Following the "Smoked Chicken Incident", "Goodbye Lover 4" triggered another "Perfect Friends Incident". The program team is really good at it, giving propositions to the guests every minute. In the latest issue of "Goodbye Lover 4", everyone plays a game after eating.

Following the "Smoked Chicken Incident", "Goodbye Lover 4" triggered the "Perfect Friends Incident".

The program team is really good at it, giving out propositions to the guests every minute.

In the latest issue of "Goodbye Lover 4", everyone plays a game after eating. One of the questions is:

Who among the six people best meets the criteria for a perfect partner?

Yang Zi and Liu Jishou both pointed at their wives. Only Li Xingliang hesitated slightly when pointing, but he finally chose to point at Yang Zi. Mai Lin was not chosen at first. Ge Xi felt sorry for her and pointed at Mai Lin. Mai Lin chose Huang Shengyi , . She thought what Li Xingliang really meant was Huang Shengyi .

Mai Lin was more embarrassed at this stage because Li Xingliang did not choose her. In her opinion, since she did not meet the ideal partner, it meant that all her past efforts had been negated.

Women and men are actually different when facing this problem. Men may not care too much about whomever a woman points to. But if a man points to other opposite-sex partners besides his wife, it will make his wife very upset. Embarrassed by it. Although is a game, it can also reflect some minor problems, and the "subliminal reaction" at the moment is the most real.

Li Xingliang, deep down in his heart, he should be very dissatisfied with Mai Lin, but he has been suppressing himself. After reaching a certain level, in a completely relaxed environment, where everyone plays games together, he will most likely forget about himself, no longer hide it, but want to express his true inner thoughts.

Everyone thought that Li Xingliang was referring to Shengyi.

Until Li Xingliang said in front of Mai Lin, "Ge Xi, I want to talk to you for a few words."

At this point, I can't understand him. It doesn't feel good to drag Ge Xi out for a private chat in front of his wife.

He explained to Ge Xi: "I didn't understand the point. Everyone was referring to their partners. I was really devoted to playing this game. My first reaction was that I was not referring to Shengyi. I was referring to Shengyi. It's you. I'm not talking about how suitable you are. One of them, I saw what you did to Liu Shuang, which I envy."

I have shared with Li Xingliang that Ge Xi will take the initiative to do something for him, a small birthday surprise. Deep down, Li Xingliang also hopes that his partner can take the initiative to do something for him and respond to him, so that he can feel that he is loved. Perhaps the way he and Mai Lin get along has always been that the two people have no spiritual resonance, and Li Xingliang is very lonely emotionally.

He also said the same thing to Liu Shuang, "It's because your wife gives you the things you like every birthday. She will observe what you like and research to see what you are interested in. Then I I really envy this."

Why are you envious?

Because for a long time, from the first day they met and got along, what he liked, Mai Lin didn't like.

He likes music, but Mai Lin doesn’t like him singing;

He wants Mai Lin to accompany him to do music-related things, but Mai Lin doesn’t want this.

Mai Lin was unwilling to enter his spiritual world, and she was unwilling to observe his preferences and do things that interested him. On the contrary, he had been thinking of ways to please Mai Lin, giving her surprises and gifts. If you don't do it to your heart, you'll get tired over time.

Li Xingliang didn’t want to coax Mai Lin anymore. Everyone thought he should coax Mai Lin, but he felt aggrieved too. Wasn’t his need a need?

No one really cared about his needs for a long time.

He said to himself: "I really released myself, and then it became this situation. I felt her emotion, but I am in a state of resistance now. Do I not love her? Do I have it?" Sick, is she in this condition? I've seen this too much and don't want to coax her anymore. It's obvious that I made her unhappy, but I can't find the emotion to coax her. I feel like I need a psychiatrist now."

At this time, Li Xingliang is still quite distressed. .

When Li Xingliang told Liu Jishou about his psychological state, he said, Do I love her? I want to spend the rest of my life with her. Can I love her but not be dissatisfied with her at the same time?

is actually completely fine.

No matter how much we love someone, we will still be dissatisfied with our partner. This is a very normal thing.

It was precisely because he was dissatisfied with his partner and had problems that needed to be solved that he came to think of participating in a divorce variety show.

Li Xingliang’s mind is still very clear. Maybe in the past relationship between him and Mai Lin, Mai Lin was “absolutely correct”, while he was “absolutely obedient”. Once he disobeys, it means he does not love, and once the gift is not delivered to his heart, Also don’t love. Anyone who stays in such an intimate relationship for a long time will collapse. You let me care about you, you let me consider you and guess you, but why can't you treat me the same way?

You don’t even want to do the things I’m interested in. Do you mean you don’t love me?

Because of this, I can completely understand Li Xingliang’s dissatisfaction with Mai Lin.

Mai Lin indeed sacrificed a lot for him in their family, and Li Xingliang also gave positive affirmations. But on the other hand, Mai Lin's way of love made him suffocated. The so-called love is control, and there is a little resistance. It becomes that you don't love, and you can only keep suppressing your emotions, and you can only compromise and coax.

As for Li Xingliang, he himself is also very aggrieved.

Love in an intimate relationship must be two-way. It does not mean that just because you are a girl, you can make various demands as a matter of course. Your partner may also have demands, and he also needs you to take care of him. , only love that comes and goes can last longer.

must not be one-way.

We will be dissatisfied with our partners, there must be dissatisfaction, because no one is perfect.

It’s normal to be dissatisfied. Don’t suppress your emotions deliberately. You can also express them and see if the two people are willing to reconcile. If you are unwilling to reconcile and you really can't bear it anymore, it's okay to separate.

The love that gives in is ultimately tormenting oneself.

Really, there is no need to make yourself so wronged.

Only by truly daring to face your own inner needs and facing up to the problems in your marriage can you truly solve the problem. Otherwise, it will always be a minefield that you dare not touch, and then you will have to endure it for the rest of your life. That is the real frustration.

Li Xingliang’s private chat with Ge Xi still needs to be discussed whether it is really appropriate, but I quite appreciate his awakening in this issue.

He should also let Mai Lin see his emotions.

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Today’s topic: Li Xingliang pointed to Ge Xi, can you accept this?

Author: yibao, original emotional author, millionaire emotional blogger, marriage and family counselor, writes warm emotional things in this world through personal practice.