There is no "standard answer" for women's independence in the new era


The independence of women is the strong voice of the times that has gone through ups and downs in the past 100 years. From fighting for equal voting rights, to fighting for equal pay for equal work, to a firm claim of physical autonomy, every generation of women has strong strength and beautiful vision, and strives unremittingly for an independent self.

At the moment, the concept of independent women has a broader spectrum. This is mainly because the situation faced by contemporary women can no longer be simply summarized as one or several "main topics", but the entanglement and superposition of multiple dilemmas and multiple issues. Whether you choose your life path or not, to the multiple "routines" encountered in marriage and love, these life issues, mixed together in different proportions, constitute a unique sour taste unique to each woman. This also means that for contemporary women, what is "independence" is no longer a question with a universal standard answer. Only by seeking a breakthrough in their own lives can they add to the long scroll of "independence". Own color.

This is reminiscent of several female characters in the popular TV series " Love's Ideal Life " which was broadcast recently. The dilemma they face is different from that of their peers, and they are even more different from the predecessors of more than 20 years ago. Therefore, it is difficult for them to find a universal ideal to demand their own life. Instead, they must start from their own situation and the real problems they encounter at the moment, and seek their own "optimal life". Solution", and the final appearance of women should be colorful and colorful.

For example, Wen Ruxue and Dai Xixi, the one who firmly believes that the logic of love and marriage cannot be equal, and neither can occupy a dominant position in their life; the other who firmly believes that love and marriage can be "seamlessly connected", and both are in life An indispensable part of it. Around this question, the story has always refused to give a clear standard answer. This is not ambiguity, but stems from an insight into reality. Facing everyone's extremely personal situation, "feeding" and "copying homework" are not the way to grow. Even after ups and downs, everyone's plight can only be solved by each person.

However, this does not mean that women will be left alone. On the contrary, because of the different paths in life, it is difficult to "copy and paste" the growth experience, and the friendship between women based on the common perceptual experience is more precious. Just like the four young women living under the same roof in "The Ideal Life of Love", they support each other as they grow up and help each other become better selves. In this emotional relationship, they can not only maintain a clear self-boundary, but also gain support and strength from each other, so that everyone is no longer alone in their own life.

Facing the sour and sour real life, for every ordinary woman, looking for her own independent way may not be as comfortable as following the "standard answer". However, such an "non-standard" and "imperfect" independence is still worth fighting for. Because only in this process can we think deeply about the questions of "who am I" and "what do I want", and "take back" the power to answer these questions from the conclusions of others, and this is "independence" "The two characters are written in the most authentic way.