Some people say that after watching 62-year-old Liu Xuehua's solitary life, we realize how miserable it is to spend her old age without children.
She had to turn on the TV 24 hours a day for fear that she would die alone at home and no one would find her. Some even said that Liu Xuehua’s eyes were filled with misery.
But is it really because of Dink?
Before, the interview documentary "Under the Roof" was broadcast, and Liu Xuehua's later life was truly exposed to the camera.
In her early years, her husband Deng Yukun accidentally fell from a building and died. She lived alone for decades. With her pets as companions, she claimed that she had long been out of touch with society.
Apart from work, she is not social and often stays at home, watching TV, taking care of puppies, and occasionally making video calls with her sister. However, because her sister also has a family, she cannot stay with her for too long.
In order to make her family popular, she turns on the TV 24 hours a day and doesn't dare to turn it off even when sleeping. She feels that if the TV is turned off, the house will be too quiet.
At a time when smart phones are very popular, she still uses a flip phone that has been eliminated long ago. She has to find the mottled notepad first to make a call. She knows nothing about other functions of the phone, let alone ordering takeout with the phone. The dish is ready.
Most of her daily necessities were sent by her brother who settled in Canada.
As she got older, her health was not as good as before, which also made her very afraid of dying at home without anyone caring about her, so she told her nanny and driver to go upstairs to check on her from time to time.
When asked what her biggest regret was, she blurted out, of course, being childless.
In fact, Liu Xuehua did not take the initiative to DINK, but she experienced a painful love before meeting Deng Yukun.
At that time, she thought she had met her husband Liu Dekai, but unexpectedly he already had a family. Later, although Liu Dekai divorced his original wife, he still refused to propose to Liu Xuehua.
Until Liu Xuehua got pregnant unexpectedly, he went abroad for work reasons, and then directly married a blond, blue-eyed foreign wife. This made Liu Xuehua angrily have an accidental miscarriage. Because the child was too old, the uterus could only be removed to save her life. She was lost forever. A chance to be a mother. After the show
was broadcast, many people's understanding of Liu Xuehua was refreshed. At the same time, there was a wave of enthusiasm in the comment area.
Many netizens said that rich people like Liu Xuehua and DINK would be so miserable in their later years, let alone ordinary people, how would they live in their later years if they have no money and no children.
But does Liu Xuehua’s misery really stem from her childlessness?
She couldn't keep up with the times and lived in the past. She didn't dare to try new things and lived like a frog in the well.
Her side does not represent the later life of all single women.
Zhang Ying, a 60-year-old aunt who has never been married and has no children, chose to sell her home in Shanghai, buy a RV, and start a self-driving trip across China.
She worked as a teacher for most of her life, but did not choose to get married when she reached the marriageable age. When she got older, she may have been tired of the day-to-day life. After retirement, she decided to "live the life she wanted." .
In 2015, she came up with the idea of driving a RV for a self-driving trip. After retirement, she faced the incomprehensible eyes of people around her and studied for a driver's license at an advanced age.
After that, she bought an RV, remodeled it, allocated the areas reasonably, and made it her home on the road.
Along the way, many people would ask her whether she regretted not getting married or having children.
Her answer is that there are definitely regrets, but no regrets. This is the price of freedom. If you give up freedom and go to a nursing home, depending on other people's faces, it is better to just crawl into a coffin and die.
On the road, she keeps learning new things, learning to shoot short videos, and making friends with young people.
Her life has never been bound by so-called rules, so even though she was single in her later years, she still lived a wonderful life that we all hope for.
Therefore, the beauty of life is never based on getting married and having children, but on "feeling, contacting, trying, and experiencing." I choose, I commit.
