively comfortable and minimize the impact of things.
An Lingrong is actually planted in this.
take suffering as a pedal, skip it, and get rid of it, so that suffering can be used for me and become a stronger self.
But if you only treat suffering as suffering, you will inevitably be defeated by it.
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But can the size of the temporary pattern determine the final winner or loser in life?
may not be. because the pattern is actually a variable. It will change because of human behavior.
For example, Zhen Huan, if she stays where she is and doesn't want to make progress, then she can only move forward passively, and it is difficult to reach the final height.
And An Lingrong, you can nourish your own pattern through self-improvement.
lack of knowledge, you can read. If you don't have enough knowledge, you can slowly make up for it in the palace. Not enough people? The draft has raised the class, and this problem has been greatly improved. In the face of hardship, you can adjust your mentality, encourage and correct your attitude from time to time. Doing this, she can't guarantee good results.
But unfortunately, An Lingrong didn't have a heightened awareness.
and Zhen Huan, the more and more courageous, and the continuous realization of self-advancement.
So in the end, in the harem of the harem, Zhen Huan fought her way to the pinnacle of power and tried her best to protect the people around her.
and An Lingrong were surrounded by love and hatred, was full of unwillingness and anger, lost everything he wanted and fell into the abyss of death.
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[Author]: June Anxia, a writing enthusiast. Write down your thoughts. Strive to make ordinary days warm. Originally published on the public account: June Anxia (ID: liuyueanxia).
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