At three o'clock in the morning, Song Qian sent a long article: 30+ women change their destiny, but hard work is not enough

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three in the morning, Song Qian made a long article . The purpose of

is very obvious, just to respond to the recent fans' controversy about her. I am not interested in studying these disputes. But from her long article, I think a little bit more.

Song Qian talked about her experience of missing the opportunity in 2008. She had a good job, but because she couldn't pass the foreign language, she finally failed to get the opportunity.

Later, she regretted why she could not learn the language earlier. So afterwards, she worked very hard and never missed any chance.

Perhaps many people will learn a truth in this text, that is, to work hard to change their destiny. And I just noticed two words: opportunity.

thinks that there is still a hot topic today, that is, Liu Yuxin of " youth has you " asked Yang Tianzhen whether to improve his strength in the future is the most important thing.

Yang Tianzhen answered, I agree very much, she said that strength is of course very important, but strength alone is not enough, you have to know how to choose.

Sometimes opportunities are in front of you, and you don’t seize them.

Song Qian and Yang Tianzhen’s views can be summed up in one sentence: Sometimes choices are more important than hard work.

For women of 30+, it is not enough to work hard.

is like Song Qian. She is from a girl group and she is good at singing and dancing, but she has also been tepid in recent years. Many people say that she has worked so hard and failed to become a team problem. Maybe this is just one of the reasons, and there is another The reason is choice.

See Song Qian’s dynamics over the years, either to participate in some variety shows, or to act in idol dramas. To be honest, these really failed to play Song Qian's advantage.

What is Song Qian's real fans? It's singing and dancing ability, it's personality traits.

So this year, she is full of warmth. One is to serve as a mentor of "Creation Camp" and the other is to participate in the variety show "My Girl Girl". These two variety shows let us know Song Qian better.

In addition, she also participated in the TV series "The Next Stop Happiness". The relationship between sister and brother is a trend nowadays, and it has caught the hearts of many people.

Whether you are a celebrity or an ordinary person, if you want to succeed, one is to discover your own characteristics, the other is to find the right opportunity. Women of

30+ work a lot, but rarely succeed.

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Speaking of the choice of opportunity, I couldn't help but think of Luo Zijun in "My First Half Life".

After her divorce, she started her own counterattack. Many people attribute her success to hard work, but it is not, but she seizes every opportunity.

For example, at the beginning, without any work experience, she decided to choose when she saw a convenience store recruiting people. Later, after leaving the convenience store, she seized the opportunity to go to the mall to sell shoes.

Selling shoes may seem simple, but it’s not easy to become a sales champion every month. This job

thoroughly demonstrated Luo Zijun's ability. Luo Zijun has bought many brand-name shoes and bags before, and has a natural keenness for this industry, bringing his strengths to work.

Later, when she heard that the planning department of the mall was hiring, she began to prepare again and wanted to apply. Although this matter was messed up by Lao Jin, she did not give up looking for opportunities.

Then, two more opportunities fell on her, one is a large shopping mall store, and the other is a research company. The former is a familiar domain, and the latter is a completely unfamiliar domain.

may be familiar to many people, because it is safe and controllable. But Luo Zijun chose a research company and started again. When investigating the company, there were a lot of things and work pressure, so Luo Zijun took it down.

But it didn't go well. When the boss knew about her relationship with He Han, he didn't have any assignments in order to cheat her, just let her be idle and the salary was paid as usual.

This made Luo Zijun feel very distressed. At that time, she heard that another manager, Aunt Wu's team, she seized this opportunity again. Aunt Wu is very strict and vigorous, but Luo Zijun has taken it down and has since risen step by step.

Observe carefully, you will find that Luo Zijun's jump is all about choice. If she chooses a large shopping mall and sells shoes there, even if she tries her best, she will at most be a store manager.

Luo Zijun is very smart and ambitious. He jumped out of his comfort zone time and time again. In the comfort and growth, he chose to grow up. That's why Luo Zijun can counterattack.

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Why do women of 30+ choose more important than hard work? Because they are gradually entering middle age, there is not much time left for them, and every choice determines the rest of their lives.

, especially in the choice of family and career, is a test for women. Choose family and career, even if you put in the same effort, the result is completely different.

For example, the heroine in "The Great Mrs. Maisel" works very hard to maintain the image of a perfect wife.

In order to maintain his beautiful appearance, he measures his measurements every day for fear that his body will be out of shape.

insists on makeup every day, never removes makeup in front of her husband, removes makeup only when he is asleep, and puts on makeup before he wakes up the next morning. Ten years as a day, exquisite appearance, exquisite life.

In order to let her husband work hard at ease, she handled the family properly. But as a result, the husband fell in love with other women silently. In the end, Mrs. Metsel divorced.

What if Mrs. Maisel puts such self-discipline and persistence on her work?

She may be the same as Tang Jing in "My First Half Life", with a senior position, a strong economic foundation, and control over life.

The choice is often between one thought, and this difference in thought will make your life completely different.

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At three o'clock in the morning, Song Qian posted a long article. What I see is that women of 30+ have control over opportunities and more important than hard work.

, of course, does not mean that hard work is not important, as Yang Tianzhen said, hard work to improve strength is only the most basic factor for success, but with the vision of looking for opportunities and the decisiveness to seize opportunities, you can truly succeed.

I have seen too many wealth myths in the past few years as I did self-media. Some earn tens of thousands of hundreds of thousands a month at a young age. In addition to building their own brand, they also form a team to counterattack in life.

and Li Jiaqi and Wei Ya, they used to work very hard, but they failed to reach the top of the pyramid, and later chose to live broadcast and seize the trend, which did not immediately gain fame and fortune.

These success stories, do you think that only hard work is enough?

is the opportunity for them to target the market, seized it, and continued to work hard, and finally reached the peak of life.

For women of 30+, such vision and strategy are more necessary.

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