The summer vacation was screened by "fathers" from all walks of life: Father's three views determine the "ethics" of a child's life

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In a blink of an eye, the summer vacation is almost over. Thinking back to what I had gained during the summer vacation, three popular movies and TV series of this summer came to my mind: "Nezha's Devil Boy Comes into the World", "Xiaohuanxi", "Galaxy Tutorial". The reason why I am so impressed with these three film and television dramas is that, in addition to the good looks, I have a particularly good impression of the father of the protagonist in the three dramas. Not only do I think many netizens are praising these three fathers, and they say: "If I have Such a dad would be great."

I think there must be a reason why everyone agrees with these "fathers" so much. Although their status and background are different, when they educate their children, their three views are very correct, and the children under their education are also very good. , whether it is Nezha, the reincarnation of the devil, Ma Fei, a "learning scumbag", or Fang Yifan, a young man who has made repeated mistakes, all become excellent under his father's education. On the contrary, Ao Bing, who was reincarnated in Lingzhu, had a good life, but was oppressed by his father and went on an evil path. It can be seen that the father's three views affect and even determine the "behavior" of the child's life.

01 Fathers have an unignorable role model for their children.

Remember that in some movies and TV series or in life, some people ask four or five year olds what they want to do when they grow up. The children will proudly say "be like my dad" "Do the work my dad did." We are always amused by our children, but from another perspective, it shows that fathers have a role model for children that cannot be ignored.

An online survey in recent years also shows us the father's position in the minds of children. The

survey interviewed adolescents "Who is the most respected person in the children's heart?" The answer to the Japanese students is that the first is the father and the second is the mother; the answer to the American students is that the first is the father and the second is the star.

The father is so important in the heart of the child, when the father sets a good example, he will naturally lead the child to yearning for excellence. On the contrary, the child may become violent or violent like his father or influenced by his father.

A recent educational survey by the National Bureau of Statistics of the United Kingdom pointed out that the education level of the father of

is an important factor in the success of the child’s school performance and future studies. Analysis of the survey report: Children whose fathers have a higher education have a 7.5 times higher chance of success in school than those whose fathers have lower education levels.

On the surface, fathers with a high level of education pay more attention to their children's education, and objective income provides them with educational conditions, so their children are better. But on the whole, it is the father's good example at work.

For another example, Nezha's father Li Jing was to kill evil for the village, not like Ao Bing's father for fame and fortune. So under the leadership of Li Jing, Ne Zha, who was reincarnated for the devil, ended up with kindness and justice like Li Jing. This is the invisible role model power of the father.

02 The father determines the behavior of the child in his words and deeds.

Since the father is in this position in the child's mind, he is still an important role model for the child, so in the dark, the father will determine the behavior of the child in his words and deeds. His father's words and deeds are influenced by his three views. therefore said that the father's three views have affected the child's behavior and even determined the child's behavior.

First, the father's three views affect the integrity of the child's personality.

The power the father gives to the child includes self-confidence, optimism, persistence, bravery, etc. If one of them is missing, the child's personality development may be hindered and become less healthy, and it is difficult to fill the gap from the outside world.

In "Galaxy Tutorial", Ma Fei is about to be abandoned by the school, surrounded by others, including his own mother, who is also laughing at him for being stupid and slow, and when he doubts himself, his father firmly believes that the child is smart. In order to better encourage the children, Ma Haowen opened the best cram school in the universe-Galaxy cram school, to cheer and cheer for the children. later learned that Ma Fei’s results were recognized by the school, and his father’s credit must be indispensable here.

but I think, in caseMa Haowen also spurned and ridiculed his children like everyone else. Wouldn't it end up like this? Either the child endures the humiliation and is indignant, or the child continues to "degenerate." In real life, it is mostly the latter. Not only that, children may also continue to doubt themselves. If they do not solve their happy knots, they may even develop personality disorders or mental disorders.

Second, the father's three views determine how to give the child the way. The way and the direction of the way affect the child's future life.

The four fathers in "Little Joy" are different, but they are also typical fathers in real life-busy father, divorced father, loving father, widowed father. Among the four fathers, the one I admire most is Fangyuan. When Fang Yifan, who is good at singing and dancing, wanted an art exam, everyone opposed him. However, Fangyuan said that whether the son is suitable for the art test is not something we can decide. We need to ask a professional tutor to judge based on the child's talent. helps children make choices in such an enlightened and sensible way, which determines whether the child’s future path is positive or passive. It also teaches children not to be impulsive but to analyze objectively when making choices. This allows children to do it themselves in the future. Be more sensible when choosing. finally chose the art test, and his grades are getting better and better.

On the contrary, like when Tong Liya’s husband Chen Sicheng cheated, Tong Liya’s father said "forbearance". So despite her successful career, Tong Liya still lacks security.

Third, the father's three views determine whether educating children is clear.

A few years ago, there was a very popular video on the Internet, in which only children ran in front. This is because the child bullies his classmates on the school bus, so the school does not allow him to ride the school bus for three days. In order to let him know how wrong things were, his father let him walk to school alone for a week, whether it was windy or rainy. Sure enough, after a week, the child stopped bullying and was praised by the teacher. If the father doesn't care about the child's protection, then the child may continue to bully others after not correcting his mistakes.

has such a father’s education of right and wrong. After children grow up, they will naturally feel that there are things that should be done and some things should not be done, and they clearly understand the boundaries. The same is true for Fangyuan. Although he is often enlightened, he is merciless when Fang Yifan makes mistakes. Once Fang Yifan used his classmates to make emoticons, he was severely criticized and punished for writing a review book. After calming down the matter, Fang Yifan became friends with his classmates.

03 Three views are right, the method is clever, the child can expect the future

If you want to think about the three views, you must think more about whether your usual words and deeds are correct. Why do you say that is affected by your own values, world outlook, and outlook on life . Some people say that their three views are very upright, but they do not listen to how they teach their children. In fact, it is not only necessary to observe the three views, but also to be clever.

1. Distinguish examples and stick to principles. Whether a father can discern things and stick to principles has a profound impact on the formation of children's values.

Children often do wrong things. At this time, the father must understand the matter and don’t jump to conclusions. Otherwise, the child’s evil behavior will be "unintentionally" supported by the father and become more and more presumptuous, or he may feel that he is wrong. The whole world is hostile to him or feels that he is not worthy of being loved . In "Nezha's Devil Child Comes into the World" , when Nezha was said to be a murderous child, his father stood up and trusted him, which made Nezha gain the strength to strengthen himself from his father and no longer doubt himself.

must have firm and correct positions and principles in moral principles. still remembers a video like this. After a father asked his sister to apologize to his sister in a shopping mall, a woman ran into her sister. When the sister said "she needs to apologize to me" and the woman refused to apologize, the father did a good job for the child. After learning to apologize, I kept communicating with the lady until the lady and sister apologized. It is very difficult for every father to encounter such a thing. But you must show your children that they will firm up their correct positions and principles.

2, be compassionate, respect children.

People often say the term "loving mother and strict father", and secretly arranges the strict division of labor between mothers and fathers, although there are insufficientBut also indicated that we must be strict and kind when educating children. According to the characteristics of children nowadays, parents must be strict and compassionate when educating their children. It is best to educate the children with a unified opinion. When it is gentle, guide the children through difficulties, and when it is strict, educate children to correct mistakes .

is actually respecting children no matter whether it is harsh or soft. For example, Li Jinghui told the villagers that he would discipline the children when they learned of the reincarnation of the magic boy, and when he said to his children, "You are here to save the world", this is a clever respect for the children's inner feelings. In addition, he rigorously trains children's skills and protects children when they are in doubt.

3, keep learning, use your own height to establish the height of the child.

In a family, the father must be a role model for the child, and the father must always pay attention to his words and deeds, because the father’s pattern often determines the height of the child’s future life. The father is like the child's life coordinate, the father's ideas can easily spread to the child, and establish the child's lifelong behavior.

In the popular Japanese anime "Naruto", there are two so-called "Jade generals" in the country of fire, one is the daimyo and the other is Konoha. Daimyo said that "one mountain cannot accommodate two tigers", so he planned to kill Konoha's third-generation Hokage. The third generation of Hokage told his son Asma that the so-called Jade General is not what you understand. Jade General refers to all people and things that need to be protected, so there is only one Jade General. This teaching allowed Asma to follow the path of justice, against those who would destroy the country of fire, and successfully blocked the destruction plan. Although he thought that a country cannot have two jade, but later he changed his mind.

However, Hema who supported the coup d’état was also the leader who sealed his son as a tail beast in order to succeed in the coup d’état. He did not hesitate to suffer loneliness and other painful torture.

shows how high the pattern of a father is, which has a great influence on the future life of the child, and even determines how high the pattern of the child is. Therefore, as a father, you must continue to learn to continuously improve the situation.

Father is one of the most important people in a child's life. He is his childhood playmate, his own superman, a street lamp, and a big tree to protect himself. And the father is the messenger of the child, must constantly correct his words and deeds in order to cultivate children who stand alone in the crowd. Only when the father is right from wrong, children will know the truth; only when the father is good and evil, the children will behave properly, fathers must be correct in words and deeds, because your three views will affect the children's life and determine their behavior.

I am a Nemo mother’s childcare teacher and the mother of a 4-year-old baby. In the process of raising and educating the child, you can ask me if you encounter any problems. I hope my suggestions can help you solve the confusion and problems in the process of bringing a baby. Worries, let our children grow up better!

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