"囧Mom": Break through the stereotyped mentality of control and escape, and move towards a warm and reconciled parent-child relationship

I gradually learned that the so-called father-daughter mother-child game only means that your fate with him is that you are constantly watching him drift away in this life. You stand at this end of the path, watching him gradually disappear into the corner of the path, and he tells you silently from his back: don't chase. ——Long Yingtai "Watching"

Of course, some viewers criticized Ivan's mother and son for being chased by bears in the forest. Xu's mother shouted "Don't eat my son! Come and eat me", thus taking the big bear from Ivan. After being pulled away, the family of the bride with guns escaped, and the mother and son met a hot-air balloon player on the ice, and then rushed to the Red Star Theater in a hot-air balloon. The performances and other scenes were too absurd, but I think these two Although this plot is not realistic, but from the bottom of the logic, it is still emotionally realistic.

In fact, no matter from the social news or the daily life that we are close at hand and see with our own eyes, great parents who sacrifice themselves for their children abound. They always take the worst consequences when they are in danger. The above said that it doesn't matter if you are old or dead. In fact, there is only the simple love that hopes that the child will be safe and healthy for a lifetime. In the movie, Lu Xiaohua yelled to let the big bear eat her instead of her son. It truly portrays the sacrifice gesture shared by all mothers in the world.

Knowing that he couldn't make it, Ivan insisted on catching the train with his mother on his back, panting, and then fell into the hot air balloon like a godly help, making Lu Xiaohua finally round and singing "Red Berry Blossoms" in the Red Star Theater The plot of his wish is more realistic from the perspective of a child and his emotional expectations. You must know how much friction and contradiction there are between children and their parents, and the emotional bondage of blood thicker than water, after all, will make children hope their parents are good, their parents are happy, and their parents are happy.

and your mother is your relationship with the world. "

and Xu Zhiyuan's passage in "The Thirteen Invitations" can be used as an analysis of this: "I see my heart and see others' Inwardly. Sorrow, doubt, contradiction and incomprehension, see all the estrangement and resentment. Then return to the world, a world of gentleness and joy."

When people in this era all declare their desire to "be seen" at the same time, we We should also reflect on whether we have not "seen" the feelings that are close at hand, but thick as mountains that we have long been accustomed to? Have you not "seeed" where the negative emotions that you have created or passively endured come from and flow to? "Seeing" reflects self-pleasing, and "seeing" reflects pleasing others. Only when we can confirm and balance the boundary between being seen and seen, we truly learn to show kindness to the world.

The easter eggs at the end of "囧Mom" are two group photos of the cast and crew with their mother, one is the past that has long been yellowed, and the other is the present that is still bright and radiant. Some cast members still have a young and frivolous face, the time span of the two photos is very short, and some faces are full of traces of the years, and the time span of the two photos has gone from black hair to white hair. But the time limit of any photo is not indefinite. Life and death are huge obstacles between the parent and child, and no one can stop it.

So, let us learn the balance of pleasing ourselves and pleasing parents earlier, release the peaceful kindness for parent-child relationship earlier, be gentle with parents, and reconcile with the world.

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