In the hit "Dear Myself", Zhang Zhizhi, played by Kan Qingzi, has a superb mother-in-law. In order for her to give birth to a boy with her second child, she not only forced her to drink bitter and black Chinese medicine, but also slapped her in the face of her husband Zhizhi! As a result, Zhizhi asked her husband for help and winked, but her husband did not stand up to defend her. Zhizhi had no choice but to bite the bullet and drink the medicine.
It is understandable that the old man’s wish to have a grandson is understandable, but in fact, boys and girls are the same, as long as the children are healthy and healthy. Because inheritance is not the purpose of marriage, and women are not machines for giving birth.
One, a woman, not the machine for your family to give birth
A few years ago, a shocking event occurred in Guangdong: To give birth to a boy, the mother-in-law forced her daughter-in-law to have 9 abortions, resulting in her death.
The heroine of this tragedy is 31 years old and has 3 daughters under her knees. The mother-in-law, who desperately wants to hold her grandson, asked her to give birth to a boy. It is said that she was pregnant 8 times before and after, but every time she checked it was a girl and induced labor.
When she was pregnant for the ninth time, she was her daughter again. When she knew it, her mother-in-law continued to force her to continue the induction operation. In the end, during the operation, due to repeated labor induction experiences in the past, the uterine wall was too thin and caused massive bleeding, and finally died.
9 pregnancy induced labor plus maternity is 10 lives. I wonder if this mother-in-law who treats a woman as a fertility machine feels guilty and regrets it?
Second, the attitude of the husband, the temperature of marriage
In the discordant relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is a husband who pretends to be stupid. Faced with the mother's persecution of his wife, the husband of this mother had never resisted and said nothing, but if he stopped in time, perhaps this tragedy would not happen. I really agree with that sentence: What is the attitude of the husband, what is the temperature of marriage.
Medina once proposed in the variety show "Mother and Mother" that she hoped that the second child would have her own surname. Her husband Jiang Chaomiao agreed and took the initiative to convince her mother to agree. But Mama Jiang felt unacceptable and reluctant.
Jiang Chao didn’t give up, he started talking to his mother about the conditions: “These things should be discussed, otherwise Medina would not dare to have a second child. Na's last name."
For a time, the audience praised Jiang Chao for being a powerful wife. At such times, many men would only persuade their wives not to antagonize the old man, and forbear. But he was very supportive of his wife. He didn't wear a machismo hat. He felt that the child should follow his father's surname, but was on the same line as his wife.
Some people say: The more a husband takes into consideration his wife's feelings, the happier the wife will be. This means that when the husband feels about taking care of his wife, the woman's complaints will be reduced, the psychological distance between the two will be shortened, and the happiness of each other's marriage will be improved.
3. The best mother-in-law relationship: keep your distance and be polite
Many people fell in love when they got married. The piano and the ming, respect each other like guests, but in the end they fell apart in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The maintenance of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an extremely important factor in a harmonious and loving family.
Meng Fei once said when presiding over the "New Blind Date Conference": "There are two points in handling the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The first point is to know how to keep a distance as an elder, and the second point is to always be polite as a junior."
Some old people will rely on the old to sell their old, and they are all for your own good. Therefore, it is best to live separately from in-laws, as the distance produces beauty. In many cases, politeness can be harmonious.
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