Once, when I was cooking in the kitchen, I suddenly heard Tong Bao crying and shouting, and hurried out to see what was going on, but when I knew the whole story, I couldn't laugh or cry. The scene of
was like this:
saw me coming out of the kitchen, she rushed over and hugged my leg, crying aggrievedly: "Dad said I am ugly, oh..."
is not yet finished. Forgot to turn around and yelled at her dad: "I'm not ugly!"
Her dad was also shocked. He didn't expect a joke of her own to make her react so much.
Since then, we know that it is time to guide children to the correct understanding of appearance.
The little princess and the little prince in the eyes of the family are ordinary children in the eyes of others.
Regardless of what your child looks like, it will be pleasing to the eye anyway. You will feel cute when sleeping, eating, playing or even smelling .
When Tongbao was born, her small nose and small eyes were black, yellow, and black (she was born with jaundice), so she was complimented by her grandparents, grandparents, and other relatives.
people have an inward mentality, always feel that their children are beautiful, cute, and more and more beautiful. After
Tongbao opened, his grandma's words became more and more straightforward: "When you were born, you and you were cut out by the same mold. Now the longer and more beautiful, the eyelashes are longer, and the eyes are bigger than you... Anyway, better than you. That's too much." Although grandpa and grandma
didn't say it clearly, she also tactfully expressed that Tong Bao's eyes were a little bigger, and she looked better than when she was a child.
Please ignore my wounded heart. Who am I to provoke someone? Does she have to beg me?
Objectively speaking, Tongbao is indeed much more beautiful than just born; subjectively, I also think in my heart that she is the most beautiful child in the world.
I think most parents think of their children in this way.
But in fact, we all know that most of the children of look really ordinary in the eyes of others.
Appearance is not what you want.
I know someone who has been short and chubby since he was a child, but his parents are tall and thin. At first glance, some people suspect that he was adopted.
But in fact, his figure resembles a grandpa, even his walking posture.
"Looks are not what you want."
DNA inheritance is too wonderful, although there are "dominant genes owned by one parent, which are easily reflected in the child", such as big eyes, high nose bridge, double eyelids , Long eyelashes, but in reality it is not always satisfactory.
For example, my eyes are not like those of my parents, but the small eyes of grandpa and grandma are inherited from generation to generation. That is called an image!
Then this gene may be too strong in my body. I went to Tongbao to neutralize the genes of her father, grandpa, grandma, aunt, including the previous generation of double eyelids and big eyes.
The size of her eyes has chosen an intermediate value. Even the single and double eyelids have "two sides". Most of the time, they are single eyelids, but occasionally they have double eyelids. There are also cases where
is "positive and negative". Let's just talk about the two stars of the second generation: Zhang Ting and Lin Ruiyang's daughters and Tao Hong and Xu Zheng's daughters. They are indeed worse than their parents. .
Children’s looks are random, beautiful or ordinary. Sooner or later, parents will encounter the problem of how to guide their children to look at their looks correctly.
Faced with other people's comments about your child's appearance, what would you do?
As the second generation of stars, Zhang Ting’s daughter has been paid attention to by the public since she was born, and the discussion about her looks has never stopped. even her younger brother said in front of her: "Sister is not beautiful."
I asked Zhang Ting: "Mom, are my eyes really small?"
Faced with these doubts, Zhang Ting once posted photos of her when she was a child to prove that her daughter is very similar to her, and would often post "I think she is more beautiful than me." "Such words to protect my daughter.
In fact, the little girl is really well protected and guidedIn the video, she is very sunny and self-confident. Many netizens said that the more she watched, the more attractive she became. "
Tao Hong's daughter was the same as her. She was ridiculed in appearance from childhood to age .
When Xu Xiaobao was 5 or 6 years old, she walked the red carpet with her parents. At that time, many media said that she was temperamental, star-like, and very cute. , But at the same time, many people criticized that the appearance is too bad.
Tao Hong said in a program that Xu Xiaobao was ugly when he was a child, and he cried sadly after returning home.
encountered this What would you do in this situation?
When I saw a grandma dealing with a similar problem, she said to a child like this: "Baby don't cry, kids talk nonsense, you are not ugly at all! In grandma's eyes, you are the most beautiful! "
I think this is what many parents say to comfort their children.
Tao Hong is not. She first asked her daughter's attitude towards her appearance, and her daughter said that she is not ugly or beautiful. After listening to this, Tao Hong told her frankly, "You You don’t look ugly, but you don’t look beautiful.” Then he continued: “But I can tell you a great thing about you. You are so unique that no one can copy you. "
Xu Xiaobao was persuaded by his mother in this way and became very happy. Tao Hong's answer of
can be regarded as a classic, allowing children to accept the true state of themselves.
No, 12-year-old Xu Xiaobao was also on the hot search recently, and My idol, Wang Junkai, participated in the filming of her father's movie together. It is said to have performed well!
Some parents may say: "My child is so beautiful! "
Indeed, some children are born with good looks. Parents should be proud and proud of this. Who doesn't like to hear others boast about their children?
And I admit, this is an innate advantage.
Children with this kind of inborn advantage are generally more confident and more susceptible to people’s attention.
I think clever parents will use this to better nurture their children and help them reach their potential, instead of complimenting their children all day long.
I once read a short story:
went to someone else’s house alone and praised the host’s daughter for her beauty. The next day, the girl’s parents asked this person to apologize to their daughter because they thought the child’s appearance was Inherited, not by one's own efforts.
can not let children have this kind of innate superiority over others, which is detrimental to the child's psychological growth.
Not to mention whether this is a bit extreme for parents, but their The point of view is correct. Appearance, such as , can be praised, but children should be praised for their efforts. How can
guide children to the correct perception of their appearance?
Everyone loves beauty Yes, so do children.
Many small things around me have their own ideas about what color clothes to wear, what hats to wear, what kind of clips, etc.
also can't accept others saying that they are not beautiful. Not handsome.
This is normal. For children, the subjective consciousness is relatively strong. Even adults don’t care about others pointing to their appearance?
At this point, you can refer to Tao Hong’s handling method, no Drawing big pie deceives children, but to help children build up their inner self-confidence; second, we must let children feel the love of their parents, which is more important than anything.
Finally, I want to say that parents themselves must There is a right position.
After Tongbao was born, her grandma said many times: "Girls must be beautiful, and they can be happy when they grow up. "
I smiled and said to her: "Mom, the world is different now. You can't get enough to eat with your face." "
Tongbao's father listened and said straightforwardly: "Don't listen to her grandma!" "
old people think this way because of the background of the times and the environment. As parents, you must not instill this kind of thinking in your children.
Isn't it true that pretty girls don’t have to go to school well, just wait to sit back and enjoy their fruits?What?
Does an ordinary-looking girl have to keep her head down forever and feel low self-esteem?
♥ Tongbao's mother's heartfelt words♥
If your child looks ordinary, tell your child honestly, and often praise your child for helping him build self-confidence and establish a good and healthy self-evaluation system.
If your child is very beautiful, you can also tell the child honestly, but don't praise it blindly, to prevent your child from developing a habit of arrogance and complacency, and encourage your child to be self-motivated.
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