The great philosopher Plato once said that "The most regrettable thing in life is to easily give up what should not be given up, and stubbornly insist on what should not be persevering. " Some people say that human life is a process of constant trial and error. , But there are still opportunities for change in the mistakes of youth, and the mistakes of old age may be the sadness of a lifetime.
Although we have heard countless truths, there are still people who have a bad life. Jiang Menglin , a modern Chinese educator, is knowledgeable and talented, and has made great achievements in career, but there are many criticisms in his love life. Marry again, but in the end, he went to court with his wife. There was no peace at all in his later years, and he finally said " regretted the original "!
Education pioneer Jiang Menglin
The Republic of China, in the process of Chinese history, it can be said to be the best period or the worst period, but there is no doubt that there have been too many classic characters in this period. The one who came out was an industry pioneer.
Although the country was in turmoil at that time, the level of education did not lag behind , mainly because there were a group of outstanding educators, such as Jiang Menglin, who was the president of Peking University.
Jiang Menglin was born in Yuyao, Zhejiang in 1886. He entered a private school at the age of 6. His entire study career has been affected by the social environment at that time. He was admitted to Shanghai Nanyang Public School in 1904. As early as 1899, he had studied with his family in Shanghai. Books, learns English and arithmetic, so I can speak a fluent foreign language.
After graduating from university in 1908, he chose to study in the United States. He first studied for a master's degree at the University of California, and then studied under Dewey and obtained a doctorate in philosophy and education from Columbia University. Jiang Menglin, who graduated with a doctorate in 1917, returned to China resolutely. The magazine serves as editor and chief editor.
In 1919, he was invited to teach at Peking University by Cai Yuanpei, then president of Peking University, and then acted as Peking University president for a period of time. Since then, he has served as Peking University president twice. In 1930, under the arrangement of Mr. Jiang, he formally became the president of Peking University. Jiang Menglin was indeed very capable in education management. Once he came to power, seriously rectified the school rules and regulations, and took the lead in proposing a full-time professor system.
He was also the first Minister of Education of the Republic of China. Jiang Menglin held high the banner of education reform and combined advanced foreign educational thoughts with China’s specific national conditions. Various measures of really contributed to the development of China’s education , the education he proposed The idea still has practical meaning until now.
abandoning his original partner and marrying a friend's wife
It is undeniable that Jiang Menglin is able to deal with education issues, but as good as him, there will be moments of irrationality when facing feelings.
is the same as most people at that time. . The combination of Jiang Menglin and his original wife Sun Yushu is the order of his parents. The matchmaker’s words are . The two under an arranged marriage have no emotional foundation. Sun Yushu is a cultureless person. Traditional women, the relationship between the two is not deep, but they can be regarded as respectful as guests.
Sun Yushu gave birth to Jiang Menglin's third daughter, but Tao Zenggu's appearance broke the balance that the couple had maintained for 25 years.
Tao Zenggu is the wife of Jiang Menglin’s friend Gao Renshan. In 1928, Gao Renshan was murdered by military law. Before his death, he entrusted his wife to Jiang Menglin to take care of . After Gao Renshan died, Jiang Menglin often looked after his friend’s widow, and the two had contact with each other. More and more time, the relationship between the two has changed.
Jiang Menglin did not hesitate to divorce his original spouse and marry Tao Zenggu as his wife . Although Sun Yushu was unwilling to do so, but seeing her husband's heart was determined, she had to choose fulfillment. Jiang Menglin's act of abandoning his original wife and turning around to marry a friend's wife caused considerable controversy in the society. Many people condemned his unrighteous actions, but Jiang Menglin remained unmoved. Jiang Menglin married Tao Zenggu in 1933.
Although Jiang Menglin’s wife who sacrificed half of his youth in pursuit of love is indeed hateful, but I have to admit that the two live happily after marriage. The husband and wife have the same interests and hobbies. Tao Zenggu is Jiang Menglin’s life. The good helper is also a good helper at work.
the two spent a very warm and happy 25 years together untilIn 1958, Tao Zenggu died of illness and Jiang Menglin became a lonely man. When Tao Zenggu died, Jiang Menglin was 72 years old. He was taken to his daughter’s house when he was very old, and the daughter took good care of him. But as the saying goes, " young couples come to accompany late "The sons and daughters are no better than the people on the pillow. The lonely Jiang Menglin has the idea of finding another wife. This idea has also been supported by his daughters and old friends.
In 1960, Jiang Menglin accidentally met Xu Xianle who was 22 years younger than him. Xu Xianle was born in a famous Wuxi family. She was famous for her beauty when she was young. She had a marriage. Now she looks graceful and glorious at the age of 52. Jiang Menglin fell in love with her at first sight, and even after launching an ardent pursuit, Xu Xianle finally did. He agreed to Jiang Menglin's courtship.
Here, Jiang Menglin wants to marry Xu Xianle and enters the door. The relatives and friends on the other side try to prevent this marriage. It turns out that everyone knows that Jiang Menglin has Xu Xianle around him, and found that Xu Xianle’s first marriage was only 7 months old. It is because of disputes over money with the ex-husband.
Because he was worried that Jiang Menglin would be deceived, his friends stopped the marriage , and even his friend Hu Shi wrote to Jiang Menglin specially. The letter was earnest, detailing the pros and cons, and even bluntly stated that if you have to get married, you must notarize your property before marriage. As well as making a will, I have to say that Hu Shi is very prescient.
In 1961, Jiang Menglin was deeply in love and already lost his reason. He didn't even open Hu Shi's letter, and hurriedly married Xu Xianle. When he remarried, he was 75 years old.
later facts proved that the concerns of relatives and friends were not redundant. In the second year after marriage, Jiang Menglin was hospitalized because of a fracture. Not only did his wife Xu Xianle not come to take care of her, she also moved her account out, and then secretly took away Jiang Menglin's deposits and dividends.
It was at this time that Jiang Menglin finally recognized Xu Xianle’s true face. He turned out to be an out-and-out woman who worshipped money, . After he was discharged from the hospital, he asked to live with Xu Xianle and promised to give her a monthly alimony, but Xu Xianle was not satisfied. , So desperate Jiang Menglin could only take his wife to court with a single petition, hoping that the court would rule the two for divorce.
In court, Xu Xianle changed his former gentle appearance, and the two sides faced each other tit-for-tat in spite of their faces. Jiang Menglin was 77 years old at this time. At this age, he was still in court with his wife. It was really unbearable. Of course, he also regretted that he hadn't obeyed. The advice of relatives and friends made my life unstable in his later years.
In 1964, the divorce battle between Jiang Menglin and Xu Xianle finally came to an end, but Jiang Menglin was worried about the incident, and his health was not optimistic. died soon at the age of 78.
As the saying goes, " is a fan of the authorities, and the bystander is clear of ." When faced with emotions, even rational people may lose control. At this time, we cannot just listen to our own inner judgments, but also listen to other people's ideas.
In addition to choosing a lover, the same is also true for choosing a friend. If a person says that someone is bad, maybe that person has some problems, but when everyone says that someone is bad, we have to think carefully. The existence of a cooling-off period necessary. There is nothing wrong with listening to the truest voice in your heart, but accepting the opinions of others may be to leave a way for your blind self.
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