Leading by example to establish family rules-exploring the red family style of He Long's family

He Long is a time-tested proletarian revolutionary, military strategist, and an outstanding leader of the party and the country. In addition to He Long, the He family also has three heroic and loyal He family sisters-He Xianggu, He Wumei, and He Mangu. They were active in western Hunan, cooperated with the Red Army, made great contributions to the establishment of the revolutionary base area, and finally sacrificed heroically in the struggle against the enemy.




Living in such a loyal and upright family, He Long is infinitely loyal to the party and the people, he believes in communist ideals, and teaches his children what he has done throughout his life. He Long attaches great importance to filial piety. On the day of his father's death, he would gather his children together and bow their heads one by one against the photos of his father. He Long said: "This is not a feudal superstition, but a memorial and mourning for the elders. Although it is impossible for the old people who have left to know that they are paying homage to him, the descendants cannot lose their gratitude. Parents gave us life, and everyone will have it. Today." The filial piety advocated by He Long has been well inherited by his children. In the generation of He Long’s son, He Pengfei, even a tacit convention has formed that every day one of the sisters must accompany the old mother to eat at home.




He Long once said to his children: "Relying on your own efforts, being useful people and doing righteous things is the foundation. You are not required to become famous and family, and do not want to be a high-ranking official, but you must have a skill. In this way, you are It’s good for the country.” He Long’s second daughter, He Xiaoming, said: “Our family’s family tradition is handed down from our father and mother. It’s called being an honest person and doing things seriously. You have to do these two things. You are great in your life. We dare not tell lies in front of our parents, because this is what our father despises most! Our family also has a rule that does not allow schools and organizations to request special care and treatment in the name of father. If this behavior happens, the whole family will despise it very much. This is also the thing that my father dislikes the most." He Long also educates his children to earn money on their own. Some parents belong to their parents, and their husbands are not as good as their own. Spend money. Also separated by a layer of skin. Although these homely words are simple and plain, they contain profound truths. Children take their father's words as mottos in their hearts, and they always encourage themselves to be self-reliant. In the words of He Long's eldest daughter, He Jiesheng, these words have been used for a lifetime.




When He Pengfei was born, He Long was already 50 years old. The half-Battle of ordinary people tend to be more pampered, but He Long never spoiled his son. When He Pengfei was in junior high school, he broke his leg once while playing football. It is natural for the parents to feel distressed when the child is injured, and it is reasonable to receive special care. But there is still no privilege here in He Long. A week later, He Long let his son in plaster go to school, and confessed that his son was not allowed to take his own car. He packed a rickshaw on the street to take He Pengfei to and from school. He Pengfei sat on a tricycle with a cane, not feeling uncomfortable because he was the marshal's son. Some people think that He Long is too strict as a father, but he said: "The son was originally an ordinary member. Besides, he just took the opportunity to be tempered. In the future, he will be able to stand alone and walk the future better."




September 1963 In August, He Pengfei failed to apply for Tsinghua University for the first time. He wanted to ask his father to help, but was rejected. He Long said: "The only way to realize the ideal of life is to continue to work hard. There is no second way." Therefore, He Pengfei re-study at Tsinghua High School for one year, and finally relied on his own efforts to enter the Department of Mechanical Engineering of Tsinghua University.




According to He Long’s second daughter, He Xiaoming, his father was busy with work all day and worked for the country. The most communication with his children was at the dinner table, so their family education was mostly developed at the dinner table. He Long was born as a peasant's son, and his arduous and simple style has been maintained. "Details determine success or failure, and the knowledge at the dinner table is great." He Long warned the children that every grain and sweat must be cherished. Every time he eats, He Long asks them not toThere may be leftover rice grains, and no rice grains should be dropped on the table. After eating, take the used bowls and chopsticks to the kitchen to clean them and put them aside. This is the house rule. Not only did he set the rules, but he also set an example to implement the rules to the end. At the dinner table, the children learned from their parents many good qualities and basic etiquette of hospitality, humility, filial piety, gratitude, and integrity, and they will benefit for life.

Adhering to the spirit of his father’s loyalty to the people’s cause, in 2006, after he retired, He Xiaoming registered for the “He Long Sports Foundation” with his sister He Liming in line with the principle of “not engaging in sports”. The school supports the children in the old districts and cares about the growth of young people.




Source: People's Army

Editor: Yao Yao