Author|Shimizu Wuchen Editor|Xiao Xiao
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On the fifth day of the Lunar New Year, the cousin Big Bottle returned to her natal family for New Year greetings. When I saw her drooping eyelids, her throat was dumb, especially when she saw her hands still sticking band-aids. I knew that she must have had a bad life this year. The reason
says "again" is because Big Bottle got married. She became the purchasing specialist of her in-laws, the chef of the New Year's Eve dinner, and the director of the Lin Group.
Of course, all of this is unpaid. It can also be said that there are only titles and no actual power. Because the leaders and employees are all alone.
To be honest, every time I see the big bottle at my mother-in-law’s half-dead tired, then I go back to my mother’s house to complain. I feel distressed and angry at the big bottle. If you don't say it well, there is indeed a feeling of hating iron but not steel.
You must know that our natal cousins have persuaded the cousin to get the big bottle many times. Either don't say anything if you do it, or just choose to refuse. The province is tired and tired, but also feels suffocated.
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Cousin Big Bottle is one year older than me, 82 years. However, she is already a senior daughter-in-law with twelve years of marriage.
Speaking of the big bottle's bride price, it is still a stalk of our natal relatives who teased the big bottle. According to
, when Big Bottle talked about marriage with her classmate Xiaolin, originally it gave 38,000 a betrothal gift.
When it came time to get married, Xiao Lin’s mother complained with tears and nose that it was not easy for a widow to raise three sons. Then put a high hat on the big bottle, praise her virtuous, sensible and humane.
In this way, Big Bottle felt soft for a while, not only persuaded his parents to avoid the bride price. She also secretly took out the private money that she had saved while working, and helped the two younger brothers of classmate Xiaolin to study for college entrance examinations, and she was very pleased with her mother-in-law.
so that her mother-in-law exaggerates that the bottle is like a mother-in-law.
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As the saying goes, a wise man opens his mouth and a fool breaks his leg. Obviously, Big Bottle's mother-in-law is the wise man.
Since Big Bottle got married, her mother-in-law, who is less than 50 years old, took the initiative to hand over the responsibility of the New Year’s Eve dinner to Big Bottle. The good name is, let the big bottle be the master.
In the first year of New Year’s Eve dinner, Big Bottle is lack of experience. As a result, either the fish burned weakened or the meat burned salty. It caused the other two brothers to complain, blaming Big Bottle for not getting the true transmission of their old mother at all, and for being blind with such good raw materials.
And big bottle mother-in-law, what attitude is it? The mother-in-law clearly said that the two sons were picky, but the subtext blamed Big Bottle for lack of preparation and lack of diligence to satisfy the family. If
said that the big bottle at that time, she could see through her mother-in-law's routine in time. Then for more than ten years later, the big bottle would not be affected and angry while complaining.
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If you talk about New Year’s Eve dinners in previous years, the big bottle is comfortable, and you will suffer if you are tired.
But this year's New Year's Eve dinner really made the big bottle angry.
Because Big Bottle has suffered from dysmenorrhea since she was a girl, this Chinese New Year coincided with her "aunt period." I thought it was a special situation, and the mother-in-law or concubines could help to cook a New Year's Eve dinner together.
turned out to be a big bottle, euphemistically explaining his special situation.
The second daughter-in-law is very upset to say that she has just been pregnant with the second child and is inconvenient. The third daughter-in-law stared at the phone the whole time, she didn't even bother to lift her head.
As for the mother-in-law, she pretended to say that she had back pain while patted the shoulder of the big bottle. The big bottle with earnest words:
"You are a sister-in-law, equivalent to the second mother of two brothers. You see, the second daughter-in-law is married after the second child is divorced. Do."
"As for the third daughter-in-law, it was so easy to get married with more than 200,000 yuan of bride price. How dare you let her do something." The big bottle was in a mess.
Whatadded fuel to the big bottle was that when she was busy shopping for a few days, and from morning to afternoon, she finally cooked 16 dishes and brought them to the table.
As a result, the two brothers said that the taste was not as good as that of the mother-in-law, and the two concubines were even more picky, saying that the big bottles were not matched properly and the meat and vegetables were too greasy. The husband of Big Bottle didn't say a word of excuse for her from beginning to end.
You need to know the meals of 11 people (a family of four in a big bottle, a family of four in the second family, a third and a small couple + mother-in-law). The big bottle has been soaked in cold water from morning to night to wash vegetables, especially when killing fish. I accidentally injured my hand.
ended up working hard for a long time. No one said she was good, but they were all picky about her. This made Big Bottle cry with anger at the time.
If it weren’t for a few little guys who said she was working hard, Big Bottle said, she might really answer them one by one, let them eat or not, and burn them if they don’t.
all said that without the needle sticking to oneself, one cannot truly empathize.
Through the story of the big bottle, I also want to remind the mother-in-law or the wife, the sister-in-law:
(1) More praise, less picky, and the mouth is used to say good things.
Actually, as a housewife, cooking, sanitation and serving the whole family, although hard work, it won’t be a fall. The most fearful thing is that I am busy from morning till night, doing the most tiring work, eating cold meals, and listening to other people's cool words.
You must know that the mouth is used for eating, and more important than eating is talking. If you really don't know what to say, remember to speak nicely, speak well, and don't talk nonsense and add to others' obstacles.
(2) Rather than grieving and begging to complain afterwards, it is better to open the skylight to speak brightly at the beginning.
Getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a process of game after all. Living in harmony and loving each other is the ideal state. More often, if the east wind overwhelms the west wind, or the west wind overwhelms the east wind, there is always one stronger and the other weaker.
Whether you are a mother-in-law or a daughter-in-law, if you really don't want to be wronged and ask for everything. It's better to put the ugly words first, and don't embarrass anyone.
(3) If you can't empathize, at least don't sprinkle salt on the wound.
I remember Mr. Lu Xun wrote in the book:
"A man downstairs is dying of illness, the next door is singing a gramophone, and the opposite is a kid. There are two people upstairs laughing wildly and playing cards. There is a boat in the river. The woman is crying for her dead mother. Human sorrows and joys are not interlinked, I just think they are noisy. "
May we, be caring people, understand others, and be able to live up to ourselves.
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