"Cohabited for 10 years but never went to bed?" How cool is Chen Yihan's "scum girl" concept of love?

Author | Sister Wan



on a whim during the weekend and finished watching " is sadder than sad story ". The only impression of



is that the plot is so surprising that it can dislocate the jaw.


To put it simply, has lived together for ten years, but has never been in bed. The person I love falls in love with someone else’s fiancé.


sounds terribly bloody, and a sentence contains the complicated four-corner relationship, but this does not prevent me from experiencing the sadness in the film.


Two people came together because of love, and separated because of love, and in the end they were never really together. The


movie seems to be asking questions throughout the film: has never been together and together but has not come to the end, which is more regrettable?


can't give the answer in the play, outside the play Chen Yihan answered this question with her n love experiences:


every relationship is struggling, injury and fearless.


Compared with timid regret, Chen Yihan is more willing to choose the failure after bravery. All the past of


is to hug the last Mr. Right.




It is the first time that Sister Wan knows that Chen Yihan is because of the movie "I heard". She is playing a quiet and sunny girl.


I don’t know how many people melted that smile.



because of her pure and cute appearance, I thought that Chen Yihan was probably a shy girl in reality, and even blushed when she talked to boys.


, but after reading her interview, I realized what a restless heart is hidden under this quiet appearance.


When all the actresses were silent about dating, Chen Yihan generously admitted that he "loves to fall in love."



is never timid in front of love, and even "prefers to abuse."



began to fall in love in junior high school, almost no window period. The number of times



falls in love is too many to count.


also because of this interview, began to rumors that she had a total of 47 romances.


may have a lot of love, but Sister Wan does not think it is a kind of randomness, but a kind of bravery-after many failures, she still has a longing for love.


In the book "Don't Get Married Before 30", Chen Yu said that "As a modern woman, a very important part of your growth and experience is to fall in love and lose love."


Love teaches you how to love someone, and a broken love teaches you. How to heal yourself.


has been cheated, passed by a minor, and let go in Chen Yihan's exposed love affair... Every experience of


is very bloody, and every failure is enough to shatter all girls' fantasy about love.


Chen Yihan, who should have been timid, was not crushed by these pasts, but instead believed in love as always.


She said something like this a long time ago-

What is brave? For me, dare to love and sweat, dare to be hated, dare to accept the facts, dare to be happy alone,Dare to two people who are not afraid of injury, dare to get up without hesitation, dare to do what they say, dare to take a cold shower in winter... many, many, but the real thing I insist most is to have the courage to be loved and abandoned.


Because I have seen what is not love, so I know what true love is.


Chen Yihan and her current husband Xu Fuxiang showed relaxation and peace of mind, not afraid of exposure.



The couple went shopping together, and Xu Fuxiang squatted down to help her tie her shoes.



Most people set limits for themselves when they are in love. feels that there is only one dedication in a lifetime, and then there should be some restraint.


But Chen Yihan doesn't. In the face of feelings, she has a big saying: If the weight of the soul is 21 grams, then love has 20 grams.


treats everything like first love, treats love as all, not afraid of injury, without reservation.


may also be such fearlessness, in exchange for the ultimate completion.




My sister has a friend, Su Su, who has a very similar relationship with Chen Yihan. If you like it, you fall in love. If you don't like it, bye.


Most of the love ends without a disease, a period is stranger than a period, so we have become the scumbag harvester.


I have seen her pretending to be a clerk to ask for WeChat, and I have also seen her take the initiative to create a chance to meet...


every time we deflate, we laugh at her.


But she herself disagrees: "If you like it, try it. It's better to take a step forward than staying still."


This is also the point that Sister Wan admires her most. She will not wait for love to come, but take the initiative, even if You won’t lose the courage to love even if you get hurt.


In the eyes of others, this may be called sloppy and casual.


But Sister Wan thinks that this is the quality that contemporary girls should possess.


People in this life, although they will encounter many different people, but they are very few and suitable for themselves. If you miss an opportunity, you may miss an entire life.


Not all boys are so courageous and decisive when facing girls they have a crush on. Boys who don’t understand style may just don’t understand routines, and he can treat feelings very sincerely and purely.


Sometimes a girl’s hesitation for a moment may be a rejection for a boy.


If you take the initiative at this time and give him courage, you are actually giving yourself a chance.


will ultimately make you a good love, mostly brave, not shrinking. Sister


May you be bold and fearless in the future, dare to love and hate.