If your childhood was not perfect and your parents were not perfect, how can you help yourself? If you are a parent, how can you escape the influence of your original family on yourself, and what should you do in marriage? How can we educate the next generation well?
This is the background of her speech, which points directly to the reality of beings. By chance, I saw the video of her speech. I was deeply shocked and also greatly educated. I felt that her preaching is universal. In order to let more people see and learn, I hereby organize her speech. Share with you in the headline.
She is the most beautiful psychologist in Le Jia's eyes. Her name is Lai Peixia. She is a senior counselor, singer, and best-selling author in Taiwan. She is also Xie Pei'en's mother.
I love my husband, my family, and I enjoy the sweetness and happiness brought to me by marriage.
_Many people envy me, but they don't know that I grew up in a single-parent family and my mother had a great influence on my marriage.
_I used to believe in love, but through the study of psychological counseling, I knew myself and saved myself. I have been on the stage of the orator since today, just to tell everyone through my personal experience, why is happiness so difficult?
In my 25-year career as a counselor, the most common problem I hear is the influence of the original family, especially the values of the original family.
 If your mother lived in sorrow and pain all her life, would you dare to be happy? My answer is difficult, because the happiness at this time is like a kind of betrayal, and we have no way to endure this guilt. So we would rather lose our happiness than dare to be happy, nor betray them.
 My mother always tells me that as long as it is the right thing, we must fight for it. If we have anything we need to speak face to face, not behind the scenes. So in my first marriage, when I didn't agree with the way my parents-in-law did things, I said to my face that the result was terrible!
My mother often said, "I scold you because I love you. Do you understand? Don't tell me!"
 The child looked at his mother and talked about love, but he was hideous.
_The child has to convince himself that it is called love. Will this child grow up? Does he love his parents? How to love? He loved him the way his parents loved him back then. I told you that I told you to wear more clothes. How did the doctor tell you? Don't you understand why?
_If I don't want my children to treat us in this way, we may no longer be able to treat our children in this way.
Should we be honest? I am not scolding you because I love you.
_I scold you because I have bad emotional management.
My mother, a single mother, I love her very much, and I have continued the way she loves me to love others, but when I hit my head and broke my blood in my intimate relationship, I deeply realized It turns out that the accusation is not love, but the killer of marriage!
Now we have different channels, we can learn, we can understand what exactly affects us so deeply, as long as we can be aware and let go of the opposition, we can see happiness, even if you once had a Hard childhood, even if you were divorced, happiness will still sit on my shoulders today.
As long as we are willing to change, happiness is not difficult!
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