"He doesn't actually love you so much": You can get along well without having to please the other person in a reciprocal relationship

　　Love is a romantic story that goes from heartbeat to confession, and finally succeeds in being together. But don't think that after being together is the sweet beginning of love.

　　 The feelings of adults are not once and for all after being together, but after being "together" is the beginning of "love".

　　 Feelings need to be managed. Only those who know how to manage relationships can enjoy the good in relationships, while those who do not know how to manage relationships can only taste the crying in the relationship.

　　 Then, what kind of person is capable of managing relationships?

　　 Usually we see a pair of loving couples. Their auras are very similar. They feel that they are equal. It is not that one party deliberately pleases and the other party is superior. This is also a very comfortable emotional relationship. .

　　 What should a good relationship look like?

　　 Some people may say that good couples should respect and tolerate each other and understand each other.

　　 "He doesn't actually love you that much", I was looking forward to it, but after watching a few episodes, I found that I couldn't keep it going. I personally feel that some of the sentimental concepts advocated in it are too procrastinating, and they are not as decisive as an adult should have. To be honest, they are quite unpleasant.

　　, Renran’s waiting and compromising, and Sun Yihe’s courting and catering are the worst feelings I think. They are all excellent women, and they don’t need to put themselves in such a humble position for feelings.

　　 needs to please, it must not be a reciprocal relationship.

01.

　　Good feelings are like meeting opponents. It is the kind of happiness at first sight, not compassion.

　　 Ren Ran waited for Lu Hao for the eight years, how much love she suffered. Originally thought that when Lu Hao came back again, Ren Ran would be able to treat him with a high attitude. However, the woman in love really couldn't be high.

　　 Lu Hao beckoned, Ren Ran was still desperate, and was finally given up again. I can't help but say something fair: deserve it.

　　 There is also Sun Yehe, who broke up and reunited. Sam didn’t want to get married and didn’t give promises. In fact, it explained everything. She had to wait until she recognized Sam’s character before she was willing to give up this relationship completely. The representative who turned back.

　　 A person who dare not laugh and cry loudly even in front of the one he loves, a person who treats every request of his boyfriend carefully, and is afraid of making mistakes. How can he be happy in love?

　　 Even if there is happiness, it is an illusion.

　　 The breakup of Sun Yihe and Sam was more due to her lack of self-confidence in herself, and Ren Ran's attachment to Lu Hao was more due to her too much belief.

　　 feelings, it’s not good to be unconfident, and not to be too self-confident. Only the right self-confidence can give a guarantee for the relationship, and it can protect and guard the relationship.

02.

　　 I have a friend who met a Gao Fushuai at a birthday party. This friend of mine likes this boy very much, so he got Gao Fushuai's WeChat because of the birthday star of that birthday party.

　　 The next day, she sent a WeChat message to the other party, saying that she was a friend of the birthday star. When she saw him at the banquet, she thought he was excellent and asked her friend on WeChat.

　　 Boys seem to be very accustomed to having girls asking for their WeChat. He behaves very indifferently and politely. My friend felt that he finally had a conversation with the boy he liked, and he was very excited.

　　 In the next few days, she happily dresses herself up and sends it to Moments. In addition, she will also post some homemade food photos. A few days later, under one of her food photos, she got a thumbs up.

　　 So the friend boldly invited and asked the boys if they wanted to eat dessert together, and the other party agreed.

　　At this time, the entanglement of friends began. What clothes should I wear? What do you say when you meet? How to leave a good impression on the other party? Wait, to be honest, she made the battle so much that everyone around her became nervous with her.

　　 The most nervous thing is ***. When she heard that her daughter had met a handsome man, she desperately gave her daughter a trick, thinking about letting her win in one fell swoop.

　　 Finally, my friendIndeed, she had a few meals with the male god and drank a few coffees. She felt that the time was almost enough to confess her, but she was rejected by the other party.

　　 She still couldn't figure out what went wrong with herself.

　　 According to me, her biggest problem is to pretend too much. Obviously, what she is showing in front of the boys is not the real self. As long as the boys have some insight, they can tell.

03.

　　 Outstanding boys often hope for outstanding girls.

　　 What is used to judge whether a person is good, first is appearance, second is temperament, third is self-confidence, and fourth is freedom.

　　 It is a very common thing in life to judge people by their appearance. Usually, for strangers, good looks are more likely to attract attention. Just like the boy whom a friend likes, she also likes each other because of his appearance.

　　 determines whether the story has a beginning. As for the ending, it depends on the understanding and getting along with other aspects. For example, whether there is connotative temperament, whether the interests are similar, whether the chat is comfortable.

　　 If a person is good enough, he will naturally attract the opposite sex, and he doesn't need to be pleased to get the other person's attention.

　　 is like Sun Yihe. She obviously has good looks, temperament and even a job, but she never feels that she is worthy of Sam. Therefore, in this relationship, she is concerned about the gains and losses, careful and cautious, and love will be so awkward.

　　 And my friend, she was not accepted not because she was really not good, but because her performance was not good.

　　 When chatting on WeChat, she was confident and generous, and she was not shy, but when she came to the real world, she was counseled, not only counseled, but also very unfounded, thinking about catering to others instead of showing her true self.

　　 Choose the style of clothes that boys like, and choose what the other person likes to hear. To be honest, this kind of love is really tiring.

　　 Since there is no way for two people to sit down and talk peacefully, how can they live in peace because they have unequal vision.

　　 It's not love that comes from pleasing, it's just possession.