, everyone coveted Lee Seung-hyun: handsome, caring, wife-loving, sweet-mouthed, and she can bring a baby... it's a very good husband with 24 filial piety.
However, the netizens are totally envious of Qi Wei, but they have no hatred. It can be seen how popular this woman Qi Wei is.
Qi Wei made her debut on the talent show. After entering the society, she has been working hard on her own and sheltering herself from the wind and rain. Needless to say, she is not only strong and independent, but also because of her distinctive personality and sharp speech, without the pretentiousness of ordinary female stars. Being called "Ge Qi", this shows her status in the arena.
However, no matter how strong a woman is, no matter how strong her heart is, she will be soft after encountering love. After Qi Wei married Lee Seung-hyun, her career was bullish and her people became softer. She kept her long hair, and her heart became more and more gentle and peaceful. The two of
broke the traditional marriage model of “men are strong and women are weak” and “men dominate the outside and women dominate the interior”. Qi Wei became the “backbone” of the family, while the former Hallyu idol Lee Seung-hyun gradually faded out of the screen and will take care of it. The daughter is the center of life. The marriage form of
role reversal, Lee Seung-hyun's good husband personality, and Qi Wei's personality change all make people full of curiosity about this marriage.
Fortunately in the past two years, the couple began to form a group show of affection. Through variety shows, we have the opportunity to see the couple’s daily life closely.
Qi Wei couple wake up photo was exposed
Although variety shows have scripts, star appearances and poses, but the two have been together for a long time, the air pressure, communication style, and way of getting along between the partners are always revealed seamlessly. In
"Our Little Couple", even the always tough Xiang Tai, after seeing the scene where Qi Wei and Lee Seung-hyun had a conversation, could not help but praise Qi Wei: "Qi Wei, you are well-trained!"
netizens joked that Qi Wei and Lee Seung-hyun were "Qilixiang" couples, Qilixiang is not only the name of Jay Chou's song, but also a positive plant, belonging to the Rutaceae family. It should be placed in a sunny and well-ventilated place to have lush leaves and flowers. I have to say, it looks like the love shown by this couple.
So, what kind of sunshine and rain, and what kind of way of getting along, make the marriage of this couple full of fragrance and sweetness?
Reduce expectations for each other and marriage, first be yourself
Qi Wei once admitted frankly that she is more willing to believe in herself than love.
She also once said a famous saying that was widely circulated on the Internet: A man is useless to me, because I can earn money, I can sweep the land, I can cook food, I can fight, and go shopping in the street. , If there is a man, I have to wash and cook for him, and do housework.
It is precisely because of this recognition that Qi Wei has never had princess disease and feels that she needs to live on a man. For her, marriage is the icing on the cake.
Even at the wedding, she revealed in interviews that she was not the happiest during the wedding ceremony, and she said bluntly: it was like an announcement in an act. It was only when her husband Lee Seung-hyun gave the oath that she felt a little moved. Although
is married, Qi Wei's career is getting better and better. After giving birth, she will lead the starring in the urban emotional inspirational drama "I am Du Lala". In 18 years, she also relied on the inspirational drama "Beijing Women's Guide". "Chen Ke, the superwoman of ", got a hit.
With the popularity of variety shows, she began to take her husband and children on variety shows again. The harder you work, the more resources you have. As resources increase, the harder you work.
On the contrary, Lee Seung-hyun was always tepid and eventually became "Qi Wei's husband." Actively interpret
and communicate positively in a timely manner
In the latest episode of "Our Young Couple", Lee Seung-hyun asked Qi Wei, in the past five years, what have I done wrong or can I improve?
Qi Wei's reaction at the moment felt very strange, how could she ask such a question, so she directly replied no.
Actually, we can see in the show that even if it is them, it is not a moment without conflict and contradiction.But every time they feel uncomfortable, they are resolved through timely and positive communication. In the
program, Qi Wei made ribs soup. Since it was only once every four years, she was very happy to ask her husband to come and taste it quickly, hoping to get her husband’s praise and reward. As a result, Lee Seung-hyun replied simply and directly: too weak. This reaction made Qi Wei very hurt.
So the young couple had a conversation sitting on the sofa behind. This conversation can be called a textbook on "Training Men" and "How Men Coax Women". You may wish to read:
Chinese culture is profound, and sometimes you move. The content expressed by the head will be different.
can only believe 70% of the words of a girl, but you can’t believe it all. When she needs your appraisal, take a little bit of your mind and don’t make her feel false or deny it directly.
The condiments that are adjusted in the emotions are not really original taste, just like soup, it still needs a little salt, otherwise it is still too weak.
In fact, we have many people. At the beginning of the relationship between the sexes, the feelings of many things are the same as Qi Wei's feeling when he heard Lee Seung-hyun complain that the soup was too weak. I felt:
- I prepared so hard, you can’t praise me A moment?
- Can't you see my contribution?
- Actually, I just want you to confirm me first, is that so difficult?
- In fact, as long as you first affirm me, and then talk about things that are too weak, I will be very happy to accept it, don’t you know?
Unfortunately, either we do not say it, or what we say turns into complaints and accusations. This kind of thing is not big, but when it happens, it becomes a "small trauma" in our relationship without treatment. When a large number of small traumas gather together, they accumulate into a big rift that affects our relationship.
At this point, we might as well learn from Qi Wei, and through anytime, positive, and rational communication and training, all small traumas can be resolved into invisible, husband and wife have no overnight hatred, why worry about the relationship not lasting?
There is one more detail. On Qi Wei’s birthday, he still needs to go out. The straight boy Lee Seung-hyun wrote Happy Birthday to her on the mirror at home (using Qi Wei’s favorite slogan).
was afraid of disturbing the child's sleep, and was afraid that the child would cry in the middle of the night and need someone to coax him, so Lee Seung-hyun placed two small benches in the toilet at home to enjoy the good time of the couple.
Between husband and wife, as long as you want to communicate, chat, and think about the world of two people, you will always have the opportunity, even if you move a bench to sit on the toilet?
respect each other and give them the right to be their own
This is a point in the communication between Qi Wei and Lee Seung-hyun that impressed me very much.
Although Qi Wei earns more and has more resources, she never interferes with Lee Seung-hyun's freedom and makes him what she wants to be.
She wants to understand Lee Seung-hyun's past only because she can be more polite if she accidentally meets with his ex.
When Lee Seung-hyun went the wrong way, she did not complain, but followed the navigation prompts "Go the wrong way to find the world, go the right way to find yourself" with a smile, and gladly accept the unexpected joy brought about by the wrong way.
Lee Seung-hyun also said that one of the points that touched my wife the most is: only encouragement, no complaints.
Although their marriage pattern is completely different from that of most families, their marriage pattern is just a natural choice for their relationship and career development. People with more and more resources put more focus on work, while the other consciously undertakes another part of the work, but the choice is different in stages.
In traditional Chinese culture, if men don’t make money outside, they will lose face, and women will have many complaints.
is too much influenced by traditional ideas and cannot enjoy the current life, which is the reason for the misfortune of many people.
I have also seen many men. Because of their family conditions and incomes are not as good as women’s, they always feel that they are living inferior.life. Either the woman is cautious, or the man is cautious, it is difficult to achieve balance.
I had a visitor not long ago who came to me because of a relationship issue. Her problem is that her boyfriend is good at everything, but her job income is not as good as her own. The visitors themselves are very good in terms of income, work background, and local resources.
I asked her at the time, if you are a male and he is a female, would you find him to be your wife? The woman replied, I would definitely marry him without hesitation. He has good looks and personality, and his parents are also very good, making him an ideal marriage partner. Look at
, this is the imprisonment brought to us by gender differences. Under the same conditions, if we change a gender, the choice is completely different. And this difference and imprisonment is what we brought to ourselves.
In fact, marriage is like shoes, knowing it is warm or cold. No matter how good-looking shoes you wear, you can wear them once or twice at most, and you will put them on the shoe rack and won't wear them again; only a pair of comfortable shoes can accompany you all over the world.
We might as well learn from Qi Wei, be ourselves, wear our own shoes, walk our own way, let others talk about it! Perhaps inadvertently, your path becomes wider and wider.
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