After watching the first and second episodes of the fifth episode of "Goodbye Lover 4", I have to say with emotion that Mai Lin is worthy of being the "Purple Star from the Sky" in the variety show industry. She single-handedly successfully turned this divorce observation program

After watching the first and second episodes of the fifth issue of "Goodbye Lover 4" , I have to say with emotion that Mai Lin is worthy of being the "Purple Star from the Sky" in the variety show industry. She has single-handedly turned this divorce observation program into a human nature observation program. .

What is horrifying to think about is that she has invisibly and unintentionally accomplished the objective result of brainwashing everyone and bullying everyone .

Under the influence of the "Mai Lin Effect", Yang Zi and Liu Shuang's "father" could not get up. Ge Xi, who was stabbed in the back, became a victim and empathized with the perpetrator. Li Xingliang also began to suspect that he had a mental disorder. .

Huang Shengyi is actually the only one who can escape unscathed.

Of course, she is not a fuel-efficient lamp. In a sense, Huang Shengyi is also a "prodigal".

From this point of view, this is simply "all evil people".

Gexi Liu Shuang

Gexi :

Love and hate are two sides of the same coin, and the advantages and disadvantages are also two sides of the same coin. What made Ge Xi like Liu Shuang at first became the point where Ge Xi disliked him in the end. The most uncontrollable thing in love One thing is: people will change to .

The tragedy is that Ge Xi has changed but Liu Shuang has not changed, so the needs of the two people do not match.

Ge Xi's growth was not achieved in a nurturing relationship, but was forced. She had to grow up in adversity. Liu Shuang couldn't support herself, so she could only rely on herself.

Both of them once longed for each other's redemption, but in this long tug-of-war, Ge Xi was the first to awaken and achieve self-salvation, while Liu Shuang was still watching the ruins in his heart, wallowing in his own fragility and pain. , the balance of marriage is out of balance.

Ge Xi has the courage to divorce, but Liu Shuang is afraid of Ge Xi leaving. Ge Xi has the upper hand and the initiative. It is her decision whether to divorce or not, and the answer is "must divorce".

Because the two people are now seizing power, each of them occupies the top of the mountain. However, there is no room for two tigers in one mountain. To coexist, one must take turns to be the king, or one must stay low and be the small one. But the former Liu Shuang cannot do it, and the latter Ge Xi does not agree. Therefore, this marriage must be divorced.

The "smoked chicken incident" has given a glimpse of Ge Xi's "fatal point" in this marriage.

For Ge Xi, this is a story of "farmer and snake". She is the "farmer" who is rewarded with evil in return, and Mai Lin is the "snake" who stabs her in the back.

Ge Xi is too kind, so she cannot be the "big heroine".

To Liu Shuang, she was hard-spoken and soft-hearted, feeding his narcissism, and then he lost all his money. To Mai Lin, she was infinitely tolerant, which encouraged the evil in his human nature and made her suffer public bullying.

Mai Lin did not take the initiative to give the payment password, nor did she take the initiative to ask for it, and then she was "taken advantage of".

You are so kind that you can grow teeth so that you will not let others manipulate you. Your bottomless indulgence towards people with no good intentions is cruelty to yourself. In the end, the bullet you fired will bounce back and hit you between the eyebrows.

Liu Shuang:

Liu Shuang can't change it, because he can't even control his "mouth".

It is also thanks to Mai Lin and Yang Zi who helped him attract a lot of firepower. Otherwise, Liu Shuang would definitely "have no chance of escaping." It must be said that his career luck is really unparalleled.

To be honest, the several times Mai Lin lost control of her emotions were indispensable without the "slutty" Liu Shuang fanning the flames and adding fuel to the flames. He was the invisible initiator.

Liu Shuang never tires of "beating people" because it allows him to occupy the social center and greatly satisfies his sense of self-superiority.

But Liu Shuang is actually not self-consistent.

faces the outside world, and he hates the sky and the earth, but for himself, he is very afraid of being negatively evaluated.

Regarding the negative comments, Yang Zi was indifferent. His choice was to "rebound" and then throw them all back to the opponent. He escaped unscathed, while Liu Shuang's choice was to "absorb them all" .

But he could only absorb, not digest. He could only digest the good sounds, but could not digest the bad sounds. The negative comments were accumulated in his heart, and if they were not dealt with, Liu Shuang's "CPU" burned out.

So he knows but can't do it. He is a giant in language and a dwarf in action. He is afraid that what he does will still get negative feedback. In the end, his last self-confidence will be shattered, which is unbearable for him.

If you don’t change, you will hurt others, and if you change, you will hurt yourself. Liu Shuang naturally chose not to change.

This is the human instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.

Liu Shuang and Ge Xi, one is pessimistic and negative, the other is optimistic and positive, one is climbing up and the other is sinking down. The two have gone in opposite directions.

What they fell in love with was not each other, but the reflection of the lack of their respective original families on their partners - Liu Shuang did not divorce because he was afraid of becoming his father who abandoned his wife and children and his marriage failed. Ge Xi divorced because he was afraid of becoming She was a devoted mother who lived for others.

Yang Zi Huang Shengyi

Yang Zi :

Yang Zi is an "indestructible" person. He ranks himself absolutely first. He never responds positively to negative comments that are unfavorable to him, and he repairs himself extremely quickly.

People who are extremely narcissistic will feel that they are omnipotent and that they have extraordinary privileges and talents, so they will take control of others as a matter of course and without any sense of guilt.

Mai Lin’s core is inferiority complex, while Yang Zi’s core is arrogance.

What Yang Zi projects into Huang Shengyi is himself in his native family.

He regarded Huang Shengyi as a tool to make money, and regarded her as a tool to satisfy his sense of self-superiority. He even did not hesitate to deprive and destroy Huang Shengyi's subjectivity without making any assertions.

Because Yang Zi was treated in this way by the family behind him and the two brothers above him.

Yang Zi turned a blind eye to Huang Shengyi’s need to start a business because his own ambition was not taken seriously by his brother, and he himself was not entrusted with important responsibilities and high hopes by the family, so that he has always been on the edge of family power and has become a joke.

Yang Zi constantly belittled and berated Huang Shengyi for his entrepreneurial failure, packaging his control as a kind of protection for him, because this is how the family behind him treated him - not letting Yang Zi interfere with the family business, on the surface it was protection. In essence, it is distrust and failure to recognize its strength and value.

Yang Zi himself "can't hold up the wall with mud", so Huang Shengyi, who is the "canary", must also be "can't hold up the wall with mud".

When the parent-child relationship is reflected in the marriage relationship, the abnormal food chain of "family business-Yang Zi-Huang Shengyi" is derived.

Huang Shengyi :

It is true that Yang Zi was unsuccessful as an entrepreneur, and it is true that Huang Shengyi was controlled and imprisoned, but it is also true that she has no business acumen, let alone the ability to do business.

Without risk awareness, it is easy to be defrauded of all your money.

Emotionally, Huang Shengyi is not stupid and sweet, but in terms of career, she is indeed stupid and sweet, especially compared with those in the same class as her.

She is not good at making money. After all, she is so confused that she has no personal property in her name. She has repeatedly failed to start a business, losing a lot of money, and she has indeed lost her fortune.

Doing business is not just playing house. When it comes to money, it will be a cruel environment that follows the law of the jungle of the jungle of the weak and the strong.

Huang Shengyi is like a rich second-generation rebellious daughter who is trying her best to prove that she can make a career without her old father. She does not care about the fireworks of the world, does not know how high the sky is, and does not know how expensive firewood, rice, oil and salt are.

Making money is not easy, it is not something that can be easily achieved.

At this age, she works hard to prove that she is more than just a vase with appearances.

But the embarrassing thing is that at this age, whether as an actor or starting a business, Huang Shengyi does not have any very eye-catching works and achievements.

In this world, strength speaks. Only with strength can you be independent and gain the true respect of others.

Of course, in this regard, Yang Zi cannot absolve himself of the blame and is self-inflicted.

Just because he keeps giving Huang Shengyi the bottom line, not delegating power to her, and not allowing her to truly learn the hard way and complete the lessons of her own growth and maturity, it will make her feel that she can always do it, and then she will never be able to position herself correctly.

Mai Lin:

The "smoked chicken incident" completely made the public see clearly that Mai Lin did not have a problem as a wife, but she herself had a problem.

A misogynist who loves big daddy, bullies the weak and fears the strong, flatters those above and below, retaliates with hatred, does not distinguish between right and wrong, is slow to react, has no knowledge, is jealous and greedy, repays kindness with hatred, is stupid and bad, often retaliates, habitually blames others, Mai Lin often appears It's the behavior of a villain.

The "Smoked Chicken Incident" even gave a chilling glimpse into the greatest evil of human nature, that is, tries to embarrass others to the greatest extent within the scope of its smallest rights.

"Almighty giant baby" Mai Lin vividly interprets the four words "human nature is evil".

As long as it is something she is responsible for, everyone has to consider her feelings. As long as it is not something she is responsible for, she will not consider anyone else's feelings.

No matter when or where, Mai Lin just wants to satisfy her almighty narcissism and live in an imaginary world. She especially dares to put gold on her face and impose filters.

Mai Lin seems to be serving everyone, but in fact, she wants everyone to revolve around her. She is the ultimate beneficiary. She seems to have no ego, but in fact her ego is particularly inflated, and she even keeps occupying and plundering others. self.

Li Xingliang is her mood regulator.

is frustrated by outsiders, so Mai Lin has to "suck blood" from him to find a sense of dominance, authority, value, and existence.

Mai Lin has a super sensitive victim mentality. She often feels that the whole world is harming her, and will amplify all the voices into ridicule and sarcasm of herself. Whenever this happens, she will complain aggrievedly, why? I was the only one who could bear it, so I tried to help others and let everyone sink with her, so that she could gain psychological balance.

One is essentially arrogant, the other is inferior. Yang Zi's "narcissism" will only make people think that there is something wrong with him, but Mai Lin's "narcissism" will not only make people think that she is wrong, but also invisibly pua. Empathic people can trigger self-doubt in others.

Therefore, Mai Lin, who regarded herself as a "victim", finally succeeded in brainwashing everyone.

Mai Lin is a "hollow person" who only relies on instinct and pretense to live. She has no own world view and outlook on life. Things are not driven by the heart but by the outside world. She does not follow logic and reason, and only deals with emotions.

She lacks love and has no cognitive ability. She spends her whole life trying to prove two things, one is that "she is beautiful" and the other is that "someone loves her", but she does not establish her own self-worth. It's Mai Lin's tragedy.

has a huge lack of love and security. The hole in her heart is too big, and Li Xingliang is unable to fill it. She must first repair the hole smaller through other methods, so that Li Xingliang can better play a role.

Li Xingliang:

Li Xingliang has always regarded himself as a "saint". He avoids conflicts, constantly compromises and accommodates, sacrifices his own feelings and needs, thinking that he can save his lover.

In this regard, if you think about it carefully, there is no difference between him and Mai Lin.

Mai Lin felt that she was sacrificing, and Li Xingliang also felt that he was sacrificing, but they were both immersed in their own emotions, and neither could see or respond to the other's true needs. They were both acting in the way they wanted to be loved. They love each other, are in a relationship that has always been misaligned, and are performing their own one-man show.

The two have been unable to communicate effectively. Mai Lin cannot speak well, and Li Xingliang cannot listen well. Mai Lin lacks love, so she has become an emotional black hole, and Li Xingliang lacks fair treatment, so he is unwilling to sacrifice dignity and right and wrong to comfort the other party.

They don’t see each other, but they claim to love each other. How ridiculous is this?

What they love are abstract people, imaginary people. Their love follows a template, imitating others, and their love ends in nothing.

There is no spiritual love, they are just a kind of love connected by mutual need.

When Li Xingliang was a "baby", he needed a "mother", his whole-hearted care, happiness and high-energy supplements. He thought Mai Lin was, but it took more than ten years to realize that this was not the case.

Li Xingliang lacks social interaction and spends a long time alone. He is often fooled by Mai Lin. All he receives is brainwashing from the other party's so-called good husband standards. Coupled with his super insensitive power, Living on an isolated island, he has always thought that he was innocent. The world of doors is the real world.

When Li Xingliang came to "Goodbye Lover", he truly "opened his eyes to see the world", and the real needs that had been suppressed in his heart began to revive, and once he awakened, he could no longer pretend to be asleep.

However, if a good person is a little unsatisfactory, he will immediately become a bad person who is "accused by thousands of people". As soon as Mai Lin's sympathy vote was pulled, Li Xingliang was completely isolated and excluded.

Crying children are given candy. Mai Lin always occupies the moral high ground. Everyone is brainwashed by her to stand on her side. Li Xingliang becomes the target of public criticism. He is finally driven crazy and has self-doubt and begins to feel that he is sick. .

As an adult, it was difficult for Li Xingliang to reason logically with the giant baby Mai Lin. He could only lower himself infinitely, stop telling the truth, and use rhetoric to appease his emotions instead of solving the real problem.

Li Xingliang was so angry that he was really harming others and himself by being cowardly, worsening the relationship between husband and wife, and affecting the life of his children at the most.

The fifth issue of "Goodbye Lover 4" proves that the relationship between husband and wife can last for so many years because one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer. If there is a problem, both parties are to blame. They have to work together to find a new balance. Only then can the iron tree blossom.

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