Ping Xintao’s wife and writer Qiong Yao
published a thousand-character essay today to say goodbye to Ping Xintao.
wrote:
"You are free! I, also let go of
and goodbye! I love!"
Qiong Yao said she was from After the "Kaohsiung Trip" returned to Taipei, he learned that Ping Xintao had a fever again because everyone was afraid of affecting her schedule. At 11 o'clock in the morning on May 8th, Qiong Yao got the news and Ping Xintao entered the intensive care unit. On May 9, on the 40th anniversary of their marriage, Qiong Yao and Heping Xintao celebrated a "relatively silent and silent" wedding anniversary.
Qiong Yao described in detail the scene when Ping Xintao died, and wrote that she held her husband's hand for three hours and kept looking at her husband. "I was very silent, and I spoke occasionally, and kept saying:'Come on! Xin Tao, you won't hurt anymore, won't hurt anymore, won't hurt anymore...'" The following is the full text of Qiong Yao's mourning ( Swipe to view):
Dear Xintao:
Today, (June 4, 2019) I will take my children and grandchildren with your children and grandchildren, and we will follow your instructions during your lifetime: "After I leave, please don’t post Obituaries, no public sacrifices, no memorial ceremonies, no ceremonies, no seven..." and your instructions to the funeral: "Please cremate me in the shortest possible time... and then use the method of sprinkling my ashes. Sprinkle it in any beautiful mountain forest. If you can't sprinkle it, use tree burial..." We followed them one by one, but because the tree burial area was overcrowded, I chose my own method, flower burial. Therefore, we are in the "Zhenshanyuan" of Yangmingshan, and your son and I solemnly put your ashes into the tomb of the flower burial. I brought a basket of peonies and rose petals, and a bunch of your favorite yellow phalaenopsis. I will sprinkle petals on your new mound. Although this is not a flower funeral, I know you love flowers.
"Three separate hatred, two separate dust, one separate water. Looking closer, the flowers fall and the flowers fly, and the little ones are tears." I changed Su Shi's "Water Dragon Yin", and when I sprayed the flowers, I kept meditating in my heart. Your sons and grandchildren and my sons and grandchildren all get together peacefully, watching me spray the flowers in detail. Finally, because the weather is too hot, I wanted to put the Phalaenopsis torn off in whole bunches in yours. On the flower mound, among the flying petals, finally let you fall asleep poetically.
I came back to Taipei from the "Kaohsiung Trip", only to realize that you have a fever again. People are afraid of affecting my activities in Kaohsiung and conceal the news of your fever from me. What's more, after you were intubated to survive, you had several fevers for more than three years, and under the treatment of antibiotics, you also survived the crisis. So even the hospital did not think it was dangerous. I also wrote my Facebook page, detailing my trip to Kaohsiung. At around 11 o'clock in the morning on May 8, I suddenly got news that you have entered the "intensive care unit". I was caught off guard, and my heart ached. Immediately went straight to the hospital to see you. Although you were surrounded by many life-sustaining equipment, your condition was fine. May 9th is the 40th anniversary of my marriage with you. I went to the hospital again and spent a "relatively silent and silent" wedding anniversary with you. At that time, I still thought that with so many medical equipment to assist you, you would still return to the general ward. However, deep in my heart, there is always a voice, whispering repeatedly: "Xin Tao, let go! Don't be tortured by these pipes and appliances anymore!"
Then, you are in the intensive care unit. Every day, I'm worried and stop all the work at hand. On the night of May 23, I was having dinner and just had a bite of dinner. The hospital called and said that your condition has taken a turn for the worse and you may be leaving. I put down my job and rushed to the hospital with Zhongwei, Kejia and Shuling. Your daughter Pingheng is already in the intensive care unit, and no one else has arrived yet. I walked directly to the head of your bed and saw that you were wearing an "artificial wake-up ball and face mask". Two nurses were taking turns pinching the ball with their hands, squeezing oxygen into your mouth and nose. On the monitor next to you, your heartbeat, breathing, blood pressure... and other numbers are beating irregularly. I saw that under the transparent mask, you opened your mouth, breathing hard, and every breath seemed to exhaust your strength. I know you are leaving at last. The intubation you don’t want to survive will eventually be over! In an instant, all kinds of moods surged into my heart: Is it joy? Is it sad? Is it pain? is love? Is it liberation? It was reluctant...I don't know, but tears have filled my eyes. I lowered my head and whispered in your ear: "Xin Tao, I am here, I am here, I am here... I am here to take you off..."
A kind nurse moved a chair for me, and carefully pulled my hand into the quilt Here, I can hold your hand that is still warm but totally unable to move. For the next three hours, I will hold your hand like this and look at you for a moment, I remember, I was very silent , Accidentally spoke, and said repeatedly: "Alright! Xin Tao, you won’t hurt anymore, won’t hurt any more, won’t hurt anymore..." I said, tears rushed into my eyes again, not wanting people to see my tears, I turned my head to the side several times Wiping your tears behind the curtain, why do you cry? Didn’t I always hope that you can get free soon?
In those three hours, my encounter with you, know each other, and love and support each other over fifty years are all before my eyes One by one. Remember the era when I worked hard to help you in your career, the era when we made movies, the era when we made TV shows, and the times when we faced downturns and blows in our careers. These, even your children I don’t know... Struggle, struggle, struggle... How many years of youth we have spent to struggle, and finally a small success. You once said that you are a working cow, until you meet me, a weaver girl, you have another Half of my life. However, I, the Weaver Girl, from now on, for your career, for your sense of accomplishment, for your fanatical work attitude, and work hard to cooperate with you. In the early days, I wrote to the skin of my fingers, and later I used the computer to burn my fingerprints. I have never complained. The love you gave me satisfied me.
However, you and I were both married for the second time. At the beginning, you were pursuing me desperately for 16 years. How much wronged I have been! This The society has unfair views on the two parties to marriage. I have always kept silent about remarks that slander me. Silence! Xin Tao, I have only recently realized many truths. Silence is golden, silence is Zen, silence is tears, silence It’s love. Silence is more “forbearance”! How much have I tolerated? God knows and earth knows, you know and I know. Especially, because I wrote the book "Before the Snow Falls", the theme is to use your story to discuss whether the patient Have autonomy? Have the right to end? This book caused a great uproar. Your children, because of two different kinds of love, broke with me. What I can do is still "forbearance", forbearance is tears, forbearance is Love, forbearance is pain, and forbearance is sorrow. At this moment when you finally breathe, I am still thinking, our meeting is my "fate"? Or my "destiny"? Or my "catastrophe"? , Isn’t it made up of these three things?
During the three long hours, the family members came together one by one, and Pingheng kept reporting to you: "Dad! Cola is here! Dad, Korou is here! Dad, safe in the UK, can't come! Dad, all who can come are here! "At this moment, I was suddenly shocked, and I asked the attending physician who arrived: "Doctor, this'artificial resuscitation ball', if you don't continue to squeeze, will he just leave?" "The doctor nodded and said yes, and said, "Leave him a breath, in order to wait for the family to come together!" "I looked around at the Chen family and the Heping family. An atmosphere of grief enveloped us. At this moment, the injustices, grievances, anger... all died quietly in my heart. I asked your children: "Then, we Let dad go away at ease! Okay? "Your children nodded, and I said to the doctor: "Let him go!" "The doctor motioned to the nurse to let go. The nurse's squeeze just stopped, and the numbers on the monitor, and the heartbeat instantly went to zero. The hand that I held yours became cold! You left at 9:8pm on May 23 I am very comforted. For the last three hours, I have been holding your hand. If I ever resented you, I would forgive you!
Xintao, you are free! I, also let go. From now on, I Live happily and help you live back the pain of the past three years. If you know, you will smile at Jiuquan!? As for the various stories made up by those who don’t know us, I also hope With your death, the smoke disappears! Let us use loving hearts to turn all the unhappiness of the past into peace.
go with peace of mind! I believe that where you go, there is no sickness, no dispute, no love Hate, no torture, no contradiction, no revenge, no greed, no jealousy, no lies... There is no place for greed, anger, ignorance, and ignorance! Run to that beautiful pure land! In your 92 years of life, there was also Live a splendid and beautiful life. If people have a soul, let the good things stay with you, and the bad things will disappear with your departure.
You will live in my memory forever. You still remember the songs I wrote "I have counted the raindrops in front of the window, and the fallen leaves in front of the door. Innumerable are the trajectories of love. I have gathered together and scattered! "Xin Tao, Ju YeyiYi, scattered and Yiyi! Life is also Yiyi, and death is also Yiyi! Yiyi and Yiyi, goodbye cannot be expected! At this point, I cried again, hopefully, this is the last time I shed tears for you! If you have the spirit, bless me in my lifetime, there will only be laughter, no tears, and live like a spark. it's OK? Okay? farewell! I love!
Your wife
Qiongyao (Chen Zhe)
Qiongyao mentioned that Ping Xintao had asked after his death "no obituaries, no public sacrifices, no memorial ceremonies, no ceremonies...". For funerals, Ping Xintao asked, "Please cremate me in the shortest possible time... and then use the sprinkling method to sprinkle my ashes in any beautiful mountain forest. If you can't sprinkle the funeral, use tree burial. "
Qiong Yao mentioned that because the tree burial area was overcrowded
, she chose her own way: Flower burial
"Finally let you fall asleep poetically in the flying petals"
May 2017
Qiongyao intervened for Ping Xintao. Stomach tube treatment
and three stepchildren had disagreements
made the family's 50 years of disputes and feuds come to the surface
made a lot of trouble
At that time, Qiong Yao frankly said that her mood was "only loneliness after all." And finally announced that he would no longer intervene in matters related to her husband's care. She called her two attitudes with her stepchildren a "tug of war of love", and recalled how Ping Xintao pursued herself back then, reflecting on whether she had the right to deprive her child of love for her father, and finally "surrendered in tears."
Qiongyao and Ping Xintao
Ping Xintao’s son, Crown Press President Ping Yun
published "A Letter to Aunt Qiongyao"
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The letter stated that although his father stated in his will, "When I am critically ill Please don’t send me to the intensive care unit...whether it’s tracheostomy, electric shock, intubation, nasogastric tube, urinary catheter... don’t let me go clean and refreshing.” But Pingyun emphasized, father Before it was "critically ill", he insisted on intubation after the doctor suggested and considered his father's physical condition. In the open letter of
, Ping Yun also stated, “We never forget what happened in the past and the suffering of the mother’s grievance. If a love is based on hurting another person and based on another person’s sacrifice, then this Love is not great, and it is not worth praising and showing off."
The dispute between Qiong Yao and her stepchildren
sparked a social discussion about dying options
, but just over 2 months later,
announced that he did not intend to publish
. Qiong Yao, who was in the mood next to her sick bed these years, opened a new book pre-order
, which made Ping Xin Tao’s grandson Tranquility once again expressed dissatisfaction with
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Qiong Yao’s past works were all published by Crown. This new book "The Last Lesson in My Life Before Snow Falling" was published by Tianxia Culture. She wrote in the introduction: "How Facing death and accepting death are the lessons I am learning. This lesson is learning with my life and all my feelings, and I am facing the most beloved person in this life."
calmly revealed that Qiong Yao had a long history. Yue has never visited Ping Xintao, and previously received two lawyer letters from the other party asking them to recall all Qiong Yao's works within a time limit.
After Qiong Yao published the book, in April last year,
Ping Xintao’s ex-wife Lin Wanzhen also published a book called “The Floating Light of the Past”
with the theme “50 years of silence, finally speaking”
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Ping Xintao in 40 years The former divorced Lin Wanzhen, his original partner, and they have three children. At that time, Lin Wanzhen and Heping Xintao met at the Taifei Company. After marriage, the couple worked hard together at Crown Publishing House. Three children were born. At this time, she realized that Qiong Yao was involved in the marriage and bluntly said that "the biggest problem in marriage is Qiong Yao. ".
In the book, Lin Wanzhen revealed that on the day of the divorce signing, Ping Xintao said to her: You are stronger and she is weaker. Lin Wanzhen is 3 years younger than Ping Xintao, and her family is a wealthy textile merchant. In 1954, Ping Xintao founded the Crown Magazine, and Lin Wanzhen contributed a lot. After separating from Ping Xintao, Lin Wanzhen has been engaged in ink and wash creation for decades, and her painting won the second Golden Lion Art Award in the Asia-Pacific region.
flat Xintao ex-wife Lin Wanzhen
Today, flat Xintao
two women had gone to "war"
50年爱恨情仇也终于落幕
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related news, the Beijing Youth Daily:Shi Chenlu
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